My partner 39f (now ex) was in Vegas on a work trip. I found out she “slept over” in a random guys (51m) hotel room in Vegas. She claims he was just a nice guy and they were hanging out in his room. He invited her up for drinks. Do guys ever assume it’s just a “hangout”? I don’t believe a word she says and for sure they had sex.
What’s the expectation for a man inviting a woman to his hotel room?
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My partner 39f (now ex) was in Vegas on a work trip. I found out she “slept over” in a random guys (51m) hotel room in Vegas. She claims he was just a nice guy and they were hanging out in his room. He invited her up for drinks. Do guys ever assume it’s just a “hangout”? I don’t believe a word she says and for sure they had sex.
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That behavior is not acceptable even without cheating.
Of course they had sex. Do you really need confirmation about such things? Yeeeesh. AND its Vegas…
Is this the reason she’s the ex?
What a dumb lie
Some sound advice my Dad once gave me, “Don’t allow yourself to be in a motel room with a woman who isn’t your mother, sister or wife because you’re gonna fuck.”
It has never failed to be true. Even when my intentions were platonic. A barrel racing friend of my wife’s rode with me to a rodeo. Eight hour trip. We took off early in the afternoon to get there the evening before. She hadn’t booked a room thinking she would find an available one. Nope. All booked. I had a reservation and asked her to bunk with me. “I’ll keep to myself. You know Esmeralda would kill us both.”
She agreed. Had her face down and ass up a couple of hours later. There had never been any attraction between us. To me she was just Esmeralda’s friend. But being in that motel room…
What the fuck do you think
Chess.
Did she not have a hotel room of her own?
Like it’s not impossible that they were just hanging out and having a drink and she fell asleep. It’s just ridiculously unlikely.
I can’t wait to read about this on r/BestOfRedditorUpdates.
He was trying, at least.
I’m perfectly capable of a platonic existence with women and would definitely provide a place to sleep if a woman was tipsy, or just wanted to stay up talking. I’d keep the conversation focused on the good parts of her life and her marriage.
In the morning she’d get a conversation about how nobody would understand and that everyone would presume we were fucking as there is little reason to think otherwise.
I’m an extreme outlier though. They went alone to bang.
Don’t rush to judgment….nah fuck that she fucked him probably more than once.
She definitely had anal sex with him and then when they woke up in the morning she invited him in the shower and gave him the best sloppy toppy of his life
He invited her to his room 1000% hoping for sex, whether she reciprocated, is another matter entirely.
EDIT: turns out OP is female.
Yaa. Everything justed hung out
Unless he was gay, 100% he was hoping for sex
She got banged like a Salvation Army drum
Good reason why she’s your ex
Curious as to how you found out. If she didn’t tell you, she was hiding it. The situation is fucked as it is already. Her hiding means she 10000% cheated on you, and now she’s trying to come up with an excuse, however absurd it sounds. If you caught her dead to rights staying in someones room and that’s the reasoning she gave you, she’s gambling that youd believe it no matter how ridiculous it sounds. Sorry, man.
Glad she’s an “EX” because the world is full of better women and incredible opportunity for you now.
You invite the opposite sex up for only one reason and one reason only, to clap cheeks, she definitely got her cheeks clapped
Lol you looseher
Fuk next wife better and buy her flowers so she will not suk random guys dlcks.
All your fault here. GIVE HER MORE ATTENTION
they fucked
She’s going to stay your ex forever if you’re smart
They could have been playing uno, but i doubt it.
Hotel rooms are for fuckin’.
Not love making. Not cuddling. Straight up hot and nasty Fuckin’.
Even in a world where they didnt fuck, going up to a guys hotel room alone in Vegas is a massive red flag regardless… thats simply not something you do based on the optics alone if you have a partner you care about.
It’s a private room with a bed and not much else…
She belongs to the streets, homie.
Yea , “I just hungout with a random guy all night long. We didn’t do anything. So you shouldn’t be mad.” Your girlfriend has some balls to even say such an unbelievable lie.
