Mil said “I’ll make sure my son never raises that bastard baby of yours” when I told him + her I was pregnant (my mom said it was the right thing to do)
“You’re wierd” but in a snarky manner. Would have been different if it was playful. Pretty much the fastest way for me to never be comfortable being myself around someone again. 😂
My guidance counselor said to me “You’re not smart enough for even community college and too fat for the military. You need to get a job and embrace working minimum wage for the rest of your life.”
Other than narcissistic smear campaigns, probably the time someone told me I should only date fat women because I’m legally blind and can’t drive, so attractive women would never want to be with me.
My first girlfriend ended things by saying
“Honestly you were just a stepping stone to better things” and implied I was poor (after I bought her and her family Christmas presents and I didn’t even receive a card from her).
A tie between “Good little Nazi! Your parents must be so proud,” and, “Good job, you did it despite the high level (I think she meant “high-functioning”) autism or whatever it is you have!”
My ex-mother saying “You’re being dramatic” after I was injured and almost killed. What kind of parent do you have to be to say that to your own child?
When my husband and I first started dating he was still in college and I was already working so I was paying for most things we did. My brother told me, “he’s using you and once he graduates he’s going to find someone a lot prettier than you.”
I had a boss call me completely useless and that the company would be better off without me. The worst part was that it was in a meeting room full of colleagues. He then said thank your God she(referring to a lady colleague) is sitting here hence ur getting off easy.
22 years clean from being a meth addict.
18 years with my spouse
( but going through a slow breakup/divorce/maybe I think there’s a chance….. oh fuck yeah nah there’s not/separation, co-parenting flatmates thing over the past year)
And last night when mentioning that I’d like to get a referral from the GP for our 13M son to see a child Psychologist for an ADHD assessment (which we had agreed to do 3-4 months ago after his last parent teacher interview) she kind of passionately disagreed and said “what’s the point” as she doesn’t believe in medication and “will not alow him to take medication for it if he is diagnosed” i said “let’s see what a Dr thinks”
& she got pretty angry then and was yelling and said
“so you’d let him take medication for it? We no, in that case no, you’ve lost that argument” I didn’t think it was an argument till that point!!
so I kind of went quiet in the face of the sudden yelling and said “I just think we should see what a medical professional thinks and getting a GP referral to a Psyc is only step 1” and she walked out….. then instantly walked back and said:
“You only want him diagnosed so you can take his medication for speed isn’t that right? Is that it?”
22 years sober, never used amphetamines since 3 years before I even met her. Raised 5 kids, etc etc and she basically says u want to use your son so u can steal his medication to get high. Like zero to 100,000 straight out of the blue. Called me a junkie cause I think the kid might have ADHD, like his eldest (now adult) sister (recently diagnosed)
I was that boyfriend. Also found out shortly after that she had been cheating on me for a lot of that relationship. Or maybe she wasn’t since it was only a relationship to me and not her.
My dad went through a drug binge a little while back and sent me a pic of himself with a shotgun in his mouth and a few weeks later during an argument, my now ex said he’d wanna kill himself too if he had to be related to me and that he wished I witnessed it if he ever went through with it.
Sad part is I still talked to him after that. And still miss him. 🫠
That he was leaving and he was “going to win it all, the house, the kids, everything. And you will be left with nothing.”
He did leave. We sold the house. I have the kids and am happily retired.
after giving my all in my last relationship (that lasted about 3 years) , giving my time, sacrificing many friendships, working, studying and still giving all my spare time to her, she just says that I’m an idiot, not caring for her (despite giving her everything), that I dont deserve to be happy because i don’t try to do anything. (extra)A few months later I met up with this girl, and we got into a relationship, we got together a day before my birthday, and on the day of my birthday I found her twitter (x) and saw she reposted something along the lines of “I drink red bull because if I wanted a White Monster i would call my ex” . Both hit hard
She said she loved the potential of who I could be and never loved me for who I was. One of my biggest insecurities was never feeling good enough for someone else. She told me: “I am better than you.” Well, maybe better looking, maybe doing better in life, but at least I know you’re not better than me in on the inside.
