Mine was insta stalking my long term boyfriend and looking for evidence that he was a cheater bc she firmly believed he was despite having absolutely no reason to believe that. This went on for 8 months before she admitted it to me. I ended up blocking her and never speaking to her again.
We were best friends in high school. He became homophobic. I found his “gays are going to hell” attitude embarrassing around my other friends. Shoulda cut ties then, but I had more growing up to do.
So one night we’re tying one on at his place, I’m shitty drunk and ready to pass out. He starts telling me he’s seeing a girl from work. I’m super excited!!! I felt he’d stop being so weird (awkward, homophobic, etc) if he just got laid. I start asking him about it, what they do for fun, who asked who, the usual questions.
They’ve never hung out, they’ve never even had a full conversation. I’m super confused. He starts telling me how he enters her dreams at night, and they date and fuck while they sleep. Also how he can tell she’s on the same page or wavelength or whatever whenever they make eye contact at work.
I do my best to not act alarmed. Tell him I’m going to bed. Laid on his couch for hours way too terrified to fall asleep. At some point I sobered up enough and drove home. Completely ghosted that guy after that.
In hindsight I wish I’d done…… something. Can’t change the past.
She got weirdly obsessed with my cat. Like, showed up at my house unannounced just to see him, bought him expensive gifts, and even tried to convince me she should have partial custody. The last straw was when she made an Instagram account pretending to be him.
I had to act like her mum cuz her parents expected me to. And then she’d do stuff like sneak out and they’d expect me to lecture her or tell her she shouldn’t do that
Racism. I thought we were past that in the 21st century, but someone made some comments on Facebook and so that was it. My wife’s family moved here (UK) in the late 70s from Nigeria, and my wife was born here, so I’m pretty much a zero sum anti-racist. I can’t abide it.
I told a friend about her boyfriend cheating on her and my entire friend group (including her), viewed me as a scumbag for not putting “bros before hos”.
Another friend I ended things with because he convinced me to work at his dad’s business, lied to me multiple times about my wage, and I left 6 months later, with them owing me $6k+ in promised salary/commissions. A couple months later, he called me crying apologizing for everything. When he realized that I didn’t forgive him, he walked everything back, contradicted his own statements and tried to gaslight me about everything. Oh and once when he was drunk the same guy pointed a loaded gun at my head. Tbh I probably should have ended things right after that.
They one day pulled me aside and told me they had certain thoughts about me, and I told them I did not feel the same and was uncomfortable to be around them now that they’re telling me this. They then for the next couple months took me away from all my other friends and would grab me in inappropriate places against my will—but I was too scared to tell anyone so I just stayed quiet. At the time I was 16 and they were 18, so it was assaulting a minor as well. Still, they managed to get all my friends on their side because they told them I was imagining it because of my mental disorders. I was not, it was very real, and I’m changed from it.
I had a friend for several years who was completely exhausting. We hadn’t spoken in a while and she reached out to me. Her mom had long covid so I’d asked how her mom was doing and if she’d still been sick, and she basically told me that the question was disingenuous and implied I was a bad person for asking? So I called it lol, shrugged and blocked her
He always had bad things to say about everyone, speaking down about them (I believe to make himself feel superior) – I assume he spoke of me this way when I wasn’t around.
Oh – and, when I wasn’t around, he told others that he would “totally fuck” my girlfriend of several years. Which, he constantly gave me shit for dating her in the first place.
I had a lifelong childhood friend quit talking to me years ago because I wouldn’t say I supported Clinton in the 2016 election. Imagine breaking up a 20+ year old friendship over someone that doesn’t even know you exist.
My friend almost got me shot because he went from being the most tolerant and accepting of everybody person I know to a racist far right extremist.
And no I am not exaggerating when I say racist. He would say the n word with impunity and couldn’t even watch basketball anymore without talking about “the n words and the jews”. This from the guy who had an argument with me that Dirk wasn’t a superstar because he wasn’t as great a scorer as Iverson.
