Just the way he pronounced ‘kid’ and the context in which he said it. ‘Hey, kid’. ‘Proud of you, kid’. Because of everything it came to mean to me I feel so happy whenever I say those simple phrases to my kids.
My late father while we were driving pointed out a newer house with a new corvette out front and he asked me who is better that man who has all that stuff but is in debt or a hobo who owns nothing but owes nothing. I said the man with the house and car, dad said that he had so much debt it is all being auctioned off, if you are in debt your worth is less than zero, the hobo is at zero thus better in many ways. Benjamin Franklin wrote “contentment makes a poor man rich, discontentment makes a rich man poor” be content with what you have, do not get things to impress others, you can waste a fortune chasing bigger, better things like that man.
It’s a little vague, but my dad taught me work ethic. And it’s served me well.
Doesn’t matter if it’s a shit job, I accepted the position. So I’m going to give it my all no matter what. Yes, dirtbags will try to take advantage of someone who has a dedicated work ethic. But that’s when you leave and find someone who won’t treat you like cattle. Believe me, I’ve been there.
He was also just a good man and I try to live up to that. Especially now that he is gone. I miss him every day and he is my guiding light more than he’ll ever know. Best man I ever knew and I doubt that will ever change unless I meet Jesus Himself. I hope I honor his memory with my actions and how I treat others.
With kids you only have the first 10-12 years to impart anything onto them. After that, you do your best to keep them alive and out of jail. When they are ready to learn again, they’ll ask.
“Sometimes a man has to stand up.” Basically a man of honor has to do the right thing even if it’s difficult. I was 13 when he died. I treasure that we had this discussion.
It’s ok to drink alcohol in a social setting. But don’t drink to the point where you don’t know what is going on or can’t stand up for yourself in a situation.
He asked me a set of questions, when I was to start my hostel life, I felt awkward at that time. But after my marriage he explained to me the logic and reasons.
The teachings of my parents, have made me stand tall and respect the people around. I love my mom and my dad.
I loved my dad, but he had a turbulent relationship with my mom and was in and out of my life. Mostly out of it.
When I was 12, we all reunited “forever”, but he got sick and passed away in our living room weeks later in 2001 or 2002.
I found out last year that my mom and him never divorced, but broke up when I was 5, and they kept all their biggest fighting secret from me to protect us from the harsh truths.
I wasn’t very grateful, since I grew up thinking and waiting for things that weren’t even true in the first place. Much less would ever happen.
Now that I set the scene I’ll answer the question.
Firstly, when I was very young, drifting in and out of sleep. My dad would brush my hair and whisper “daddy loves you” before I finally passed out.
This is something I do to my kids all the time, to this very day.
Uncle status, but my dad always says “if you’re gonna hoot with the owls you have to soar with the eagles”
Basically a classy way of saying “if you go out and get wrecked you still have to show up to your obligations.”
I’ve lived by it for years. I think he always intended me to learn a lesson by it? I haven’t necessarily done that… lol I’m typing this on the tail end of an acid trip and about to shower for work at my 4am clock in.
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Dont spend on useless shit
Don’t cheat on your wife
Then he cheated on his wife
Soooo the one to pass on is “do as I say and not as I do”
Getting in debt is like giving your money away
Life is so much simpler than we think it is
Work harder than what they pay u for
You’re going to fuck up and that’s ok. Learn from the fuck ups so it doesn’t happen again.
“When you die, make sure that that’s the last thing left in your list left to do.”
He told that to his younger brother.
I learned about that at his funeral.
I’ll never forget it.
The man takes a drink, the drink takes a drink, the drink takes the man. burrrrr I didn’t realize how true this was …even as it was coming true.
No amount of money ever bought a second of time
Keep a clean pair of underwear in your car. You never know when you’ll need it
Don’t be scared to ask for help. It isn’t always easy to do. But be prepared to explain why you need it. However, sometimes the answer is no.
Family will always be there for you. Family over everything
Nothing.
Dry for groin when you get out of the shower. Guys in Vietnam got crotch rot
I’m genuinely struggling to find anything positive. Deepest wound of my life by far, and he passed 23 years ago (I’m 53).
(Machist, sexist, alcoholic, abusive, cheater, thief, narcissistic, machiavellian, clinically depressed, took his own life.)
Despite all this, I loved my dad, but would have never trusted him one second with my two daughters.
Just the way he pronounced ‘kid’ and the context in which he said it. ‘Hey, kid’. ‘Proud of you, kid’. Because of everything it came to mean to me I feel so happy whenever I say those simple phrases to my kids.
My late father while we were driving pointed out a newer house with a new corvette out front and he asked me who is better that man who has all that stuff but is in debt or a hobo who owns nothing but owes nothing. I said the man with the house and car, dad said that he had so much debt it is all being auctioned off, if you are in debt your worth is less than zero, the hobo is at zero thus better in many ways. Benjamin Franklin wrote “contentment makes a poor man rich, discontentment makes a rich man poor” be content with what you have, do not get things to impress others, you can waste a fortune chasing bigger, better things like that man.