My mother told me the only reason she had me was, my father was on the road allot so she didn’t want to be alone with the Boston Strangler killing women who were alone. Then they caught him just be I was born and she said she was disappointed. She had me for nothing.
“When I saw you I thought you were pregnant.” -an old coworker. I’m a little overweight but I by no means have a gut…
Also the classic “you would be pretty if you were thinner.”
Grew up in a toxic asian environment where I had eating disorders starting from age ~11, and even at my thinnest when I weighed less than 100 lbs I was still “too fat.” So any comments about my appearance hurts, especially when I finally have a healthy relationship with food after having eating disorders and starving myself for over 10 years.
I have never been one to care about others appearances – I value a persons morals, integrity, kindness, and intelligence. I’ve found that people who obsess over how others look and judge others on their appearance are poorly lacking in all of those traits which is really sad.
That I had to get tested for ASD because otherwise they don’t know why I am the way I am and they can’t deal with me anymore if we don’t find out what’s “wrong “ with me.
Many years ago I was engaged to a woman for a while; she was insistent that we have kids even though we were fighting a lot. All I ever wanted was to be a dad, but I suggested that we get some couples therapy so we could love each other better and find our peace together. I really didn’t want to bring kids into a house where mum and dad were fighting all the time.
We were talking about it one night, she just looked at me cold as ice and said “it doesn’t make any fucking difference, you’re nothing but a sperm donor to me anyway.”
A boy broke up with me because I wouldn’t put out (I was only 15 at the time) and he said I had yellow teeth. I didn’t. But as a 15 year old girl, I was mortified.
Sis: “If you cant crack Harvard, you havent done much, have you?” (after I totally aced by GREs, but admittedly not Harvard level)
Me literally stepping out of the house to get to my wedding. Mum goes, “I always wanted to ask you, what happened between you and <ex’s name>?”
Me telling my Mum we are expecting. Makes a face and goes “Finances are so tight, I wish you hadnt done this now”
(for context, Dad was terminally ill, and I was taking care of it all. My wife and I were mid manager level at that time. And my mum never worked after marriage).
After years (literally my entire life) of holding everybody’s shit together, taking care of parents and family, a succesful career, a loving marriage and a lovely kid, and taking care of her needs for years, including several medical procedures amd surgeries, I had to hear “You are not the son I had hoped you’d be” from…drumroll…yes, once again…my mum.
I could continue, but fuck that shit. Ive gone grey rock and largely found my peace. Im stronger and a better human being than any of them.
Somebody told me that I look like I know a lot about food when I was working the line at Chipotle back in the day. Clearly, it was a jab at me being fat. It hurt.
That I am a useless fuck up..and I didn’t even do anything bad really..also I’m autistic so I forget things often..forgot I can’t do laundry when my friend is taking shower because water gets cold..so that’s what she said to me tonight 🙁
I was severely abused by multiple family members and immediate relatives throughout my life. But the fact that I can’t recall anymore any of the mean things they said to me …. I guess I really am healing and moving on from my past, with genuinely good people around me now. (And seeing firsthand how those evil people already suffered or are suffering the consequences of their own actions has also vindicated my belief that kindness > cruelty.)
Thanks, OP, for asking this question and leading me to that truth.
“Your dad would roll over in his grave if he knew.”
My mom telling me this when I was 14 because I dated a black girl. God forbid I’m a lesbian. My dad passed when I was 8. She got to move on and date a man 3 months after he died. I was just being a normal teen in love with someone who was there for me and her mom was too. Sweetest people I knew.
When I was a kid around 4 to 6 years old, our neighbors and even some of my relatives kept on telling me “you are just an adopted kid” or “you’re an outsider, you don’t belong where you are”.
Nobody told me the truth until I was 7. Growing up, my relatives (aunt, uncles, cousins and even my adoptive siblings) make sure that I will never forget that fact because they always say it even when there are other people around.
