As a woman I know there’s a ton of stuff I see men do on dating sites that immediately gives me the ick, so I’m curious as to what we do that makes men cringe.
What’s something you’ve seen women do on dating sites that immediately makes you cringe?
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“ i know my worth “
” I’m a [insert Zodiac sign here]. How about you? “
Dude! Back when I was dating (2007) we would call them dating sites, me thinks the dating folks calls it “dating apps” now…
So, as you can get I’m not dating, but from the people around me that date, I think the checklist that she has, while mentioning that she will do just fuck all!
r/Nicegirls has some wonderful highlights.
If you’re in your 30s and every picture is of you drinking then I’m out.
“I only answer on IG”. OnlyFan link. I just straight up delete the apps
When they say they only want men who are over six feet or make more than six figures
The “I’ve had my fun with other people, now YOU have to step up for my mistakes and grow their kid” type.
A list of demands for a partner (Often with zero info on themselves).
Nothing but travel / party images. Seems exhausting.
Nothing but poor, grainy, badly lit images and maybe some group images. Who are you? I dont know.
A list of traits that she does not want in a man
Also talking about how she wants a provider, alpha, leader, “traditional man”, etc
And anything about [divine] masculine/feminine energy. Where tf did this bs come from
Mother. Fucking. Passenger princesses.
I think I got brainwashed Manchurian Candidate style, because something about that term drives me fucking berserk.
“If you don’t love and respect your mother it’s a red flag”
Sorry mine was abusive in every possible way that she never deserved respect or love.
The ones who post long lists of expectations or intolerances, while completely omitting any hint of what they like or are prepared to contribute, as though they completely believe that for a woman, just existing is enough.
That stupid thing in photos where they stick their lips out. The….duck face? Or whatever it is?
Never been on a dating site!
“I’m a strong independent woman” soooo you’re an adult?!?
Put their Instagram, makes you look like an attention whore
Listing of “requirements”, acting like you are simply there to earn their attention, but my biggest pet peeve that is way too common is inability to have any conversation.
Hello! I saw in your profile you’re into board games, that’s pretty cool. What do you like to play?
Monopoly
Oh nice. I haven’t played that in a long time. Do you have a group of friends you play with regularly? I love game nights with the homies.
No
Ah gotcha. I also saw you’re into jazz music. Do you play any instruments?
No
Yeah, I don’t either..wish I could play guitar though. I really like your outfit in the one photo with your friends. Looks like a fun group of people!
Yeah.
And repeat until I stop trying.
I want someone who’s:
“mildly obsessed with me”
I have a nice truck but normally I’ll let them drive if I trust them because I suck at driving really
should I let them realize that when I first meet them from the dating site
So they don’t think I’m a passenger princess ?
Do you think that’s a quality somebody’s gonna appreciate ??
The bad driving?!
ROFL
I do it for their own safety and because I don’t like it when they say something, I’ve never had a wreck
The idea that I’m somehow broken because I’m a man, and I need a woman to fix me to be suitable for society. This is usually followed by her trying to critique everything I do because it doesn’t meet her personal expectations, which are actually the universal code on etiquette. They typically also have the idea that I need this treatment, so I need to endure whatever poor and inconsiderate behavior she puts forth because it’s for my own good.
Using the term the ick as an adult is one of them.
Roflmao. Always he says.
When women mention height and dick size. Use provocative pictures while claiming to want something serious (which tells me she has very little intelligence). Mentioning zodiac signs. Using a shit ton of makeup and/or seems high maintenance appearance wise (which tells me she’s a walking headache with very little confidence and poor self/body image, which often also sadly very easily shows in poor integrity and emotional intelligence towards other people).
“Entertain me!”
It makes me cringe when liberal/leftist women on dating apps seem so angry and close minded. They absolutely refuse to see any other side but their own, and want their partner to feel exactly the same way. Why would anyone want an echo chamber relationship? I also don’t like when women use therapy speak in their profiles. Words like “emotional intelligence” and etc frustrate and confuse me because they are such vague topics that it makes me feel like a lot of women are looking for someone that has the correct emotions and feelings on everything. I don’t think a lot of guys want a woman like that, we just want to be ourselves. I for one could never see myself changing just for a girl to like me.
Unoriginal profiles. You wouldn’t believe how similar most of the profiles are. The phrase “I have x amount of kids and they are my world 🌍 “ must be in over 50%.
“I’m looking for a man who will give me money” says it all there
First round on me if:
“I would never say this”
Demanding a shopping cart as if they were Penélope Cruz when they actually look more like Patty or Selma from the Simpsons.
Physical characteristic limitations, especially height.
Imagine a guy put “no woman over 5’4”” but women will put “no man under 6’4”” and make it a girl power thing.
outdoor scenery photos, where she jumps in the air or doing some yoga pose… for me it’s the same as the “Live Love Laugh” poster
Anything that indicates they are far end feminists or misandrists (usually the same people). I’m just immediately out the door and will not interact with that.