Well…there’s no other place to bang her. We could’ve hung out in any hotel lobby in Vegas. If she came up to his room to truly hang out, still stupid. That’s how you get your butt taken while you’re not giving it away. Drinking in a room is also very weird to do in Vegas. It’s Vegas. 1 on 1 in the telly? 99% sure.
Vegas work trips have so much cheating. You got cheated on and there’s no reason why you should doubt it if the relationship is gone. It’ll give you grey hairs.
Sorry man.
If a woman accepts an invitation to a man’s hotel room, I will assume they had sex regardless of any claims anyone makes to the contrary. Your ex belongs to the streets!
Time to get back on the dating market. When your ready of course. Sorry this happened bud.
Who cares she’s your ex
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Nah I don’t believe it
Yea, I would invite a woman to my hotel room and have no expectation that she would be there for sex. That’s the most common reason it would happen, yeah?
An invitation to a hotel room is an invitation to sex.
There is no possibility of it meaning anything else.
She a hoe
People really come here and ask questions they already know the answer to.
In Vegas? Coloring books most likely.
Probably discussing black jack strategy
They probably did more than the sex.
Smart she’s your ex. That is a really compromising situation and a loyal woman wouldn’t put herself in it.
They had sex.
Sex.
The expectation is the kind of sex you don’t want to have in your own bed.
> Do guys ever assume it’s just a “hangout”?
Never!
That means that he’s DTF.
If we are not boning, you’re not sharing my bed. I like my space
51M invites 39F up to their room in Vegas for drinks.
Yeah, they fucked.
Why would she need to go up to his room for drinks when you can literally get a drink every 10ft in Vegas?
She’s your ex for a reason.
The whole point of going back to your hotel room with someone is to hook up. Period. End of story. Literally everyone on the planet knows this because ALL of us have genitals, sexual desires, and have probably done this at least once.
Also, in Vegas. You can drink anywhere you want, 24/7/365. You don’t ever need to go back someone’s hotel room to have a drink.
She’s a bald faced liar. 🤥
How did you find out?
I know a girl who did this and still swears, some fifteen years later, that it was just innocent hanging out with a guy who was giving her money, buying her clothes, and swimsuits. They innocently had some drinks and conversation, and then fell asleep.
Is it so hard to believe? /s
Playing Mario Kart all night.
Lets not be naive here
Uh… yeah, your instincts are right.
No way I’d believe this didn’t cross a bright red line. You don’t do this.
They banged
Probably just to share the shower to save water. Planet and all that ya know.
The only defense is, if you truly trust her, she wouldn’t have told you if she felt guilty.
That’s basically inviting someone over to your bedroom just to hang out.
Have I had this situation happen? Surprisingly, yes. Just how a night went. But both of us were single so it would have been fine if something did happen.
But I’d never consider this an appropriate situation to put yourself in when you’re in a relationship without explicit permission from your partner.
I’m very liberal on boundaries – much more so than plenty here, but drinking alone with an opposite sex stranger in their hotel room is certainly way over the line for needing to discuss with your partner first. (unless you’ve got a very open relationship or something).
He deposited some coins in her slot machine my guy
It’s a lie. Ofcourse if a woman is coming to my room, it’s game on for us. We are not kids to hangout in bedroom
Sure…
Men can’t believe that women are not obsessed with sex like they are.
You are too old to not know exactly what went on in there brother. Cmon
Random? Are you asking this while being bored at work?
They did something
If I were to invite a female to my hotel room it is definitely to get laid.
What would she say if you told her you did the same thing?
Sex. It’s for sex.
He likely invited her with the hope that she would have sex with him, but that doesn’t mean that she did. If she told you about it, that makes it seem more likely (to me) that she didn’t cheat.
I’m a woman. There are a million places to hang out, 24 hours a day, in Vegas. If you’re staying anywhere between the strip and the airport, an uber will take you back there within 10 mins!!
Why would there ever be a need to sleep in a stranger’s hotel room …
Unless he’s gay, they were shagging
They want you to eat the minibar Toblerone.
