Emotional intelligence doesn’t tell people to fuck off. It’s like asking ‘What’s the best non-violent way to punch someone in the face?’
The most emotionally intelligent way to deal with someone you want to tell to fuck off, is to recognise that they weren’t put here to meet your needs, distance yourself from them, and look after your needs yourself.
You just don’t give them any of your energy or attention. Focus on what’s important in your life and it’s like a big FU to them without doing anything harmful
I was badly hurt by someone I thought was a friend. I waited 3 months, still felt hurt so hurt them to their face as effectively as I could with cruel invective including telling them to fuck off. 3 years later, I don’t regret it. It made me feel better and helped me to move on.
I’ve found that saying “Hey, what’s your end game here? How do you want this to go?” Works well. Recent example; I met some girls I went to high school with to catch up and grab a drink. Basically a mini reunion after 25-30 years. I’m happily married too but this guy kept coming up to us and bothering us. Asking why they were with me and not him. I finally nicely told him we were all friends. All married and whatever angle he was working wasn’t going to play out. He left us alone for the rest of the night. For a split second I thought he might want to fight but fuck that, I’m too old for that nonsense.
the most acadmemic way is — “Your continued presence is neither required nor beneficial to the discourse. Kindly excuse yourself before further irrelevance accumulates.”
Context matters but just playing devils advocate, in general, what constitutes emotional intelligence is largely culturally conditioned. Why can’t telling someone to fuck off also be emotionally intelligent? Maybe you’ve reached a point where clear and concise communication is necessary and this you being confident enough to make a clear statement and define a clear boundary.
The Op asks for an emotionally intelligent way to tell someone to fuck off. Only a couple of answers here get anywhere close.
First thing is that there is no one answer to the question. An emotionally intelligent response takes context intake account. Context is the situation itself, is the other person’s state of mind, your own state of mind, and the outcome you want to see.
Non verbal, adult intelligence dramatic eye roll, adolescent intelligence flip the bird, child intelligence flick a booger at them,,, super smart use all three and they will never talk to you again.
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I hope you find whatever it is you’re looking for—just preferably very far away from me.
Hit them with the dismissive parental smile – like no matter what they say or do, they’ll just be an adorable little baby of a child in your eyes.
Your expression should emanate the vibe of AWWWWWWWWW.
I’d agree with you but then we’d both be wrong
Have the day you deserve.
Please just leave me alone.
Fuck off….please.
“Fuck off, I don’t have time for your nonsense.”
Try to set boundaries without being rude. I’m done talking about this. Have a nice day.
Aw bless your heart!
Devour feculence
Bless your heart – southern style
.good for you – professional style
Me saying anything positive or negative will be engagement with you so I chose silence
Just say it
With all due respect, and emotional intelligence, fuck off.
You can say something like, “I think it’s best for both of us if we take some space right now. I need to focus on my own well-being.”
Isolate them from your existence
Your opinion has been duly noted.
Go have clone coitus.
I don’t find peace when I’m around you, can you give me some space please?
Emotional intelligence doesn’t tell people to fuck off. It’s like asking ‘What’s the best non-violent way to punch someone in the face?’
The most emotionally intelligent way to deal with someone you want to tell to fuck off, is to recognise that they weren’t put here to meet your needs, distance yourself from them, and look after your needs yourself.
“Bless your heart”
I still haven’t found a way to say fuck you politely.
“You do you”
“Why bless your heart”
“You do you…”
Obviously we British will say, “That’s interesting…”
The art, is on the eye and the tone when you say it. For instance, “You have done a interestingly GREAT job..”
i don’t think we are intellectually compatible to continue this social interaction
“I have neither the crayons nor patience to explain this to you.”
You want to speak clear, concise language direct about your intention, interest, thought and feeling.
Good day
“Have the day you deserve.”
My mom’s uncle used to say, “Bless you and be on your way!”
Just throwing this out there, but you can always just tell them to fuck off.
Welllll bless you too!
Fuck the fuck off you fucking fucker.
Ignore them completely. You don’t engage with stupid.
Why bless your heart.
Older southern woman would put on her kindest most heart warming voice and just say “bless your heart”
Shit on their desk
When in an argument I’ve used the old: I can explain it to you but I can’t understand it for you.
Silence
I always say“that’s interesting” when they are totally wrong or to end the conversation
I believe, in the south, it is “Bless Your Heart”
You can show off your English mastery and use Fuck to its fullest potential:
Fuck you you fucking fuck
Honestly? Probably just saying a straightforward “fuck off” is the most emotionally intelligent.