If you actually understood the racial abuse he suffered as a white kid growing up in mostly black areas though, you could see how it would be possible for him to go that way. There’s nothing okay about it but I always understood it didn’t happen out of nowhere. His experiences were completely different than mine.
We were out at a bakery and a really old, really sweet man tripped and fell, cutting his forehead on the corner of a table. Not only did he not help the poor guy, but when I ran to help and got napkins to stop the bleeding, he accused me of “enjoying touching other men”. Killed every single positive emotion I’ve had towards him in one fell swoop.
The other person was insane. An example was she used the death of my father to start an argument with someone else who she decided wasn’t showing empathy for me (though they had no knowledge of the recent death). It was classic narcissism from her, she wanted to be the person to berate because she didn’t actually know how to interact with people in a positive way.
Weirdest story. Had a close friend who had another close friend who didn’t like me for an objectively silly reason/no reason. Even though she knew that and even though I’d broken my back to take her on an out of the country trip with my friends, when it was time for her bday. She invited she , I and others all the way to Greece and said that if we couldn’t get it together for her, she’d never travel with us again. I ended the friendship bc I felt responsible for the actions of someone who was objectively irrational. So weird.
Former best friend was lusting after a girl who was about to turn 18, once she did he forcibly kissed her and when she said she didn’t consent to that he said in pure confidence “consent only applies to sex”.
For context he was 26 at the time and had known this girl since she was 13.
Former best friend was lusting after a girl who was about to turn 18, once she did he forcibly kissed her and when she said she didn’t consent to that he said in pure confidence “consent only applies to sex”.
For context he was 26 at the time and had known this girl since she was 13.
She called me a whore and alleged that I was whoring myself out to our male friends because we decided to go for a couple of drinks after lunch after a long overdue meet.
I had to cut ties with a so-called “friend” after I realized she was actively working against me. I shared news about an exciting job opportunity, and the next day, she somehow found a way to speak negatively about me to the company. It wasn’t just the betrayal that hurt, but the fact that someone I considered a friend could actively try to bring me down. Some people just don’t want to see you succeed, and sometimes, you have to let go of those toxic people
She was ten times crazier than me. Would expect consistent messaging every day or else I “wasn’t a real friend”. Told me I was with my partner because I’m used to abuse.
I am a doctor who was in residency during covid. She is a nurse and antivax. She was so deep into the conspiracy that she got suspended from her job because she refused to get vaccinated and didn’t see her severely ill mom for two years or so because she couldn’t travel without proof of vaccination (this was 2020-2021).
She was adamant about vaccines being poisonous in the long term and doctors being corrupted. At one point we couldn’t talk about anything without getting into a fight. I was so frustrated I didn’t recognise my friend anymore.
Ex best friend cheated on a close friend with my childhood friend that I introduced them to (only properly even spoke to each other for just over a month but knew each other for a year), insisted on keeping the childhood friend around and trying to ‘understand’ their feelings for childhood friend despite my close friend trying to fix things between them (they even went to couples therapy with childhood friend before close friend, their partner) and then when I tried to make them take accountability so we could start to try and properly address and fix things, they weaponised therapy speak, accused me of trying to manipulate and coerce them into me being their only friend. (I had already cut off our friendship at this point and weren’t friends, I reached out to talk and get closure)
I couldn’t handle the clearly fabricated and false accusations and projection (they had manipulated others close to them by showing them it of context snippets from the letter I sent her to make me out to be horrible) and was so tired of trying so hard on my own and being made out to be a villain for it, that I cut things off. Mutually I thought, but they had to have the last say and ‘had their eyes opened’ to how I responded to them ‘standing up for themselves’. Then, they blocked me across all social media.
Last I heard, it was still a toxic mess of a love triangle. I even cut ties with close friend as a result of it all.
