What’s the best response to you’re ugly?

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So I had this random person drop a “you’re ugly” comment on me (unprovoked, of course—gotta love the internet). It caught me off guard, and I just kind of stared blankly. But later I started thinking… there has to be a better way to handle that. Whether it’s something clever, cutting, funny, or just straight-up zen master level calm, I want to be ready next time.

What’s your go-to response for that kind of insult? Bonus points if it shuts them down and makes you feel good.

Comments

  1. Snidley_Whipslash Avatar

    Oh I already know that, what else you got. Worked for me

  2. Brokenfutures_ Avatar

    We’re all ugly in one way or another, at least mine’s on the outside 

  3. DivinePrincesza Avatar

    “Projection at it’s finest”

  4. ahavemeyer Avatar

    Better than being a jackass

  5. Irrelephant____ Avatar

    Insert SpongeBob gif..I’m ugly and I’m proud! 😁

  6. BeyoncesUnderwire Avatar

    It could be worse… I could be you.

    or: well, i could always change my appearance; however, money can’t buy you more intelligence, a different personality, nor a sense of humor.

    or: well gee, you’re projecting a bit there. chin up hun, mirrors can be avoidable.

  7. kevnmartin Avatar

    Who would say that to someone? Why? I can’t even imagine saying that to another person.

  8. Metalprof Avatar

    “Well, you’re stupid, and at least I can go to a cosmetologist.”

    Long pause.

    “Oh, sorry,. A cosmetologist is someone who helps people with their appearance.”

  9. AgentElman Avatar

    “that’s just like your opinion man”

  10. daisykdenali69 Avatar

    The Grey Rock Method!!!

  11. Historical_Muffin847 Avatar

    A punch. It’s that simple.

  12. JetScootr Avatar

    “I got off lucky. You just got stupid.”

  13. CtForrestEye Avatar

    As Ron White says “I can get plastic surgery but you can’t fix stupid like you”.

  14. Phil_Atelist Avatar

    “What do you mean?” then “Why ever would you say that.” Keep your cool, keep asking questions…

  15. XprtInEndlessStories Avatar

    I might be ugly but I still got you here commenting. What does that make you?

  16. ToastemPopUp Avatar

    I’d probably just say “okay” lol, like what do I care what some random person says/thinks?

  17. umbermoth Avatar

    “I may be ugly, but at least I ain’t got no money.”

  18. mahboilucas Avatar

    “at least only on the outside unlike you”

    People hate when you can make fun of yourself and insult them at the same time

  19. Levant7552 Avatar

    What on earth would be the benefit in continuing the interaction with anybody of that kind of quality? Am I missing something here?

  20. Inevitable_Detail_45 Avatar

    Isn’t not taking the bait the best move? Giving a “clapback” is very very rarely as awesome as people think it is.

  21. CuriousFeatheredSoul Avatar

    Say “and you’re pretty” and next if they say “I know ” reply with “that’s lovely!”

    That’ll throw them off and make them feel guilty for being a rotten ugly person on the inside hah

  22. verovladamir Avatar

    “And what would you like me to do about that?”

  23. AdvancedDirt2116 Avatar

    I just did a blank look and …okay? Like yeah and? 😂 takes the wind out of their sails

  24. ImpotentAnus Avatar

    Throw them off with a simple “thanks”

    It’s what I think I’d do

  25. CyBroOfficial Avatar

    I usually just call out that they’re projecting because 99% of the time, they are

  26. Middle_Process_215 Avatar

    I know what you are, but what am I?

  27. KingKoopaz Avatar

    Ignore them and don’t give their terrible energy power.

  28. Anniesoptera Avatar

    “So?”

    A gal dropped this one in high school, and I’ve never forgotten it (I’m 40 now). She was completely nonchalant about it. It made her seem so fucking cool and confident, and it made the asshat she was talking to look like, well, an asshat. They were speechless. What can you even say back to that? (The gal wasn’t ugly, by the way. Just not supermodel pretty. Which clearly bothered her not at all.)

  29. petrichorb4therain Avatar

    I was walking my dog along a trail that follows the local light rail. A man stepped of the train and walked towards us. I think I was grinning (it was sunny and not too hot… perfect for a walk). Apparently, he didn’t like the look on my face, so he said “You’re ugly.” I just grinned bigger because, wtf, man… you cannot ruin my day that easily.

    Then he said, “Your dog is ugly, too.”

    He was really committed to ruining my vibe, but the audacity just made me laugh so hard.

  30. slimdrum Avatar

    The only thing we have in common

  31. tvfeet Avatar

    “And?” It’s the only reasonable response and it puts them in the spot of needing to justify their comment, which most people don’t want to do. Even if they don’t respond to you it’ll likely get in their head. Even awful people like this tend to at least internally respond, even if they never actually say anything.

