Every woman is different. What worked for someone else might not work for me. And honestly, a lot of what people think women enjoy is based on porn, which is…😅 not exactly known for realism or mutual pleasure. Just taking a moment to ask what I actually enjoy shows you care about making it a shared experience, not a performance. 😊
As a bi amab nb I wish they would ask “should we slow down a bit and enjoy ourselves?” I like intimacy to last a while and I hate the attitude of “sex is a race and whoever cums first is the winner” attitude that men have a lot of the time. Let’s enjoy ourselves make out touch each other in places that aren’t our genitals. Men often act like their cum is a demon that need to get out as soon as possible. Orgasms feel better when they’re built up over many cycles of tension and relief. Let’s have fun, together. Sex isn’t all about one person’s pleasure.
What I’m talking about is definitely more of a problem with straight men, but bi men and even completely gay men still have this problem.
Do you tend to get more emotionally attached after intimacy? And if her answer is yes and you have no intention of sticking around just duck out then for the love of god!!!!!!
First time I had sex with the girl who is now my wife we had a moment. As I was just entering her, and based upon my past experience I said “let me know if I hurt you.” In a surprised voice she said “you’re so gentle.” Looking back over 50 years I think this moment was important for both of us.
Everything. When was your last time? Do you like it slow, hard & fast? How about….? And do you like….? Have you been tested recently? Do you mind…? What gets you off, oral, pvi or other?Allergic to latex? How was your day? Hungry?
Crazy that ‘Do you like this?’ or ‘How do you want it?’ isn’t standard. Takes two seconds to ask, makes the sex ten times better, and avoids all the awkward guessing
“ How many hours do we have?” Would be sexy. “Is there anything you want to me to know?” would make me feel safe. Asking for consent is both “ I need you to tell me you want it.” They all kind of put the power in her hands.
I always ask some variation of, “what’s the best way to get you across the finish line?” and listen intently to her reply. If you ask them, they will tell you. Communicate!
Consulted an expert and owner-operator of lady parts:
How was your day? Tell me about it.
She said getting her day out of her head would let her clear her mind and focus on the moment. Like a letting it all out of her mind – a mental fart.
If a guy asked her that, and paid genuine attention, it primed her, and it wouldn’t take much to get her in the mood, and it was like turning on a spigot.
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What we want and like.
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Every woman is different. What worked for someone else might not work for me. And honestly, a lot of what people think women enjoy is based on porn, which is…😅 not exactly known for realism or mutual pleasure. Just taking a moment to ask what I actually enjoy shows you care about making it a shared experience, not a performance. 😊
As a bi amab nb I wish they would ask “should we slow down a bit and enjoy ourselves?” I like intimacy to last a while and I hate the attitude of “sex is a race and whoever cums first is the winner” attitude that men have a lot of the time. Let’s enjoy ourselves make out touch each other in places that aren’t our genitals. Men often act like their cum is a demon that need to get out as soon as possible. Orgasms feel better when they’re built up over many cycles of tension and relief. Let’s have fun, together. Sex isn’t all about one person’s pleasure.
What I’m talking about is definitely more of a problem with straight men, but bi men and even completely gay men still have this problem.
Wanna get some ice cream? (im asexual)
Do you tend to get more emotionally attached after intimacy? And if her answer is yes and you have no intention of sticking around just duck out then for the love of god!!!!!!
Considering my ex boyfriend was an inexperienced as a 42 year old man. I should have asked him.
STD testing
How can I satisfy you
I’m one of the good guys that ask if she would like an egg in these trying times
Things should be discussed prior to it in most cases.
are you comfortable? how do you want it to be? just tell me, communicate openly
What’s out of bounds?
my age
Kinks and fetishes
So it won’t be awkward
Limits and boundaries.
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First time I had sex with the girl who is now my wife we had a moment. As I was just entering her, and based upon my past experience I said “let me know if I hurt you.” In a surprised voice she said “you’re so gentle.” Looking back over 50 years I think this moment was important for both of us.
Consent.
Are you gay?
If I liked men.
Asking for consent would be nice.
Fun fact: Giving you a blow-job is not the same as giving you permission to finger me. Please just ask before shoving ’em in there.
Everything. When was your last time? Do you like it slow, hard & fast? How about….? And do you like….? Have you been tested recently? Do you mind…? What gets you off, oral, pvi or other?Allergic to latex? How was your day? Hungry?
Do you want to go slow?
Crazy that ‘Do you like this?’ or ‘How do you want it?’ isn’t standard. Takes two seconds to ask, makes the sex ten times better, and avoids all the awkward guessing
My name.
Let me know if you feel any discomfort & pain, and don’t hesitate to communicate, just tell me anything you feel good or bad…
I’m pretty sure they want us to ask “shall we shag now, or shag later?”
Atleast he should ask my kinks and how i would like to do it.
I would ask her if it’s creepy to use the term being intimate. I’ve only heard this term used by data from tng.
What’s your favorite Stardew Valley farm map?
“ How many hours do we have?” Would be sexy. “Is there anything you want to me to know?” would make me feel safe. Asking for consent is both “ I need you to tell me you want it.” They all kind of put the power in her hands.
Asexuality spectrum
I always ask some variation of, “what’s the best way to get you across the finish line?” and listen intently to her reply. If you ask them, they will tell you. Communicate!
Do you have a structured settlement and need cash now? Works every time.
Aren’t all these answers very much common sense…?
Consulted an expert and owner-operator of lady parts:
How was your day? Tell me about it.
She said getting her day out of her head would let her clear her mind and focus on the moment. Like a letting it all out of her mind – a mental fart.
If a guy asked her that, and paid genuine attention, it primed her, and it wouldn’t take much to get her in the mood, and it was like turning on a spigot.
Me: “What if the house was also clean?
Her: “Guy better be able to swim.”
Intimacy without feelings is shit. And not really intimacy.
you gay bro?
NO, I’M NOT! PLEASE DON’T GET INTIMATE WITH ME!
About how my day was at least😒
How do you like your eggs? Fried or fertilized?