Ex best friend was clearly toxic in the end, wrapped up in their own guilt and pain and selfish desires that they couldn’t see the reality of the impact of their own actions or properly address it, choosing instead to keep those who provided idiot compassion (close friend), echo chambers (childhood friend) or ‘yes’ men. Anything to avoid facing the responsibility and pain.
Stupidly enough I still miss them. So damn much. I wish they had been in a better place to see their wrongs and that what I was saying was from a place of concern and compassion, not a personal attack as they took it. I wasn’t asking them to grovel for forgiveness. Just address the reality of what they did and try to fix things. Everyone that cut them off because of it just wanted accountability, for them to cut off childhood friend (toxic in the end) and decide to stay or break up with close friend. But they wouldn’t.
I still hope for the person I knew to be in there, to reach out when they’re in a better place. But I don’t think it’ll ever happen. The hope itself is causing me grief enough as it is. I want to move on, I just wish it was together with ex best friend.
Would make racist comments and joke with executions. When I found myself doing backup plans for if/when things go south when visiting, that’s how I knew I had to end it.
She accused me of cheating on my husband (which never happened. I simply had dinner with a friend and let my husband know where and who I was headed out with beforehand and even invited) and then proceeded to post about me being a cheater and abusive partner online. In the aftermath her own friends came over to apologize to me for her hurtful behavior and took my side.
Another former friend told me I was a terrible person for deciding I wasn’t ready to be a parent when I had an abortion and said that I used it as a form birth control. I should have been a lot more scathing in our friend breakup, but I told her I was not obligated to dish out my private medical decisions and to take her anger to her (soon to be) ex-husband.
Finally, the last friend had been a longterm horrible friend who used drugs and mentally abused me. I had enough and snapped at her for treating me so badly. I should have snapped long ago, but hey, love makes you do things you wouldn’t expect. She used to stonewall me, reduce my feelings, lie to me all the time, etc. the list goes on.
All in all I’m glad I severed these friends. I can’t say they offered me much and my life instantly improved the moment they were gone and I met more quality friends.
There were a lot of issues with her, but the one I remeber the most was when she stayed over at my house. She got blind drunk and went to bed in my spare room. Her and her boyfriend had disrespectfully loud sex to the point that my Mother heard them (we were 21 at the time so I was still living at home). This was disgusting and so disrespectful in my opinion. My poor mom was mortified.
To top it off, she (my ex-friend) was so drunk that she wet the bed!! At some point in the night, she stumbled to the bathroom to clean herself up and she left the tap in the sink on and flooded the whole bathroom. She didn’t even apologize in the morning and just left when the boyfriends mom came to fetch them.
I decided to give them one more chance as I reasoned that she had been very drunk and probably so embarrassed that she didn’t even know how to apologize.
Then – the final straw.
I had also paid for her and the boyfriend to come on a camping trip with us and a group of my other friends whom they had never met before. The entry tickets to the reserve were paid for by me, and myself and other friends had bought all the food and drinks. So for these two, it was a free weekend. You would think they would have been grateful.
But, she was absolutely miserable from the start. She refused to get along with my other friends and texted me constantly to complain about them. They did absolutely nothing to her and tried their best to get to know her, but she had decided they were “stuck up” and refused to be friendly with them. She sent me a text saying “I never thought you would be friends with people like this. These girls are so bitchy”.
These are some of the friendliest and least stuck up people you will ever meet. Absolutely not bitchy at all.
She and the boyfriend isolated themselves in their tent and made everything super awkward. He only came out to re-fill their drinks with alcohol we had all bought and then to dish themselves food once it was cooked. It was so awakward and I was so embarrassed. Eventually, they both came out of the tent together and announced that the boyfriend wasn’t feeling well and that they were going to leave. They packed up their tent and left.
That was it for me. I always suspected she had no respect for me, but that 100% confirmed it. And that behavior after the way she had behaved at my house was really the final nail in the coffin of our friendship.
They stopped putting in the effort and blocked me for no reason.