I guess my father thought I wasn’t going to live through my depression so one day he says “an insurance policy needs to be taken out on you so if you die, at least you’ll leave your family something” I almost couldn’t contain my anger and even cried. Who the fuck says some shit like this?
I was just listening attentively during class in 5th grade when my teacher suddenly asked one of my classmates to use a conjunction in a sentence. In a panicked manner—clearly unprepared—she blurted out, “[insert my name] is ugly, BUT she is smart.”
Everyone laughed, and I could see the shock on my teacher’s face. My teacher told the class that it wasn’t a nice thing to say. I just smiled through the pain.
I wanted to cry so badly because I had actually been smiling at her to help boost her confidence to speak. But hearing her answer made me extremely sad. I kept smiling throughout the class to show that it didn’t affect me.
After class, she quickly apologized and said she was really sorry. For years up until now, I believe that she didn’t mean to offend me (or i made myself believe that she didnt)—I think she was just stating what she believed was a fact. And somehow, that “fact” has stuck with me ever since.
My ex told me that I was bad luck and the reason he was struggling financially. He said he was ok before he met me. The economy was in recession but that hurt me for years.
“you’re too damaged for anyone else to tolerate you, only I do” “you don’t have friends, they don’t like you but only tell me about it” “you are too emotional, words are just words and shouldn’t hurt you so much, what’s your problem” “love is for kids, don’t expect me to be all in love with you cause you are not worth it”
My mum said that I’m so ugly and no one wants to look at me. That really hurts because it’s my experience and she’s been cruel to me within the past few years. I also feel anger and resentment because she gaslight me about my experiences with lookism and blames my personality for why people don’t like me but when she gets angry or wants to be cruel she insults my looks. The gaslighting is so cruel.
My sister after I asked for family support when I came forward to police about childhood molestation I had gone through. I was told point blank to “cheer up and stop acting like a victim”. I thought she had my back in everything and my whole world started to crumble.
Something that has stuck with me is when my ex knocked up his mistress I did not know about. We broke up and I freaked out on him. He said, “you’re just mad because you’re a barren wasteland”
I am still young, I don’t know if that is true. But it cut me deeply because I want children one day, and we planned on eventually having children together.
After having decided she didn’t want to look after her son herself my stepsons mother basically didn’t see him for about a year while he lived with me and his dad. During that time I was the person dealing with the school and trying to be a good mother to him seeing as his own mother couldn’t be bothered. She got all annoyed because she didn’t want me to be involved (yet her son lived in my home) and said about me to my husband “she can’t have her own kids so she is trying to steal mine”.
No, love, you couldn’t be arsed to be a decent parent and dumped your son after he took an overdose. All I wanted to do was make sure he was loved and safe.
“get off the game your weighing down the servers” but no in actuality i had my best friend of 4 years tell me that he regretted every moment he spent with me and called me a braindead hypocrite that should kill himself (this is all i can remember theres probably worse but im not sure)
Someone called me a paedophile recently that is by far the most vile thing I’ve ever experienced, and I have a pretty thick skin. He was drunk and uhh.. Stupid lol but it took a lot of CBT to not get mad over and over about it.
I told my dad I had suicidal thoughts and he said “well that’s unfortunate that you didn’t succeed.” Then he laughed and added “not that you’d have the guts to actually do it anyway.”
I think it’s worse when you hear about what someone said to you behind your back. Bc all I can think about is how my dad last year called me a whore and a disappointment over how I’ve been living my love life. Being a daddy’s girl (and the favorite bc I did everything they’ve asked me w/ emotionally manipulating me) all my life just to hear that he (and my mom) don’t believe in my dance career just because I moved across the country to the Midwest. “You’ve been training all you life just to throw our money away.” Like WHAT?? I’m currently trying out for a professional dance academy to be a prima ballerina. WHAT DO YOU MEANNN?!? Their guilt trip is crazy! It’s been ongoing for a little over a year now and I’m mentally exhausted…
I had a friend of 22 years treat me like I was breaking up with a high school crush when I was going through my divorce.
