I recently broke up with my ex boyfriend of 3 years. It was a pretty serious relationship. There were times where I felt so bad I wanted to break up. But I never did, because, there were also times where I would think to myself how lucky I was to have him, and how he was treating me so nicely. One day, I found out he was cheating on me for monhts, with multiple women. I had no idea, and there wasn’t a single sign. I left him on the spot, and then it started. He started playing the victim, saying he wanted to k*ll himself, proclaiming his “love” to me. I’m just now starting to realize just how manipulative he is. The scary part is, he not only had me convinced, but my whole family and my friends. Everyone loved him, and thought he was an amazing guy. I never thought he was capable of doing this. And that terrifies me. How good he was at hiding his true character. He was extremely supportive of me throughout the hardest part of my life, that by the time he started being manipulative, I had already trusted him and didn’t realize what he was doing.
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I’m proud of you for choosing yourself, it’s not easy
My dad was like that. Very nice in public, when other people were around. Horrible abuser in private.
Men mask frighteningly well until women are ring or baby trapped, which is why it’s extra useless, offensive, and victim blame-y when people say women should just “choose better.” Good for you for leaving.
Unless you’ve been through something like this, you don’t get it. I found out I was married to a complete stranger for 4 years. I almost ended my life and it took 2 years to feel any semblance of normalcy. Now I’m cold towards men and they terrify me. I don’t trust any man. I was completely fooled and blindsided before, I won’t let it happen again.
They’re only convincing to the women they’re targeting. Listen to your friends. They all know immediately that guy is bad news.
Congratulations on living through life with a narcissist and escaping from the trap!
There’s an old Doctor Who episode where a character is running a scam, and when the Doctor points it out his companion objects that he has such an honest face. The Doctor replies that you can’t be a successful crook with a dishonest face, can you?
Abusive people either learn to hide behind a mask or they can’t get into relationships with someone they can abuse.
I could have written this back in 2014!!! I swear!
Very manipulative people are often charismatic and good at masking. They’re charming and intelligent.
It’s so crazy how someone can go about living a double life.
I fell for the “I will kill myself” manipulation for years, so kudos to you for getting out. I know I felt so stupid and embarrassed to have stayed with him so long. It’s not your fault. It wasn’t my fault. I was just too nice, and too easily manipulated I guess.
What’s crazy about the charismatic part is that I lost several friends when I broke up with him. Like, he’s been emotionally and financially abusive and has cheated on me with god knows how many people, and y’all think I’m a bitch for kicking him out?
Be free sister, be free.
There are asshat wolves in sheep’s clothing. He sounds like one of them. Takes awhile to sniff out the true big bad wolves. You deserve better – glad you dumped him.