Stopped calling/texting. always hungout with another friend of ours instead, maybe because she was able to drive her places and I couldn’t.(Having a visual impairment that keeps me from ever driving+ no correction)
Never suggested to bring me along when I found out they went to the mall, movies or diners together.
Dunno what happened, don’t care anymore. It’s been at least a decade ago but that shit hurts still.
20 years ago, he stole £250 from my bank account (he worked there) and thought I wouldn’t notice.
I wasn’t well-off but I happened to have a couple of grand on the account at the time, which was money I’d transferred from savings to pay for my father’s funeral. My dad had died a few days before and I was all over the place. My “friend” was in a financial bind, so I said he could borrow £200 from my account and as he needed it urgently, I said he could transfer it by filing out the appropriate bank forms and get them processed in his branch immediately – and I’d sign them later. This was in the days long before we all had apps to do that sort of thing and cheques were still all the rage. Everything was paper-based and had (and needed) an audit trail.
He took £250 rather than the £200 we’d agreed then a couple of days later helped himself to another £200. This was only days before he was due to leave the bank and go and work for a solicitor’s instead. I got the money back, when I threatened to call the police and shop him to his new bosses.
Found out later that he was well-known for fleecing former friends in this way. No scruples.
Funnily enough, I stumbled across his blog completely by accident a few months ago he’s living in a new part of the country now) and have occasionally wondered if I should comment on it about what a shit he was.
Insane level of jealousy that till this day makes no sense to me. For example, one time in high school I got a higher grade then her and she ignored me for the entire day. This continouied untill I finally saw it end in our 20s I ended the toxic “friendship” if you can even call it that.
He wasn’t my friend but a friend of a friend. While driving on a winding mountain road at a blind corner he would cross into the on coming lane and yell out time for a blinder obviously risking a head on collision.
She tried to be very controlling and jealous of anyone who talk to me. She create memories in her head that we did and I be like yeah that didn’t happen.
My ex best friend got mad at me for something, had no idea what.. instead of telling me she sent me death threats and told her Twitter followers to harass, stalk and cyber bully me. It never happened lmfao. She was insane.
One of my childhood best friends and I had been through a lot together as teens. Deaths, druggy parents, SA, etc. We always talked about being each other’s bridesmaids and how amazing it would be. When it came time for me to get married, I of course asked her to be a bridesmaid. She was overjoyed and accepted. Missed every single dress try on/event.
Refused to buy her own dress ($30, we found it on clearance) because she was “broke” then proceeded to shop in front of us the same day at the same place, buying $60 of stuff. All of the other people in our wedding party paid for their own stuff because it was cheap 🤷🏼♀️ this was just a huge slap in the face and an obvious lie. We made a deal that because I’m buying it, that frees up money for her to come to our after wedding party (we were going go Karting and paint balling with our closest friends) she agreed and said she wouldn’t miss it for the world.
Showed up for the Bachelorette party not in the colors we asked, (just black, which is literally half her wardrobe so no excuse for that one) and refused to wear the cute sashes and light up flower crowns my maid of honor got us. Was a buzzkill the entire time. She also was supposed to come get ready at my place with me and my maid of honor, didn’t show.
The last straw, however was when she showed up hours late (20mins before ceremony started) to my wedding, hungover and reeking of weed and alcohol not in her dress, no makeup or hair done, nothing. She then asked to use my curling iron as I was trying to finish my hair. The worst part? She was the one bringing the photographer. So we have almost 0 pictures of us getting ready, and none of my husband im his getting ready area.
She then volunteers to check and see if my husband has already walked down the aisle, then tells me it’s all clear so I head out and nope, there’s husband. Luckily he didn’t see me (we were doing a big reveal and hadn’t seen each other in days to make it more special)
Then after the wedding she keeps asking when we will be done with photos. When when when. Then finally when we are done, she says hey we will meet you at the next place.