You’ll be waiting on a woman for your whole life. Get used to it now.
If you’re doing something nice only because you expect to be thanked, you’re doing it for the wrong reasons.
(I’m a daughter of a great dad. And he’s the grand dude of my special needs kid. So he’s pretty much awesome.)
My dad’s greatest hits:
Never waste a trip up or down stairs.
It’s only money. You can always make more money. You can’t make more time.
Nothing my father said to me will be passed to my kids when I have them. He was an evil POS and I’m glad he died the way he did – in pain.
Just try your best.
Never said anything because he was never in my life lol
Already have: turn off the damn light!
Guns hate stupid people, and will try to kill them.
One chip means three (he’s an economist)
It’s a little vague, but my dad taught me work ethic. And it’s served me well.
Doesn’t matter if it’s a shit job, I accepted the position. So I’m going to give it my all no matter what. Yes, dirtbags will try to take advantage of someone who has a dedicated work ethic. But that’s when you leave and find someone who won’t treat you like cattle. Believe me, I’ve been there.
He was also just a good man and I try to live up to that. Especially now that he is gone. I miss him every day and he is my guiding light more than he’ll ever know. Best man I ever knew and I doubt that will ever change unless I meet Jesus Himself. I hope I honor his memory with my actions and how I treat others.
“Keep it pushing” or “stick to the plan”
From my father, from his father:
With kids you only have the first 10-12 years to impart anything onto them. After that, you do your best to keep them alive and out of jail. When they are ready to learn again, they’ll ask.
life’s not fair
Never be the loud one in the room always listen.
“I’ll be back tomorrow”🤣. Fatherless children who grew to FATHER their children
“Tell your mom not to claim my military pension, I’ve got a new wife and family now and I want them to have it.”
My dad has no wisdom for me.
If ya don’t have cash ya don’t need it
“Sometimes a man has to stand up.” Basically a man of honor has to do the right thing even if it’s difficult. I was 13 when he died. I treasure that we had this discussion.
It’s ok to drink alcohol in a social setting. But don’t drink to the point where you don’t know what is going on or can’t stand up for yourself in a situation.
Don’t believe everything you hear or read. Do your own unbiased research.
Something that is more true now than it ever has been.
Nothing. Fuck that guy.
He asked me a set of questions, when I was to start my hostel life, I felt awkward at that time. But after my marriage he explained to me the logic and reasons.
The teachings of my parents, have made me stand tall and respect the people around. I love my mom and my dad.
I loved my dad, but he had a turbulent relationship with my mom and was in and out of my life. Mostly out of it.
When I was 12, we all reunited “forever”, but he got sick and passed away in our living room weeks later in 2001 or 2002.
I found out last year that my mom and him never divorced, but broke up when I was 5, and they kept all their biggest fighting secret from me to protect us from the harsh truths.
I wasn’t very grateful, since I grew up thinking and waiting for things that weren’t even true in the first place. Much less would ever happen.
Now that I set the scene I’ll answer the question.
Firstly, when I was very young, drifting in and out of sleep. My dad would brush my hair and whisper “daddy loves you” before I finally passed out.
This is something I do to my kids all the time, to this very day.
Meeting everyday makes you lose your importance.
If you say you’re going to do something, do it.
Always look good wherever you go
Uncle status, but my dad always says “if you’re gonna hoot with the owls you have to soar with the eagles”
Basically a classy way of saying “if you go out and get wrecked you still have to show up to your obligations.”
I’ve lived by it for years. I think he always intended me to learn a lesson by it? I haven’t necessarily done that… lol I’m typing this on the tail end of an acid trip and about to shower for work at my 4am clock in.
Sunrise is always a privilege though.
Dont have kids but my old man once said
“Life isnt a destination, its a journey,”
“Don’t work if you’re not getting paid and don’t work without a written contract. Words mean nothing if you don’t put it into writing.”
He was a contractor who knows a lot of clients can be exceptionally scummy, and from his experience, the worst are the ones who can actually pay.
Find something you like doing, something that’s useful, and then figure out how to get paid well for it.
-The important ones :
Enough brooding, don’t focus on what you’ve failed but rather on what you’ve accomplished.
Only invest what you don’t need and keep enough aside for unforeseen events.
Don’t worry so much about what people think or say, it doesn’t matter as much as you might think.
Mistakes allow you to improve, what’s important is to get back up.
-Those related to local expressions he uses :
Those who only watch have no right to criticize.
Don’t be embarrassed, assert yourself. It’s hunchbacks who are embarrassed. (double meaning)
For the one with another taste, a shit is a strawberry.
Reality is harsh. No one is coming to wipe your ass. Take accountability and admit when you are in the wrong