I was :this: close to the edge, and she went on a beach getaway with MY cousins when I needed support.
The same weekend I moved out of the family home, she had Easter lunch, again with the same cousins. I wasnt even invited.
The same friend I drove over an hour to be on suicide watch for. I missed an important exam, booked her into a clinic, created a support network of all her people (we didn’t live in the same city) for meal and watch rotation for the next month.
She couldn’t even be fucked to send me a message when I was crumbling.
She also repeatedly dismissed my concerns that I voiced to her, like I was able to figure it all out and shouldn’t keep discussing the same thing over and over again as it was quite boring to her, to hear me bring things up more than once.
I met up with her after the weekend she had spent with my cousins. I told her how hurt I was at her seemingly selfish behavior.
She looked me in the eyes and said (verbatim): :I have done nothing wrong and will not apologize.”
My heart shattered and I blocked her on every possible platform. She now hangs out with my cousins and I no longer have any contact with that side of the family.
Fun side note: I attended a wedding of a cousin from the same circle. The ‘friend’ was there. I purposefully did not interact with her (there were enough people that it wasn’t a glaring dismissal). I found out after the wedding that my dad started a rumor that I was taking drugs. I don’t speak to any of them anymore.
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“Your shoes are ugly”.
They they called me stupid
They told me they weren’t okay. So I checked on them frequently. They ended up calling me nagging
They used a slur with “face” tacked on at the end to address me.
You look good enough
“No one likes you, [name]. You’re not funny, you’re annoying.”
Ur cat is fat
Mil said “I’ll make sure my son never raises that bastard baby of yours” when I told him + her I was pregnant (my mom said it was the right thing to do)
You don’t deserve this
I do. That marriage will haunt me til I pass.
They said because of my childhood trauma my amigdala was damaged and that’s why I am unable to control my emotions. This person was a very abusive ex.
“You are a waste of life”
“You’re wierd” but in a snarky manner. Would have been different if it was playful. Pretty much the fastest way for me to never be comfortable being myself around someone again. 😂
Pizza face
Mom was supposed to abort you. I wish she would have. (It was a lie. I asked my dad before he passed away 3 weeks ago.)
I resent you for not being the child I wanted so badly
“Shes ugly, she’s a ‘pick me’ (???), she talks too much, and that’s why she has no friends. I don’t know how anyone can stand to be friends with her.”
My guidance counselor said to me “You’re not smart enough for even community college and too fat for the military. You need to get a job and embrace working minimum wage for the rest of your life.”
Other than narcissistic smear campaigns, probably the time someone told me I should only date fat women because I’m legally blind and can’t drive, so attractive women would never want to be with me.
My first girlfriend ended things by saying
“Honestly you were just a stepping stone to better things” and implied I was poor (after I bought her and her family Christmas presents and I didn’t even receive a card from her).
Was legit dying and was told “I can’t save you” by an ex.
Like bitch just take me to the hospital WTF is wrong with you!? You can’t fucking try!?!? What’s stopping you MF?
Yes, I survived (if you couldn’t tell)
My mom told me she loaths the day I was born.
She also blamed me for my brother’s suicide. I was the last person to see him alive. I couldn’t stop him from leaving my house. I tried.
I don’t speak to her anymore.
“Why did u tell her? Maybe I don’t want her to know?” It’s hurt for me
My mum comparing raising me to being in a concentration camp
I’m Jewish that probably makes it worse
Your face is easy to draw.
Do you even taste your food, ya hoover
“You have no redeeming qualities”
I’ve been told by many family that I’m useless and never amount to anything! 🥺
That I’d be a bad mum 😞
My class dude told his friends that I was easy to talk to(not in a good context)
The time a (now happily former) girlfriend suggested that I get a tattoo of George Clooney’s face. On my face. I don’t think she was kidding.
“Why are you happy? Wipe that smile off your face.”
Ew
Destroyed my 15 year old heart at the time
A tie between “Good little Nazi! Your parents must be so proud,” and, “Good job, you did it despite the high level (I think she meant “high-functioning”) autism or whatever it is you have!”