Okay, could have helped clean up but that’s fine. Me and my maid of honor and husband did it all. Then I get a text from her about 10 minutes after she left saying that they couldn’t make it but to have fun. That’s it. No explanation, no apology. I just texted back, “Wow”. That was it.
For 2 years, she didn’t once reach out. She knew my husband was being deployed, knew I was all alone. Knew I was hurt. Then one day she texted me to ask how I was doing. I didn’t even know who it was because I had deleted her number. Once she told me. I told her everything that she did and how it made me feel. She didn’t even apologize. She said, “I’m sorry you felt that way.” 🙄🙄🙄 I told her to never text me again and that was 2 years ago now.
Had a friend of 3 years, everything was normal at first but then I had to drop her because she was getting insanely obsessed with her religion and telling people about it and trying to get people close to her to convert to her religion…….it was traumatizing tbh. I used to avoid that as much as possible in our convos but it became unbearable as she got into it more
I couldn’t stand to be around her husband. He was abusive towards her and their children, and I knew what a piece of garbage he was. She tried to leave him and I tried to help, but she ultimately decided to stay with him.
It was too hard for me to keep my mouth shut, I wanted to kick his ass.
So I ended my friendship with her, because I knew she would never leave him. I couldn’t watch her deteriorate anymore.
I still hope that someday she’ll call me and say she’s left for good, but I think I’ll get her death notification before that…
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They didn’t thank the bus driver
When I realized it was always one way. I was there for him, never the other way around.
They faked cancer.
They became a part of Qanon
He stole my cookie.
They snitched and snitches get stitches
They mentioned they would bring a convict to a kids party.
They became a “Christian” and started spewing the most unbelievable hateful things.
She fucked with my Brother 👀
Toxicity. What else would it be?
They tried to date rape a mutual friend.
She asked every guy if they’d rather sleep with her or me behind my back.
she was unhealthily obsessed with me and was trying to isolate me from everyone so that she would be the only one i had
He went rating to my girlfriend about me
told people about suicide attempt
Mine was insta stalking my long term boyfriend and looking for evidence that he was a cheater bc she firmly believed he was despite having absolutely no reason to believe that. This went on for 8 months before she admitted it to me. I ended up blocking her and never speaking to her again.
honestly, the quiet ones are the wildest
We were best friends in high school. He became homophobic. I found his “gays are going to hell” attitude embarrassing around my other friends. Shoulda cut ties then, but I had more growing up to do.
So one night we’re tying one on at his place, I’m shitty drunk and ready to pass out. He starts telling me he’s seeing a girl from work. I’m super excited!!! I felt he’d stop being so weird (awkward, homophobic, etc) if he just got laid. I start asking him about it, what they do for fun, who asked who, the usual questions.
They’ve never hung out, they’ve never even had a full conversation. I’m super confused. He starts telling me how he enters her dreams at night, and they date and fuck while they sleep. Also how he can tell she’s on the same page or wavelength or whatever whenever they make eye contact at work.
I do my best to not act alarmed. Tell him I’m going to bed. Laid on his couch for hours way too terrified to fall asleep. At some point I sobered up enough and drove home. Completely ghosted that guy after that.
In hindsight I wish I’d done…… something. Can’t change the past.
Accused me and other people of homophobia (he wasn’t gay)
She got weirdly obsessed with my cat. Like, showed up at my house unannounced just to see him, bought him expensive gifts, and even tried to convince me she should have partial custody. The last straw was when she made an Instagram account pretending to be him.
I had to act like her mum cuz her parents expected me to. And then she’d do stuff like sneak out and they’d expect me to lecture her or tell her she shouldn’t do that
Tried to sell me a pyramid scheme
Racism. I thought we were past that in the 21st century, but someone made some comments on Facebook and so that was it. My wife’s family moved here (UK) in the late 70s from Nigeria, and my wife was born here, so I’m pretty much a zero sum anti-racist. I can’t abide it.
