I did a class in 400 level mechanics, I found solving some more advanced lagrangians kinda hard to do (but I did get the hang of it). I’d say that’s the hardest lesson a woman has taught me
It doesnt matter how long we’ve been together, how much memories we shared, how connected and happy we are – as soon as another dude who’s better than me comes into picture, she will be gone.
Don’t ever feel rushed to make something happen. Its better to let things simmer and realize life is long. If you cut people off then you’ll never allow for something to eventually happen
Patience, calmness, and not focusing on women, lol – but I’d say, everything happened for a good. I might not been able to discover myself let be if she had become mine. Stay strong, brothers.
People change. It’s nobody’s fault or anything, just a fact of life. Sometimes people change in ways that no longer suit their partner and they drift apart. But there’s always other people that will live up to your expectations, so don’t give up if things don’t work out.
Still searching myself but I’ll find them eventually. Who knows, maybe I already know them and just haven’t realized it yet.
The idea that women deal with emotions better than men is false. I’ll admit more dudes need to follow theirs more often, but one is certainly more in control than the other.
Women are emotionally volatile. You can be their hero one moment and the villain the next with very little real input. You have to decide who you are going to be as a man and follow your own compass. Develop discipline and a vision for your future.
Otherwise you’ll get dragged around by female partners making decisions based on how they feel in the moment.
On the up side, that I can be loved and valued for who I am.
On the down side, one woman said she could FEEL I’m not a man, and that was all the explanation she needed.
Everything can feel right. You can share laughs, wonderful days, feel deep connection and compatability like you’ve never felt with another person. And still, it can not work out for reasons that are unclear. It takes two no matter how right it feels to you. Both people have to be in the right emotional place at the right time.
What borderline personality disorder and covert narcissism are and how they can royally fuck you up in every possible way. I don’t trust women anymore.
Nothing I ever do will make her happy, and I cannot take on that responsibility. If she is not able to find happiness in her own right, nothing I ever do will be enough.
That you can’t reason your way out of an emotional confrontation.
I don’t even remember what the argument was about now but I do recall what my first serious college girlfriend said to me during a fight. She was upset about something I did or didn’t do and I calmly went through the reasons and circumstances that lead up to the disagreeable outcome. I then punctuated my explanation by stating that I was doing best the best I could.
Her response was “your best isn’t good enough”.
Really kinda blew my mind a bit at the time, trying to understand how you can angrily hold somebody accountable for things that are out of their control. The lesson is that some people just want to be mad and they’re looking for someone to place it on.
They they cannot be trusted, they are incapable of what we think of as “love”, and that they have the same understanding of the concept of “honor” as a blind person does of “sunlight”.
That her love can be conditional based on both whim and choice but mine is meant to be unconditional and no matter how she hurts me, I can’t get upset because that means my love isn’t unconditional.
You can have very extreme cultural differences even when you’re both white and grew up in the same area. I’ve never had as heated argument over “nothing” as I did about the proper way to load a dishwasher lol.
Emotions, no matter how illogical, can take precedence over everything else you thought mattered. Hormones are real, and how cold things can turn like a switch.
Promises can only mean anything in the moment they’re being uttered, because a week or two later she might suddenly end the relationship and issue a no-contact policy.
Stay away from women whose only support system (outside of you) is HEAVILY religious in any way. They may act like that is not them, but that is genetic, shes not gonna shake it. It manifests in some form or fashion.
When you share emotions and feelings with a woman you love, that’s when you start driving them away. In a relationship, the woman is the only one who’s supposed to be able to express/vocalize any feelings and it be okay and you listen and change. When you share your feelings and needs, you are being controlling, making them miserable, and pushing them away.
Now I know why so many men stay silent and have heart attacks at 46. I’m 39. We will have ours soon.
Learned this lesson from a woman but someone can like the idea of you but not you as a person. Had a girlfriend who liked me for who I was physically but once she got to know me (context: nerdy guy who likes usually nerd hobbies like video games and horror movies) I was all of a sudden a butt of her jokes and she always shut me down if I talked about my hobbies. My existence was merely just because she thought I looked attractive, and so she had someone to take her own pain out on. If I tried giving her the moon she would have asked why I didn’t give her the galaxy. It was a miserable 10 months and I’m still recovering. It’s admittedly made me terrified to date despite me being very lonely. I’m afraid to opening myself up to a woman again if it’s going to just leave my soul to being crushed
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Partial Differential Equations – that was pretty much the point where I really questioned if I wanted to be an engineer
Never fully trust one.
I did a class in 400 level mechanics, I found solving some more advanced lagrangians kinda hard to do (but I did get the hang of it). I’d say that’s the hardest lesson a woman has taught me
How fake and cruel some really can be and how much they get away with a lot of things.