  32. Virtual-Site7766 Avatar

    “Look who’s talking”

  33. Better-Nebula-6938 Avatar

    You’re just trying to get a reaction from me because you’re own insecurities. I pity people like you, and I hope 1 day you get over your insecurities, meekness, and lack of self-confidence

  34. No_Skylark Avatar

    It’s like when people tell me I look better with my glasses on because they’re not used to seeing me without them, I say “Really? Cause you look better with my glasses off”.

  35. NoEnvironment5715 Avatar

    My happiness and contentment isn’t measured by my beauty. Go be beauty and empty somewhere else.

  36. dudeness_boy Avatar

    “Not compared to you”

  37. firebabsy Avatar

    My response: OK! It’s your opinion and I respect that but sincerely this kind of things don’t affect me at all because I love myself too much to care of what ppl said 😏❤️🙏🏻

  38. Ordinary-Patient-610 Avatar

    My answer will be thanks

  39. Tasterspoon Avatar

    “…and if I could magically trade places with you right now, I wouldn’t. Let that sink in!”

    Realistically, though, I wouldn’t give the comment the dignity of a response.

  40. GalaxyPowderedCat Avatar

    >unprovoked, of course—gotta love the internet

    Honestly, it’s not worth your energy and effort to even write down a reply because they exactly want a reaction from you like a fight.

    People will say anything to entertain a fight, the best response is none in this case. And don’t be afraid of blocking and seeing they say they have reason, actually, you’ve won mental peace and a free-stress moment which shouldn’t be tradable with proving the contrary.

    The troll probably will laugh their asses and move on to the next person or do something else while you are wounded trying to prove you aren’t ugly. Let’s not give them that privilige because they won’t even remember you after 3 days and you will.

  41. WorthConcern7609 Avatar

    At least i’m not ugly in my heart like you💀

  42. Ms_Central_Perk Avatar

    “Haha why you think I care about your opinion?”

  43. daredaki-sama Avatar

    After taking a look at you I’m feeling a lot more confident.

  44. -Aname- Avatar

    “You seem to care a lot about other people’s appearance. You should look into that, that’s kinda insecure.”

  45. ChoiceReflection965 Avatar

    You said this happened on the internet? Just ignore it, friend. Don’t respond to the comment. That’s a weird thing to say to someone and doesn’t deserve a response.

  46. ThatGirlFromWorkTA Avatar

    “You’re ugly!”

    “So? why do you care?”

  47. LauraZaid11 Avatar

    My mom has a slightly lazy eye, it’s really not noticeable unless you really look straight to her eyes.

    When she was younger she got along really poorly with one of her coworkers, and one time said coworker muttered under her breath “ugly bitch” after a disagreement, so my mom loudly said “I’d rather be ugly than stupid, I can at least hide mine with makeup, just a couple of words out of your mouth and there’s no way for you to hide”.

    I wish I had inherited her quick wit, but alas, I did not.

  48. lizzyote Avatar

    Would you be treating me differently if I were pretty? Does my level of attractiveness somehow affect this conversation? Idk man, that says more about you than it does me.

    Or “If it makes you feel better, I’m not attracted to you either”

  49. BeanOnAJourney Avatar

    No response. Waste of energy.

  50. Bishopm444 Avatar

    your just keep correcting there your till they call you stupid, than your not ugly anymore your just stupid. Hope this helps

  51. Victoria19749 Avatar

    “Okay, 3rd grade”

  52. No_Purple4766 Avatar

    “That’s not what your momma said” is always winner.

  53. pm_me_i_ll_read Avatar

    looks like you are projecting on my appearance what you have inside

  54. wwaxwork Avatar

    Oh hunny I still wouldn’t fuck you if I was beautiful.

  55. Burntoastedbutter Avatar

    “thanks you too”

    “at least I ain’t you”

  56. catsareniceDEATH Avatar

    I saw a post once that has stayed with me for years: “why are you bullying me for being ugly? I don’t understand why YOU’RE mad that I’M ugly?!” 😹

  57. Ashamed_Tutor_478 Avatar

    To an adult:

    “Ooo, yeah…now say that again real slow and sexy-like…”

    To a kid:

    “Fuck off. I’m telling Santa.”

  58. Endorathewitch Avatar

    The Amazon river runs for thousands of miles. At some points it runs through areas of the rain forest that are almost untouched and have been barely explored. Because of the porous limestone in these areas, the river water leaks through the stone and travels deep into the earth, and forms underground pools almost a mile below the surface. Over thousands of years, small blind transparent fish have lived and evolved in these pools. These fish have never seen the sun or surface and have never been seen by the human eye……

    These fish care more about this than I do.