I told a friend about her boyfriend cheating on her and my entire friend group (including her), viewed me as a scumbag for not putting “bros before hos”.
Another friend I ended things with because he convinced me to work at his dad’s business, lied to me multiple times about my wage, and I left 6 months later, with them owing me $6k+ in promised salary/commissions. A couple months later, he called me crying apologizing for everything. When he realized that I didn’t forgive him, he walked everything back, contradicted his own statements and tried to gaslight me about everything. Oh and once when he was drunk the same guy pointed a loaded gun at my head. Tbh I probably should have ended things right after that.
TW: Sexual Assault.
They one day pulled me aside and told me they had certain thoughts about me, and I told them I did not feel the same and was uncomfortable to be around them now that they’re telling me this. They then for the next couple months took me away from all my other friends and would grab me in inappropriate places against my will—but I was too scared to tell anyone so I just stayed quiet. At the time I was 16 and they were 18, so it was assaulting a minor as well. Still, they managed to get all my friends on their side because they told them I was imagining it because of my mental disorders. I was not, it was very real, and I’m changed from it.
She thought ADHD is caused by smartphones and wouldn’t let up, even when I – a severe ADHD sufferer myself – sent her research saying they don’t.
She was married, something I found out 3 months in. Broke up immediately.
He said there are two truths yours and mind… went full on Trump.
I had a friend for several years who was completely exhausting. We hadn’t spoken in a while and she reached out to me. Her mom had long covid so I’d asked how her mom was doing and if she’d still been sick, and she basically told me that the question was disingenuous and implied I was a bad person for asking? So I called it lol, shrugged and blocked her
He always had bad things to say about everyone, speaking down about them (I believe to make himself feel superior) – I assume he spoke of me this way when I wasn’t around.
Oh – and, when I wasn’t around, he told others that he would “totally fuck” my girlfriend of several years. Which, he constantly gave me shit for dating her in the first place.
He redeemed it 😔
I had a lifelong childhood friend quit talking to me years ago because I wouldn’t say I supported Clinton in the 2016 election. Imagine breaking up a 20+ year old friendship over someone that doesn’t even know you exist.
She likes kids and is now on a watch list.
Bridezilla ..is a real living thing. I was maid of honor thats all the info you need.
I stopped talking to a good friend immediately when I found out he’d been raping his 12-year old stepdaughter.
I’ve got feelings for her and told her. She hurt me bad. Pretty bad.
He married a moron hillbilly who wanted a free ride
My friend almost got me shot because he went from being the most tolerant and accepting of everybody person I know to a racist far right extremist.
And no I am not exaggerating when I say racist. He would say the n word with impunity and couldn’t even watch basketball anymore without talking about “the n words and the jews”. This from the guy who had an argument with me that Dirk wasn’t a superstar because he wasn’t as great a scorer as Iverson.
If you actually understood the racial abuse he suffered as a white kid growing up in mostly black areas though, you could see how it would be possible for him to go that way. There’s nothing okay about it but I always understood it didn’t happen out of nowhere. His experiences were completely different than mine.
They always made a face when I was venting and would look away lol
We were out at a bakery and a really old, really sweet man tripped and fell, cutting his forehead on the corner of a table. Not only did he not help the poor guy, but when I ran to help and got napkins to stop the bleeding, he accused me of “enjoying touching other men”. Killed every single positive emotion I’ve had towards him in one fell swoop.
The other person was insane. An example was she used the death of my father to start an argument with someone else who she decided wasn’t showing empathy for me (though they had no knowledge of the recent death). It was classic narcissism from her, she wanted to be the person to berate because she didn’t actually know how to interact with people in a positive way.
Weirdest story. Had a close friend who had another close friend who didn’t like me for an objectively silly reason/no reason. Even though she knew that and even though I’d broken my back to take her on an out of the country trip with my friends, when it was time for her bday. She invited she , I and others all the way to Greece and said that if we couldn’t get it together for her, she’d never travel with us again. I ended the friendship bc I felt responsible for the actions of someone who was objectively irrational. So weird.