AP Physics.
She’s not mine, its just my turn.
It doesnt matter how long we’ve been together, how much memories we shared, how connected and happy we are – as soon as another dude who’s better than me comes into picture, she will be gone.
Never blindly trust anyone. Expect the worst from people honestly.
You cannot show love in a way another person doesn’t value and expect them to appreciate it.
Some people only speak their own language and anything outside of their mental framework is just indecipherable to them.
Dirty people don’t value cleaning.
Rude people don’t value politeness.
Wasteful people don’t value preservation.
Secure your medication and your drinks even around women that make a big deal about safety.
They’re not more virtuous or more innocent than men..They’re equally capable of evil, crime, immorality…
that we both contribute to make an argument
That you can’t ever fully trust someone.
There are things about myself that I cannot change, and that I will still be judged upon.
Don’t ever feel rushed to make something happen. Its better to let things simmer and realize life is long. If you cut people off then you’ll never allow for something to eventually happen
Patience, calmness, and not focusing on women, lol – but I’d say, everything happened for a good. I might not been able to discover myself let be if she had become mine. Stay strong, brothers.
Actions speak louder than words. If you get the feeling someone doesn’t care about you, they don’t care about you.
People cannot feign genuine love all the time. You will see through a facade if you pay even a little bit of attention.
People change. It’s nobody’s fault or anything, just a fact of life. Sometimes people change in ways that no longer suit their partner and they drift apart. But there’s always other people that will live up to your expectations, so don’t give up if things don’t work out.
Still searching myself but I’ll find them eventually. Who knows, maybe I already know them and just haven’t realized it yet.
The idea that women deal with emotions better than men is false. I’ll admit more dudes need to follow theirs more often, but one is certainly more in control than the other.
Getting married
Sometimes people come into your life as a blessing, and sometimes they come into your life to be a lesson.
And the hardest changes from those the one you thought was a blessing, but turned out to be a lesson.
Those woman teach you a lot.
What social courage is.
Women are emotionally volatile. You can be their hero one moment and the villain the next with very little real input. You have to decide who you are going to be as a man and follow your own compass. Develop discipline and a vision for your future.
Otherwise you’ll get dragged around by female partners making decisions based on how they feel in the moment.
That I can be loved.
I’m still processing it.
That what they say and do are complete opposite. It’s a fact.
Anything less than a “yes” is a “no”.
Never give a woman your whole heart. Keep a piece for you, just in case she destroys what you give her. Current wife taught me that in a literal way.
Not to trust women!
Not to come straight out with how I feel if I wanna keep them on the line for a bit longer
They can and will love and hate you at the same exact moment.
They are loyal to their emotions
You can do 1000 good things and everything right but she will always remember the 1 bad thing you did or something you didn’t do.
They will tell you or show you who they are in the beginning, you just have to pay attention or listen very well.
Just because they look like angels on the outside, doesn’t mean that they aren’t demons on the inside.
On the up side, that I can be loved and valued for who I am.
On the down side, one woman said she could FEEL I’m not a man, and that was all the explanation she needed.
Love is not enough
They turn into their mother in so many, many ways as they age. It’s crazy.
The Nashville Number System. But I am very glad she did.
Your feelings do not matter.
Everything can feel right. You can share laughs, wonderful days, feel deep connection and compatability like you’ve never felt with another person. And still, it can not work out for reasons that are unclear. It takes two no matter how right it feels to you. Both people have to be in the right emotional place at the right time.
There’s no limit on what a woman can do for you… or to you
2020 – That I was worth loving (a girl I was crushing on who rejected me but was still caring)
2021 – That I was on my own (mom)
2022 – That I need to have boundaries
2023 – That I was desirable (entered my first relationship)
2024 – That I shouldn’t live for their happiness because their unhappiness becomes soul crushing (relationship went sour)
2025 – That I must preserve my energy and happiness like it’s more precious than Gold (broke up, in emotional recovery)
What borderline personality disorder and covert narcissism are and how they can royally fuck you up in every possible way. I don’t trust women anymore.
You can give your partner all of you, but you can’t expect them to do the same.
They either love you or they dont!
People may react to traumatic circumstances completely differently even if they feel the same.
Advanced Calculus was impossible for me. My professor did what she could, but I was beyond help.
Nothing I ever do will make her happy, and I cannot take on that responsibility. If she is not able to find happiness in her own right, nothing I ever do will be enough.
That you can’t reason your way out of an emotional confrontation.
I don’t even remember what the argument was about now but I do recall what my first serious college girlfriend said to me during a fight. She was upset about something I did or didn’t do and I calmly went through the reasons and circumstances that lead up to the disagreeable outcome. I then punctuated my explanation by stating that I was doing best the best I could.