Both were customers.
“You’re damaged goods.” Douchebag ex.
My ex-mother saying “You’re being dramatic” after I was injured and almost killed. What kind of parent do you have to be to say that to your own child?
When my husband and I first started dating he was still in college and I was already working so I was paying for most things we did. My brother told me, “he’s using you and once he graduates he’s going to find someone a lot prettier than you.”
“Your looks are only going to get you so far!”
I had a boss call me completely useless and that the company would be better off without me. The worst part was that it was in a meeting room full of colleagues. He then said thank your God she(referring to a lady colleague) is sitting here hence ur getting off easy.
Oh the good ol’ days.
Crazy? I was crazy once.
That my kind is less than human. They said my people rate somewhere between animals and human beings.
Someone once told me, “You’re the kind of person people forget existed.” It stuck with me way longer than it should have.
You’re very ugly with no friends. Some girl said this to me in middle school. Eff that girl. She no longer can destroy me.
Would you like that bicycle for Christmas? Yes please. I was so happy. Then Christmas came – no bicycle!
I was 10.
22 years clean from being a meth addict.
18 years with my spouse
( but going through a slow breakup/divorce/maybe I think there’s a chance….. oh fuck yeah nah there’s not/separation, co-parenting flatmates thing over the past year)
And last night when mentioning that I’d like to get a referral from the GP for our 13M son to see a child Psychologist for an ADHD assessment (which we had agreed to do 3-4 months ago after his last parent teacher interview) she kind of passionately disagreed and said “what’s the point” as she doesn’t believe in medication and “will not alow him to take medication for it if he is diagnosed” i said “let’s see what a Dr thinks”
& she got pretty angry then and was yelling and said
“so you’d let him take medication for it? We no, in that case no, you’ve lost that argument” I didn’t think it was an argument till that point!!
so I kind of went quiet in the face of the sudden yelling and said “I just think we should see what a medical professional thinks and getting a GP referral to a Psyc is only step 1” and she walked out….. then instantly walked back and said:
“You only want him diagnosed so you can take his medication for speed isn’t that right? Is that it?”
22 years sober, never used amphetamines since 3 years before I even met her. Raised 5 kids, etc etc and she basically says u want to use your son so u can steal his medication to get high. Like zero to 100,000 straight out of the blue. Called me a junkie cause I think the kid might have ADHD, like his eldest (now adult) sister (recently diagnosed)
So that kinda hurt……….
“Oh, that boyfriend doesn’t count.”
I was that boyfriend. Also found out shortly after that she had been cheating on me for a lot of that relationship. Or maybe she wasn’t since it was only a relationship to me and not her.
My dad went through a drug binge a little while back and sent me a pic of himself with a shotgun in his mouth and a few weeks later during an argument, my now ex said he’d wanna kill himself too if he had to be related to me and that he wished I witnessed it if he ever went through with it.
Sad part is I still talked to him after that. And still miss him. 🫠
You’re getting old
That he was leaving and he was “going to win it all, the house, the kids, everything. And you will be left with nothing.”
He did leave. We sold the house. I have the kids and am happily retired.
after giving my all in my last relationship (that lasted about 3 years) , giving my time, sacrificing many friendships, working, studying and still giving all my spare time to her, she just says that I’m an idiot, not caring for her (despite giving her everything), that I dont deserve to be happy because i don’t try to do anything. (extra)A few months later I met up with this girl, and we got into a relationship, we got together a day before my birthday, and on the day of my birthday I found her twitter (x) and saw she reposted something along the lines of “I drink red bull because if I wanted a White Monster i would call my ex” . Both hit hard
“I’ll pray for you.”
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She said she loved the potential of who I could be and never loved me for who I was. One of my biggest insecurities was never feeling good enough for someone else. She told me: “I am better than you.” Well, maybe better looking, maybe doing better in life, but at least I know you’re not better than me in on the inside.
Completely unsolicited, after a really good day..
“I love you, but I don’t like you at all”
I was 9. Thanks mom.