Former best friend was lusting after a girl who was about to turn 18, once she did he forcibly kissed her and when she said she didn’t consent to that he said in pure confidence “consent only applies to sex”.
For context he was 26 at the time and had known this girl since she was 13.
I didnt apologize to her after she failed a clutch in cs2 and blamed me for it.
Former best friend was lusting after a girl who was about to turn 18, once she did he forcibly kissed her and when she said she didn’t consent to that he said in pure confidence “consent only applies to sex”.
For context he was 26 at the time and had known this girl since she was 13.
They admitted to animal abuse
Pretended to be gay just to break off the relationship
She called me a whore and alleged that I was whoring myself out to our male friends because we decided to go for a couple of drinks after lunch after a long overdue meet.
found out he was a pedophile 🤮
He started smoking meth and beating up his girlfriends. Currently in jail.
I had to cut ties with a so-called “friend” after I realized she was actively working against me. I shared news about an exciting job opportunity, and the next day, she somehow found a way to speak negatively about me to the company. It wasn’t just the betrayal that hurt, but the fact that someone I considered a friend could actively try to bring me down. Some people just don’t want to see you succeed, and sometimes, you have to let go of those toxic people
She was ten times crazier than me. Would expect consistent messaging every day or else I “wasn’t a real friend”. Told me I was with my partner because I’m used to abuse.
I am a doctor who was in residency during covid. She is a nurse and antivax. She was so deep into the conspiracy that she got suspended from her job because she refused to get vaccinated and didn’t see her severely ill mom for two years or so because she couldn’t travel without proof of vaccination (this was 2020-2021).
She was adamant about vaccines being poisonous in the long term and doctors being corrupted. At one point we couldn’t talk about anything without getting into a fight. I was so frustrated I didn’t recognise my friend anymore.
We were friends since kindergarten. I miss her.
Ex best friend cheated on a close friend with my childhood friend that I introduced them to (only properly even spoke to each other for just over a month but knew each other for a year), insisted on keeping the childhood friend around and trying to ‘understand’ their feelings for childhood friend despite my close friend trying to fix things between them (they even went to couples therapy with childhood friend before close friend, their partner) and then when I tried to make them take accountability so we could start to try and properly address and fix things, they weaponised therapy speak, accused me of trying to manipulate and coerce them into me being their only friend. (I had already cut off our friendship at this point and weren’t friends, I reached out to talk and get closure)
I couldn’t handle the clearly fabricated and false accusations and projection (they had manipulated others close to them by showing them it of context snippets from the letter I sent her to make me out to be horrible) and was so tired of trying so hard on my own and being made out to be a villain for it, that I cut things off. Mutually I thought, but they had to have the last say and ‘had their eyes opened’ to how I responded to them ‘standing up for themselves’. Then, they blocked me across all social media.
Last I heard, it was still a toxic mess of a love triangle. I even cut ties with close friend as a result of it all.
Ex best friend was clearly toxic in the end, wrapped up in their own guilt and pain and selfish desires that they couldn’t see the reality of the impact of their own actions or properly address it, choosing instead to keep those who provided idiot compassion (close friend), echo chambers (childhood friend) or ‘yes’ men. Anything to avoid facing the responsibility and pain.
Stupidly enough I still miss them. So damn much. I wish they had been in a better place to see their wrongs and that what I was saying was from a place of concern and compassion, not a personal attack as they took it. I wasn’t asking them to grovel for forgiveness. Just address the reality of what they did and try to fix things. Everyone that cut them off because of it just wanted accountability, for them to cut off childhood friend (toxic in the end) and decide to stay or break up with close friend. But they wouldn’t.
I still hope for the person I knew to be in there, to reach out when they’re in a better place. But I don’t think it’ll ever happen. The hope itself is causing me grief enough as it is. I want to move on, I just wish it was together with ex best friend.