Oh she likely got some stretchy time…
going to someone’s hotel room for a few minutes? Normal. Hanging out there in Vegas? 100% sus. Sleeping over there? They absolutely fucked.
There are tons of places for co-workers to hangout in Vegas that are not a hotel room. I mean they could have gone and hung out in the hotel bar even. Again, if they had gone up to his room to grab his wallet? Not weird and not unusual. But “hanging out” in a hotel room? Alone? Just the two of them?
They definitely fucked.
Sorry brother.
Thats wierd, I guess she didnt mention any of this ? Thats double concenrning.
She is an ex for a reason. Dont think about her.
Sorry bud keep your head up and move forward
If she’s attractive in some way. It’s always for sex. I really don’t get how women can expect a man to be so naive. Regardless it was a dumb move that is going to break trust.
Anytime, ANYTIME, a man is inviting a woman to his hotel room, it’s always for sex.
He wasn’t trying to just hang out.
Dude, this I like… The 5th or 6th you did about this? Milking much?
They definitely had sex
Who knows what they were doing. Playing monopoly for all we know.
But, she should have okayed whatever they did with you before hand. Would never be alone with another person of the opposite sex without my wife okaying it.
Ummm, is this a legit post cause sounds shady af to me
As a woman, I would never set foot in a strange mans hotel room without expecting them to get handsy.
I also won’t even meet a business contact in the hotel bar alone. I’d ask em to meet me at a starbucks or bring another colleague.
He absolutely wanted to have sex. Whether they did or not we do t know. But “nice” men don’t ask women to their room for a drink so h trying to get laid.
How did you find out?
Yeah she fkd him.
Leave her on the streets where she belongs.
Filthy strumpet.
The last time I stopped in a hotel and invited a woman into my room was because the folding in built ironing board had secret wall compartment for the iron and I was so excited about it I had to show my work colleague.
But considering I’m on so many spectrums I wouldn’t take my normal as man normal and my work colleague is well aware I’m odd and devoted to my wife.
Even if it WAS just hanging out-it wasn’t-how would this be ok?
Not even a friend, but some random dude?
I wonder how she’d feel if the situation was reversed.
If she just wanted to have drinks with him and nothing more, she would’ve suggested meeting at a bar in the lobby.
As a woman, I would never accept going to a man’s room for drinks unless I was hoping things would get physical.
Sex are the expectations.
Why are you making this about universal principles? you have a specific s/o, in a specific relationship, who did a specific thing. You can say “i don’t trust you, i think you’re lying”, you can say “i wish you hadnt done that, please dont do that in the future,” but there is no universal law of what people can and cannot do. Plenty of people have stayed in someone’s hotel room without sex. plenty of people have stayed in a hotel room for sex then lied about it to their partner. you know way better than any rando on the internet whether your s/o is lying to you. We’ve never even met her!!!!
Drinks can be done in the lobby. She 100% fucked him.
Well, she’s your ex now so bullet dodged I’d say.
Even if there was slightest chance nothing happened it was inappropriate.
Sexpectations
Sex. No other reason. It’s Vegas. Free drinks in casino.
I don’t think even “nice guys” want a random stranger crashing in their hotel room, but someone they had just rolled off of and then passed out after drinking and fucking all night might get breakfast. The fact that the next day she told you she wanted to sleep some more while she was still in his room is pretty indicative of the level of familiarity they had reached, which was apparently substantial.
No one just ‘hangs out’ in a hotel room, unless they are visiting family or something and even then it’s usually just while they’re getting ready to go to an actual location to hang out.
Was she your ex before ot after vegas?
Let me guess. When you confronted her over this, she told you that you have self esteem issues and can’t believe you don’t trust her?
Hanging out with a strange woman without the expectation of sex just sounds stupid. Yeah bring this stranger over and get drunk so she can steal all my stuff (best case scenario) or have her prison thug boyfriend show up and harvest my organs
Oh right she was just looking to steal from him then?