A girl swiped right on me just to tell me i was ugly and to shave and grow.
I didnt give a fuck
My mother told me the only reason she had me was, my father was on the road allot so she didn’t want to be alone with the Boston Strangler killing women who were alone. Then they caught him just be I was born and she said she was disappointed. She had me for nothing.
“When I saw you I thought you were pregnant.” -an old coworker. I’m a little overweight but I by no means have a gut…
Also the classic “you would be pretty if you were thinner.”
Grew up in a toxic asian environment where I had eating disorders starting from age ~11, and even at my thinnest when I weighed less than 100 lbs I was still “too fat.” So any comments about my appearance hurts, especially when I finally have a healthy relationship with food after having eating disorders and starving myself for over 10 years.
I have never been one to care about others appearances – I value a persons morals, integrity, kindness, and intelligence. I’ve found that people who obsess over how others look and judge others on their appearance are poorly lacking in all of those traits which is really sad.
“You’re hard to love. You’re worth liking than loving”
That I had to get tested for ASD because otherwise they don’t know why I am the way I am and they can’t deal with me anymore if we don’t find out what’s “wrong “ with me.
why are you so quiet?
“You’re weird. Me and my family make fun of you behind your back saying you’re autistic” my ex
Many years ago I was engaged to a woman for a while; she was insistent that we have kids even though we were fighting a lot. All I ever wanted was to be a dad, but I suggested that we get some couples therapy so we could love each other better and find our peace together. I really didn’t want to bring kids into a house where mum and dad were fighting all the time.
We were talking about it one night, she just looked at me cold as ice and said “it doesn’t make any fucking difference, you’re nothing but a sperm donor to me anyway.”
Unsurprisingly, we broke up shortly after that.
I never did get to be a dad.
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“Your just my fuck toy for the night” during an argument that started after he told a “joke” about me being stupid 🙄
I suck at 2k
A boy broke up with me because I wouldn’t put out (I was only 15 at the time) and he said I had yellow teeth. I didn’t. But as a 15 year old girl, I was mortified.
Aunt: “Why did you get such an ugly dog?”
But most hurtful stuff came from closer home…
Sis: “If you cant crack Harvard, you havent done much, have you?” (after I totally aced by GREs, but admittedly not Harvard level)
Me literally stepping out of the house to get to my wedding. Mum goes, “I always wanted to ask you, what happened between you and <ex’s name>?”
Me telling my Mum we are expecting. Makes a face and goes “Finances are so tight, I wish you hadnt done this now”
(for context, Dad was terminally ill, and I was taking care of it all. My wife and I were mid manager level at that time. And my mum never worked after marriage).
After years (literally my entire life) of holding everybody’s shit together, taking care of parents and family, a succesful career, a loving marriage and a lovely kid, and taking care of her needs for years, including several medical procedures amd surgeries, I had to hear “You are not the son I had hoped you’d be” from…drumroll…yes, once again…my mum.
I could continue, but fuck that shit. Ive gone grey rock and largely found my peace. Im stronger and a better human being than any of them.
You’re smarter than you look.
You’re getting fat these days. Are you pregnant again?
“I’m happy you lost your baby, you didn’t deserve to be a mom anyway.” I was 18 years old.
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“You’re average in every way”
“You’re not as funny as you think you are.”
Somebody told me that I look like I know a lot about food when I was working the line at Chipotle back in the day. Clearly, it was a jab at me being fat. It hurt.
“You’re boring”
That I am a useless fuck up..and I didn’t even do anything bad really..also I’m autistic so I forget things often..forgot I can’t do laundry when my friend is taking shower because water gets cold..so that’s what she said to me tonight 🙁
ADHD is you making excuses for not studying.
Autism manifests itself in some interesting ways – from a manager at a real shitty job I once had
“You need to stop pretending to be mentally ill, stop being lazy you need to grow up”
not to me but a teacher addressed this to our entire class last year
I was severely abused by multiple family members and immediate relatives throughout my life. But the fact that I can’t recall anymore any of the mean things they said to me …. I guess I really am healing and moving on from my past, with genuinely good people around me now. (And seeing firsthand how those evil people already suffered or are suffering the consequences of their own actions has also vindicated my belief that kindness > cruelty.)