Anything that shows instability or dysfunction in life.
For long term relationships anything that shows they can’t sustain a long term relationship. Which is usually a pattern of failed relationships being ended by her or for the same reasons all of the time.
“I want a traditional man” while having 3 kids
“If we can’t roll blunts together then we can’t be together”
“I deserve to be spoiled”
“Me buy the first drink? Never”
“I love me some (insert race here) men”
“I want someone that has a good relationship with jesus” and then they are poly….
Photos of women letting their dog lick their mouth and face. It’s not cute
All pictures from the neck up. What do you look like? And then refuse to send a full body picture. Major red flag.
Showing a lot of cleavage (bikini or other low cut top) and the camera is held overhead and pointed straight down the boobs. Making absolutely certain that I didn’t miss the fact that she has boobs.
There was one woman who was completely naked. Bound with thick ropes and gagged with her front torso on the ground. Her legs, arms, and head were all pulled up and in forcing an arch to her back. Sorta like a rocking horse.
“I’m a foodie”
“Yapper”
“Empath”
“Humble”
To list a few
Hi I really like you can you send me money please it’s usually with in the frist 3 minutes I gave up I will keep my money
Post themselves as “currently pregnant”
Nothing says “I need a rescue” on a dating app more than that.
Just stating demands. Food and travel as hobbies (yeah, very niche hobbies huh? nobody else eats or travels). No bio, just pictures.
Honestly, I really don’t care. Only important how they treat me. If they take hours to respond, that shows they’re not very interested so I just don’t bother with her either.
Ways to win me over – shower me with gifts
Pic filters – especially the animal ones; dog/cat ears etc
Sticking their tongue out in pics
Wanting a partner like them; same hobbies, lifestyle, etc but at the same time wanting to be independent.
‘I’ll fall for you if you can make me laugh.’ ‘Cute fact I love: Otters sleep while holding hands.’ One-word responses, no initiation from their part or any effort to continue the conversation. It’s also the repeated answers to prompts that tire me out and make me feel icky.
Edit: Also lack of information on profile, basically empty profiles with no bio, zero texts, just 2-3 photos. I’m aware that women get’s lot of attention and has choices, but can do some effort on the profile. What they like, or interests are for the sake of conversations, and dry responses isn’t helping. I unmatch, avoid empty profiles.
Putting their instagram in their bio, just makes me think they are a bot because that’s literally what the bots do and if they aren’t a bot then are they begging for follows instead of looking to date? It’s just weird
Also the long list of demand bios, or ones where they are like “message first if ur serious”. You just know they are an insufferable person
Using the phrase “the ick”.
Picture of a pretty girl in a dirty room.
Filtered photos, photos with other guys, only high life photos (no candid every day life local photos), photos where they have sunglasses on in every one, no recent photos, thirst trap photos.
Saying I am independent or I don’t need a man.
Saying you are looking for an adventure and ready to jump to traveling.
When women’s bio is about things mainly that’s interesting to them. Like listing accomplishments and career growth.
Those ridiculous eyebrows, too much lip filler
Profile is full of “of the moment” internet buzzwords/phrases.
be intentional…I truly hate this one. My intentions could be devious. Finish the damn sentence
anything mentioning astrology sign
I’m a “sapiosexual.” Well good for you. wtf wants to be attracted to someone who’s stupid?
making traveling a personality trait
“please be 6ft or taller”…she’s 4’11”
Their whole bio being about why they don’t feel like writing a bio…
“Done with all the games, in my soft girl era”
Also them: Has kids
And idk if this is just in my area but I recently moved and a surprising amount of women have either AI generated photos or AI enhanced images in some way.
Honestly, women with heaps of travel/social pics. I feel like they are out of my league and I would just bore them lol
I often see women trying to obscure themselves by posting group or party photos, photos with the face (artistically) out of focus, in deep shadow, holding a pet in front of their face, or just AI generated photos. The most cringe are photos of themselves in the arms of another man and holding a child. I guess it’s supposed to suggest “this could be us”, but all I see is a woman who is obviously already taken and I’m not about to step into that.
Not what men hate, but what I hate:
The most outrageous shit was a list of things she wanted a man to be. Point 1 was: don’t be superficial. Point 4 was: be 6 feet tall.
Imitate anything from media. Just make me think of them as replaceable.
Being pregnant
It’s just the long wait times to text back for me, I get that some aren’t interested but I’m doing all the work talking and they give me just enough engagement to think they might be interested. I’d much rather be rejected than led on. On a couple occasions I’d have girls text me asking why I haven’t texted them anything in weeks when I’ve already moved on and took the hint, it makes me think those type of girls are just in it for the attention instead of connection. Idk I’m always up to constructive criticism but tell me if I’m over thinking or not.
“luv nights out wiv the girls” not that I’m against my partner having her own social life and friends but when I read it on a dating app its just no.
“Hobbies: Wine”