Her response was “your best isn’t good enough”.
Really kinda blew my mind a bit at the time, trying to understand how you can angrily hold somebody accountable for things that are out of their control. The lesson is that some people just want to be mad and they’re looking for someone to place it on.
That she indeed, did not love me more.
One taught me statistical thermodynamics. That fucked with my head.
I don’t need to hold my keys in my fist when walking at night. A real wake up call on my “privilege”
That she indeed was mentally unstable, and it wasn’t just her ex talking out of his ass.
Just because she talks a lot doesn’t mean she communicates
They they cannot be trusted, they are incapable of what we think of as “love”, and that they have the same understanding of the concept of “honor” as a blind person does of “sunlight”.
She only saw me as a friend when she thought I didn’t have other options.
“You got to lick it before you stick it”. I was young and hard at the time.
Just because she has a pair of awesome boobs, doesn’t mean she can’t have a penis too….
That her love can be conditional based on both whim and choice but mine is meant to be unconditional and no matter how she hurts me, I can’t get upset because that means my love isn’t unconditional.
Geometry. Love some of my teachers to death but f*ck maths.
That mothers can be horrible humans, but just because they are your mother, you don’t have to put up with it.
That the vast majority of them are only loyal to their emotions.
From now on when a woman I’m interested in would request that I “open up”, I’d only do so gradually and test the waters first.
You can have very extreme cultural differences even when you’re both white and grew up in the same area. I’ve never had as heated argument over “nothing” as I did about the proper way to load a dishwasher lol.
You can’t love someone one into loving you back.
Emotions, no matter how illogical, can take precedence over everything else you thought mattered. Hormones are real, and how cold things can turn like a switch.
when they’re done with you, they’re DONE WITH YOU.
That you can be beautiful on the outside but ugly on the inside. I divorced her and married someone with beauty on both sides.
That giving a woman everything you have, will make her respect you less. Give a woman your love, but never all of your love.
Don’t love her more than yourself….
She will remember only 2 things, the good she did for you and the bad you did to her
No matter what you do for her to emotionally support her, when it’s your turn to get some from her, once or twice it’s a trap
Promises can only mean anything in the moment they’re being uttered, because a week or two later she might suddenly end the relationship and issue a no-contact policy.
Everything will be your fault. Even if she cheated on you it’s because you were not giving her enough attention.
You are a means to an end. Whether it’s the end you want or not.
That trust is hard to earn and easy to lose. Don’t promise things you cant keep.
It is just your turn!
“Looks matter” after a whole lifetime of being told it’s what inside that counts.
So many butthurt dudes in here
Put yourself first regardless of who is affected by the outcome.
My ex taught me how to make beef wellington.
Ngl, that shit was fucking hard as fuck.
Stay away from women whose only support system (outside of you) is HEAVILY religious in any way. They may act like that is not them, but that is genetic, shes not gonna shake it. It manifests in some form or fashion.
They can use the word love fleetingly and break you with it.
That true connection exists.
And its fucking hard to find.
That I was expected to give up my happiness for the marriage, but she ALWAYS had the option of giving up the marriage for her happiness.
Not to be so idealistic about women.
Love is not enough.
You can’t control the outcome, so stop trying to fix every situation. It is what it is, let it be or you’ll lose that thing faster.
“You can be bald and you can be fat. But you shouldn’t ever be bald AND fat.”
Gospel to live by.
Clit location
How to be more humble
You won’t fix her, and she’ll never love you once she fixes herself.
The parts that attract you are the trauma responses, it’s not worth it.
When you share emotions and feelings with a woman you love, that’s when you start driving them away. In a relationship, the woman is the only one who’s supposed to be able to express/vocalize any feelings and it be okay and you listen and change. When you share your feelings and needs, you are being controlling, making them miserable, and pushing them away.
Now I know why so many men stay silent and have heart attacks at 46. I’m 39. We will have ours soon.
Learned this lesson from a woman but someone can like the idea of you but not you as a person. Had a girlfriend who liked me for who I was physically but once she got to know me (context: nerdy guy who likes usually nerd hobbies like video games and horror movies) I was all of a sudden a butt of her jokes and she always shut me down if I talked about my hobbies. My existence was merely just because she thought I looked attractive, and so she had someone to take her own pain out on. If I tried giving her the moon she would have asked why I didn’t give her the galaxy. It was a miserable 10 months and I’m still recovering. It’s admittedly made me terrified to date despite me being very lonely. I’m afraid to opening myself up to a woman again if it’s going to just leave my soul to being crushed
Where there’s smoke… there’s fire. Trust your instincts