Thanks, OP, for asking this question and leading me to that truth.
“Your dad would roll over in his grave if he knew.”
My mom telling me this when I was 14 because I dated a black girl. God forbid I’m a lesbian. My dad passed when I was 8. She got to move on and date a man 3 months after he died. I was just being a normal teen in love with someone who was there for me and her mom was too. Sweetest people I knew.
When I was a kid around 4 to 6 years old, our neighbors and even some of my relatives kept on telling me “you are just an adopted kid” or “you’re an outsider, you don’t belong where you are”.
Nobody told me the truth until I was 7. Growing up, my relatives (aunt, uncles, cousins and even my adoptive siblings) make sure that I will never forget that fact because they always say it even when there are other people around.
I guess my father thought I wasn’t going to live through my depression so one day he says “an insurance policy needs to be taken out on you so if you die, at least you’ll leave your family something” I almost couldn’t contain my anger and even cried. Who the fuck says some shit like this?
No one would ever be proud of you – Mum
“You deserved to be cheated on”
I love you but loving you is so much work.
I never considered this to be a serious relationship. After 2 years.
Ur dog is ugly
I was just listening attentively during class in 5th grade when my teacher suddenly asked one of my classmates to use a conjunction in a sentence. In a panicked manner—clearly unprepared—she blurted out, “[insert my name] is ugly, BUT she is smart.”
Everyone laughed, and I could see the shock on my teacher’s face. My teacher told the class that it wasn’t a nice thing to say. I just smiled through the pain.
I wanted to cry so badly because I had actually been smiling at her to help boost her confidence to speak. But hearing her answer made me extremely sad. I kept smiling throughout the class to show that it didn’t affect me.
After class, she quickly apologized and said she was really sorry. For years up until now, I believe that she didn’t mean to offend me (or i made myself believe that she didnt)—I think she was just stating what she believed was a fact. And somehow, that “fact” has stuck with me ever since.
My mother told me she has resented my entire existence
The children can never be yours/follow you coz they belong to the ‘…..’ (the surname/clan) family. My divorce lawyer shut that down quickly.
My ex told me I wasn’t worth the time or effort to try and repair our relationship after he cheated on me 🙃
told me id never amount to anything because I am a “ret***ed autistic”
“You’re Not Depressed, because you’re still doing things you enjoy.”
(Was told this by my Missus at the Time my Father Passed Away and I was dealing with Grievous Depression).
My ex told me that I was bad luck and the reason he was struggling financially. He said he was ok before he met me. The economy was in recession but that hurt me for years.
“you’re too damaged for anyone else to tolerate you, only I do” “you don’t have friends, they don’t like you but only tell me about it” “you are too emotional, words are just words and shouldn’t hurt you so much, what’s your problem” “love is for kids, don’t expect me to be all in love with you cause you are not worth it”
I’ve been called names because of a stupid fucking rumor
My mum said that I’m so ugly and no one wants to look at me. That really hurts because it’s my experience and she’s been cruel to me within the past few years. I also feel anger and resentment because she gaslight me about my experiences with lookism and blames my personality for why people don’t like me but when she gets angry or wants to be cruel she insults my looks. The gaslighting is so cruel.
You don’t deserve to be treated right
“I’m not coming back home”
youre just like your dad.
My sister after I asked for family support when I came forward to police about childhood molestation I had gone through. I was told point blank to “cheer up and stop acting like a victim”. I thought she had my back in everything and my whole world started to crumble.
Girl who was my “best friend” in school: “You’re the type of person who could get raped and enjoy it.” Completely out of the blue.
My mother – “You were an accident.”
She never said that to any of my siblings.
Something that has stuck with me is when my ex knocked up his mistress I did not know about. We broke up and I freaked out on him. He said, “you’re just mad because you’re a barren wasteland”
I am still young, I don’t know if that is true. But it cut me deeply because I want children one day, and we planned on eventually having children together.