    This is my go to for everything!

  59. Fantastica4077 Avatar

    Respond, “Just like you”.
    You get a real window into how people meant something they said to you when you turn it around.

  60. Morticias-Sister Avatar

    Don’t worry, you’re not my type, either.

  61. Successful-Bit5698 Avatar

    I always just say okay. I don’t hit back. I dont act offended. I just say okay and then don’t reply after that. Usually those same guys were hoping for a rise and come back later on some BS

  62. Nakedandafraid4347 Avatar

    “Okay” And walk away. Best way to show indifference

  63. wonderj99 Avatar

    “That’s not what your dad/mom said last night…”

  64. catsandkittens1308 Avatar

    “I’ve been called worse by better people” is my go-to, flippant way of saying “screw you” in such cases.

  65. ItsLupeVelez Avatar

    “Yes, and?” was always my retort. To every comment of that nature. Like, I’m ugly and… what? Are you going to tell me more about why/how these words needed to be said or is that it? Bc honestly, whatever, imma walk away now.

  66. manaMissile Avatar

    there’s a meme image of Saitama from One Punch Man going “Ok.” and that tends to give me a chuckle to use a reaction

  67. mynameisnotsparta Avatar
    1. At least I can fix my ugly if I want. You can’t fix your ugly soul.

    2. And you smell

    3. Not as ugly as you.

  68. FlowerNinja Avatar

    “Yeah? Well the Jerk Store called and said they’re running out of YOU!” It’s perfect for many situations.

  69. CuriouslyImmense Avatar

    “what would compel you to say such a fuckng rude thing to someone?”

  70. MISKINAK2 Avatar

    “To some, yes. I’m ok with it.” my standard

    Or just “🤷”

  71. BasimIbnIshaq3000 Avatar

    “Well at least my birth certificate isn’t an apology letter to the condom factory like yours is.”

  72. Ill-Payment2007 Avatar

    Aw, bless your heart!

  73. arguix Avatar

    do they know what you look like? or pure text internet?

    anyway, either way, I’d do nothing.

    THEY DO NOT EXIST – make that your attitude

  74. SlayerSyrena Avatar

    Don’t give them the dignity of a response. It’s the worst you can do to someone who is just craving attention.

  75. -HonestMistake Avatar

    Laugh, respond with “okay??” While giving them a weird look and continue to laugh as you walk away.

  76. sohereiamacrazyalien Avatar

    laugh out loud ! they would be gobsmacked and puzzled.

    one time someone wanted to be and ass and called me an ugly 4 eyes!

    I laughed so hard because I found it stupid and lame. he was shocked and kind of looked embarrassed …. and he left!

  77. cleaningmybrushes Avatar

    Haha i am, i actually kind of look like your mom

  78. Whoopsie_Todaysie Avatar

    “Then it’s  working, I can repel stupid like you 😁” 

  79. D1RTY_D Avatar

    I know you are but what am I?

  80. DoTheRightThing1953 Avatar

    “And you think YOUR face is open casket material? “

  81. Sa7aSa7a Avatar

    Just say “okay”. If it’s in person, my response is going to be “okay”. If it’s online, I’m just going to move on. If someone is leaving a response online like that just unprovoked, they’re trying to illicit a response. Don’t feed the trolls.

  82. fretnone Avatar

    I probably would have reflexively said Thanks, you too and left it at that 😂

  83. halfmoonxoxo Avatar

    I have been called ugly or a butter face often in my life. Best response is none.

  84. Here-n_there Avatar

    I wish I had this chat when I was younger. Someone called me ugly when I first moved up north in middle school and I can still picture the entire scene to this day..I’m 42 😩

  85. TimeAcanthisitta2973 Avatar

    I prefer to use outdated terms like “Oh snap! You got me. Drop the mic!”

  86. TarotTots Avatar

    This happened to me once with a friend of a friend. We were outside a club in the smoking area, we started bickering about something, and she said, ” Well, you’re ugly!”
    I started laughing my ass off. She turned red and stomped off.

    Later, she and our mutual friend were talking about it. She said that she felt really stupid after.

  87. GhostCheese Avatar

    “Spoken with all the grace one might expect of a toddler in a shopping cart”

  88. Birbattitude Avatar

    At least I’m not ____ (whatever strikes you about them ie fat short, short and fat, stupid, graceless,

    Or at least I don’t have __(a big nose, little dick, body odor, whatever you think will throw them the most) and keep walking.

  89. MonkeyBro5 Avatar

    “And WHY should I care?????”

  90. burndmymouth Avatar

    Your mom doesn’t think so.

