For example girls who will go listen to emo music like Lana deal Rey or whatever stirs their emotions. Bitch i can’t listen to this emotional music anymore unless I’m actually feeling some way. I don’t wanna hear dramatic emotional music !!! It takes my energy away and it’s a waste. I know I used to be different a little. But it reminds me how some older guy told me women like to expand on their feelings and see how much they can feel, and no that’s not a good thing but young women tend to think it is. That’s why we women might go on and on about how we feel love or any other emotion for some guy. When guys in the same situation woild just call it a day and say yeah that person is cool or they suck and they’d just act accordingly. Not sit and expand on their emotions and try to feel more and more. Men seem to focus more on reality. I like that. You guys is cool.
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Women spend more time wondering what men are thinking than men spend actually thinking.
I wish I had made that up but I saw it on Reddit somewhere.
I don’t think blanket statements about men or women are very helpful. Some women are emotional and some men are emotional. Some women are emotional and some men are emotional. It’s complicated. Try not to think about it too much.
I’ve known both men and women who do this. I don’t think it’s a gendered thing.
The biggest difference are social pressures. Women are generally allowed to, and in some cases, celebrated when they express their emotions. So they are far more likely to express when they feel something. And, sometimes, some women express an emotion in an attempt to manipulate other people, but this is an emotionally immature reaction.
Men, on the other hand, are generally VERY strongly discouraged from expressing many emotions (sadness, fear, vulnerability, loneliness to name a few). Even by women, some of whom get “the ick” when their boyfriends/husbands express certain emotions. This causes many men to repress even conscious awareness of said emotions. And in some cases to be very uncomfortable with expressions of emotions.
This has its own massive problems for men, many of whom “deal with” these emotions through workaholism, substance abuse, physical abuse or whatever.
Now, PEOPLE (men and women) have the full range of human emotions. And, it is vital to express the emotion to release it. This may be what you’re referring to. By listening to “emotional music” it may be an attempt to work through a certain feeling to release it.
Some people dwell on certain emotions, such as self-pity, sadness or whatever. This isn’t helpful, but they may be used to it, or received attention from it, or have deeper issues which bring it up more frequently, or whatever.
Neither men nor women are hiveminds. So don’t try to overgeneralize a personal observation to roughly half of the population, either way.
Wow, you’re really emotional about this. You should try to calm down.
JFC, kid… what on Earth have you listened to in the past that makes you think emotions are only a female thing, and that emotional people don’t “focus” on reality?
Because that is some seriously screwed up thinking.
SOME PEOPLE get emotionally overwrought in certain situations. Some people like emo music just because. Emotional response shouldn’t be gender based, it should be humanity based.
Honestly, I’d be far more worried about people that display no emotion. I’m one of those that gets praised for being “quick thinking” and “reactive” in an emergency. It’s not because my emotions are in check – they were beaten out of me as a child by my psycho bitch incubator.
Why do you think women “try to feel more”? Is that what you try to do? Because I don’t think most women spend time TRYING to feel more emotions. They just do. Most (not all) men I know have two emotions: happy or angry. No one can be happy all the time, so when life happens instead of responding in an emotionally appropriate and intelligent way, they tend to respond with anger. Or blow stuff off that should be addressed. Or use someone instead of realizing feelings of the other person could be hurt.