Thanks for bringing this issue to my attention, if there’s nothing left to discuss I need to get back to my priorities.
“I hear you. I don’t agree with you. Either we talk about something else, or you talk to someone else.”
Fair enough
I honestly think that “Fuck Off” is a healthy way to do it. 2 words. No misinterpreting.
You just don’t give them any of your energy or attention. Focus on what’s important in your life and it’s like a big FU to them without doing anything harmful
Tell em to fuck off!
“Go forth and multiply.”
“OH, bless your heart”
I don’t think our goals in this transaction are compatible.
By telling someone ” I hope you have the day you deserve”
“Have a blessed day.”
Telling someone to fuck off is very satisfying though, just use that.
I just tell them to fuck off. If it’s gotten to that point where that’s what’s in my mind, we’re well past civility.
I politely ask you to leave me alone, as your presence isn’t desired in the current moment. Thank you very much.
I’m sorry your daddy didn’t love you enough.
“Thy presence is bereft of my courtesy.”
The South has “bless your heart” so for my home state of California, I’ve started saying the more culturally appropriate:
I love that journey for you!
Literally by saying “Fuck Off”…
I was badly hurt by someone I thought was a friend. I waited 3 months, still felt hurt so hurt them to their face as effectively as I could with cruel invective including telling them to fuck off. 3 years later, I don’t regret it. It made me feel better and helped me to move on.
Just “Fuck Off”….
You are not worth my time.
not interested, thanks
Your involvement with my life is no longer required.
“I envy those who have never met you” or “I’m going to fuck off now, you should too”
Go forth and multiply
When given advice on something my go to : “Thank you for your input on this.”
I’ve found that saying “Hey, what’s your end game here? How do you want this to go?” Works well. Recent example; I met some girls I went to high school with to catch up and grab a drink. Basically a mini reunion after 25-30 years. I’m happily married too but this guy kept coming up to us and bothering us. Asking why they were with me and not him. I finally nicely told him we were all friends. All married and whatever angle he was working wasn’t going to play out. He left us alone for the rest of the night. For a split second I thought he might want to fight but fuck that, I’m too old for that nonsense.
the most acadmemic way is — “Your continued presence is neither required nor beneficial to the discourse. Kindly excuse yourself before further irrelevance accumulates.”
I usually just go with a dismissive look and a chuckle followed by “OK” then walk away.
Intelligence is constantly chasing after you, yet somehow you always seem to be faster
Have the day you deserve, goodbye.
This isn’t good for me, so I’m walking away take care.
Pls i would love if you could kindly get out.
Tell them straight out,
“I can’t respond to this tone of this conversation”
Don’t. Just excuse yourself and cut that person out of your life.
Context matters but just playing devils advocate, in general, what constitutes emotional intelligence is largely culturally conditioned. Why can’t telling someone to fuck off also be emotionally intelligent? Maybe you’ve reached a point where clear and concise communication is necessary and this you being confident enough to make a clear statement and define a clear boundary.
Look them in the eyes and just say “no… no thank you.” And leave it at that.
If you want someone to disappear from your life just borrow them money. You’ll never see them again
The Op asks for an emotionally intelligent way to tell someone to fuck off. Only a couple of answers here get anywhere close.
First thing is that there is no one answer to the question. An emotionally intelligent response takes context intake account. Context is the situation itself, is the other person’s state of mind, your own state of mind, and the outcome you want to see.
Bless your heart.
“That sounds like a you problem.”
“Thank you for your feedback”
Do I know you?
“I envy people who have never met you.”
You’re a boner-biting bastard, uncle fucker!
“I’m going to pray for you”
I respect your perspective, but I’m going to step away from this conversation for my own peace. Take care
Tell them in the sweetest voice: ‘have a lovely day’
“Because of our irreconcilable differences, I believe it’s best that we go our separate ways.”
No, thank you.
Ignore them
Non verbal, adult intelligence dramatic eye roll, adolescent intelligence flip the bird, child intelligence flick a booger at them,,, super smart use all three and they will never talk to you again.
Devour feculence.
We’ve both said everything we need to say. Let’s not waste any more of each other’s time here.
“I don’t think either of us has anything to gain from continuing this conversation”
” You can test that assumption at your convenience”
Captain Picard
I need you to have sexual intercourse with the concept of going away.
Passive aggressively posting about it on reddit surely
“Fuck off” works just fine
I guess it takes a special type of person to get used to you
If you are at the point here you want to tell someone to fuck off there are no intelligent ways to do that.
You either say nothing and walk away.
Or you tell them to fuck off.