  91. MundaneInternetGuy Avatar

    “Ugly enough for your mom”

    First thing I thought of and I’m sticking to it, and here’s why: 

    1. Low effort insult deserves a low effort response. Not worth thinking about for more than half a second
    2. It implies their mother has a preference for ugly people, so if that person’s mother loves them it means they’re ugly, and at the very least it suggests that their father is ugly and passed on ugly genes
    3. It clearly communicates to that person that you don’t give a fuck about their opinion and/or that you’re secure in your overall self-worth regardless of your appearance. Arguably, the best way to communicate this would be to not respond at all, but I’m of the opinion that a funny low effort response is the best
  92. Ok-Carpenter-9461 Avatar

    “had a rough night, what’s your excuse?”

  93. justpassingthroughhi Avatar

    ” That’s not what your mama/daddy thinks ” it’s cheap but when people are jerks for no reason I have no problem hitting where it hurts

  94. sunsista_ Avatar

    I just say “I know” then watch them get uncomfortable . There’s nothing anyone can say as I’ve heard it all at this point. 

  95. jsmoo68 Avatar

    “Fuck you” or “suck my dick” springs to mind.

  96. DudesworthMannington Avatar

    Just look at them with disgust and say “ew”.

    Turned a girl bright red in embarrassment with that.

  97. lordlovesaworkinman Avatar

    I like just asking “Are you ok?” It immediately puts you in the position of power.

  98. InfiniteEverythang Avatar

    I’m rubber you’re glue…

  99. Alarming-Sort4870 Avatar

    I only answer because I like the question a lot. Here are my suggestions:

    “Thanks for passing the ugly down to the rest of us”

    “Don’t you like your own reflection?”

    “Self-projecting much today, are we?”

    “I was thinking the exact same thing about you!”

    “I still wouldn’t trade my face with yours”

    “I see, I don’t have to roast you back. Nature already took care of that.”

  100. kdmike Avatar

    “Your mom/dad didn’t seem to mind”

  101. shellybean31 Avatar

    You could be like my 8yr old. Her new comeback to everything is, “Like your upper lip.” 🤣🤣🤣

  102. SilverFootsteps Avatar

    ‘Still better than your personality’

  103. Then-Ticket8896 Avatar

    Walk on by…why waste energy on a fool?

  104. shesavillain Avatar

    I know you are but what am I?

    If it’s a kid, when my niece lost her baby teeth and called me ugly, I said at least I have teeth and she started crying lol

    Or my nephew said that too and I said at least I have a dad, he got mad at me cause his bio dad is a dead beat lol

    I’m ugly on the outside and the inside. If they want to go low, i go lower. I’m a limbo champ and idc if you’re a kid or a grown up calling me ugly I’ll hurt your feelings.

  105. DanteQuill Avatar

    Takes one to know one. Or, We can smell our own

  106. SignificantRaccoon28 Avatar

    That’s the best you got? No, I’d stuck with okay, too. I’m fat, so yeah.

  107. MightyMightyMag Avatar

    I like “Right on,” which is just a different way of saying OK.

  108. medusalynn Avatar

    My favorite go to for most insults is one, one of my ex’s used quite frequently. “At least i don’t suck dick for pocket change”

  109. ecasun Avatar

    ‘Your mum’ – very secondary school-ish but as an adult I still say it lol

  110. 624Seeds Avatar

    Ignoring it is better than any of these cringe ass replies could ever be 😭🙏🏻

  111. RedHeadGeekGrl Avatar

    Eh looks fade, you on the other hand are stuck with that horrible personality.

  112. Bramble3713 Avatar

    Just a very sincere question, “are you okay?”
    Meet that ugliness in their spirit with some genuine care and kindness and it usually throws them off… this approach is better for in person.
    For online… ignore ignore ignore!
    There is no way to go up against a “keyboard warrior “

  113. Medium_Listen_9004 Avatar

    At least the best things in life don’t depend on how you look.

  114. j_Tronix Avatar

    Your Mom.

    Gets em errytime

  115. HoodieGalore Avatar

    “Maybe, but at least I’m broke!” Always leaves them perplexed.

  116. Disastrous-Course139 Avatar

    Ive used, “I KNOW RIGHT?!” a couple of times. Or, “finally somebody noticed!!” lol

    Its the enthusiasm that catches the haters off guard.

  117. Ok-Primary2818 Avatar

    Just not say anything. The best way to annoy trolls is to not give them what they want.

  118. FunDivertissement Avatar

    I don’t recall asking for your opinion.

  119. shiny-baby-cheetah Avatar

    ‘Thanks, I work hard at it’

    ‘Thanks, it’s all natural’

    ‘Ugh finally, somebody noticed! Thanks man’

    ‘Woah, really? Cool. Anyway’

    ‘Aw thanks, you too!’