I hope he is wrong
Promises are just words, they don’t mean anything.
After having decided she didn’t want to look after her son herself my stepsons mother basically didn’t see him for about a year while he lived with me and his dad. During that time I was the person dealing with the school and trying to be a good mother to him seeing as his own mother couldn’t be bothered. She got all annoyed because she didn’t want me to be involved (yet her son lived in my home) and said about me to my husband “she can’t have her own kids so she is trying to steal mine”.
No, love, you couldn’t be arsed to be a decent parent and dumped your son after he took an overdose. All I wanted to do was make sure he was loved and safe.
“get off the game your weighing down the servers” but no in actuality i had my best friend of 4 years tell me that he regretted every moment he spent with me and called me a braindead hypocrite that should kill himself (this is all i can remember theres probably worse but im not sure)
Told me to kill myself on multiple occasions from my ex boyfriend best friend 😂😂
„You do realize that everybody in this house is avoiding you“- thanks dad
“you will never be good enough” multiple teachers during my education years
“When i grow up i don’t want to be fat as you” Kid.
that I talk too much
Someone called me a paedophile recently that is by far the most vile thing I’ve ever experienced, and I have a pretty thick skin. He was drunk and uhh.. Stupid lol but it took a lot of CBT to not get mad over and over about it.
You’re the spitting image of the man who r**** me and I wish I gave you up for adoption like your sister.
To die
I told my dad I had suicidal thoughts and he said “well that’s unfortunate that you didn’t succeed.” Then he laughed and added “not that you’d have the guts to actually do it anyway.”
I think it’s worse when you hear about what someone said to you behind your back. Bc all I can think about is how my dad last year called me a whore and a disappointment over how I’ve been living my love life. Being a daddy’s girl (and the favorite bc I did everything they’ve asked me w/ emotionally manipulating me) all my life just to hear that he (and my mom) don’t believe in my dance career just because I moved across the country to the Midwest. “You’ve been training all you life just to throw our money away.” Like WHAT?? I’m currently trying out for a professional dance academy to be a prima ballerina. WHAT DO YOU MEANNN?!? Their guilt trip is crazy! It’s been ongoing for a little over a year now and I’m mentally exhausted…
I had a friend of 22 years treat me like I was breaking up with a high school crush when I was going through my divorce.
I was :this: close to the edge, and she went on a beach getaway with MY cousins when I needed support.
The same weekend I moved out of the family home, she had Easter lunch, again with the same cousins. I wasnt even invited.
The same friend I drove over an hour to be on suicide watch for. I missed an important exam, booked her into a clinic, created a support network of all her people (we didn’t live in the same city) for meal and watch rotation for the next month.
She couldn’t even be fucked to send me a message when I was crumbling.
She also repeatedly dismissed my concerns that I voiced to her, like I was able to figure it all out and shouldn’t keep discussing the same thing over and over again as it was quite boring to her, to hear me bring things up more than once.
I met up with her after the weekend she had spent with my cousins. I told her how hurt I was at her seemingly selfish behavior.
She looked me in the eyes and said (verbatim): :I have done nothing wrong and will not apologize.”
My heart shattered and I blocked her on every possible platform. She now hangs out with my cousins and I no longer have any contact with that side of the family.
Fun side note: I attended a wedding of a cousin from the same circle. The ‘friend’ was there. I purposefully did not interact with her (there were enough people that it wasn’t a glaring dismissal). I found out after the wedding that my dad started a rumor that I was taking drugs. I don’t speak to any of them anymore.
you went wrong after you got rid of that baby.
“We were fine til you were born.” Thanks dad
That they don’t love me anymore after loving me for 20 years
“You are just like your father, that’s all you gonna be. “
My father was a violent alcoholic. My mom kept telling me all the time.
My ex called me ugly on my birthday
My mother:
She said (when I was 7) that I was trying to seduce her husband, my biological father
She told me that had abortion been legal, she would have aborted me because she wanted another boy.
Yeah. Those.