It was a twofer: he sexually assaulted me, and she denied that it happened.
Would make racist comments and joke with executions. When I found myself doing backup plans for if/when things go south when visiting, that’s how I knew I had to end it.
told a coworker alex jones was crazy and got told back i was a broken man, ok then byeeeeee
My husband (now ex) forced me to. My best friend was on to his lies, and he didn’t like it. Years later, I divorced him and rekindled the friendship.
She accused me of cheating on my husband (which never happened. I simply had dinner with a friend and let my husband know where and who I was headed out with beforehand and even invited) and then proceeded to post about me being a cheater and abusive partner online. In the aftermath her own friends came over to apologize to me for her hurtful behavior and took my side.
Another former friend told me I was a terrible person for deciding I wasn’t ready to be a parent when I had an abortion and said that I used it as a form birth control. I should have been a lot more scathing in our friend breakup, but I told her I was not obligated to dish out my private medical decisions and to take her anger to her (soon to be) ex-husband.
Finally, the last friend had been a longterm horrible friend who used drugs and mentally abused me. I had enough and snapped at her for treating me so badly. I should have snapped long ago, but hey, love makes you do things you wouldn’t expect. She used to stonewall me, reduce my feelings, lie to me all the time, etc. the list goes on.
All in all I’m glad I severed these friends. I can’t say they offered me much and my life instantly improved the moment they were gone and I met more quality friends.
Total lack of respect for me and my home.
There were a lot of issues with her, but the one I remeber the most was when she stayed over at my house. She got blind drunk and went to bed in my spare room. Her and her boyfriend had disrespectfully loud sex to the point that my Mother heard them (we were 21 at the time so I was still living at home). This was disgusting and so disrespectful in my opinion. My poor mom was mortified.
To top it off, she (my ex-friend) was so drunk that she wet the bed!! At some point in the night, she stumbled to the bathroom to clean herself up and she left the tap in the sink on and flooded the whole bathroom. She didn’t even apologize in the morning and just left when the boyfriends mom came to fetch them.
I decided to give them one more chance as I reasoned that she had been very drunk and probably so embarrassed that she didn’t even know how to apologize.
Then – the final straw.
I had also paid for her and the boyfriend to come on a camping trip with us and a group of my other friends whom they had never met before. The entry tickets to the reserve were paid for by me, and myself and other friends had bought all the food and drinks. So for these two, it was a free weekend. You would think they would have been grateful.
But, she was absolutely miserable from the start. She refused to get along with my other friends and texted me constantly to complain about them. They did absolutely nothing to her and tried their best to get to know her, but she had decided they were “stuck up” and refused to be friendly with them. She sent me a text saying “I never thought you would be friends with people like this. These girls are so bitchy”.
These are some of the friendliest and least stuck up people you will ever meet. Absolutely not bitchy at all.
She and the boyfriend isolated themselves in their tent and made everything super awkward. He only came out to re-fill their drinks with alcohol we had all bought and then to dish themselves food once it was cooked. It was so awakward and I was so embarrassed. Eventually, they both came out of the tent together and announced that the boyfriend wasn’t feeling well and that they were going to leave. They packed up their tent and left.
That was it for me. I always suspected she had no respect for me, but that 100% confirmed it. And that behavior after the way she had behaved at my house was really the final nail in the coffin of our friendship.
They blamed my son when they caught their kid with cigarettes.
They stopped putting in the effort and blocked me for no reason.
Stopped calling/texting. always hungout with another friend of ours instead, maybe because she was able to drive her places and I couldn’t.(Having a visual impairment that keeps me from ever driving+ no correction)
Never suggested to bring me along when I found out they went to the mall, movies or diners together.
Dunno what happened, don’t care anymore. It’s been at least a decade ago but that shit hurts still.
20 years ago, he stole £250 from my bank account (he worked there) and thought I wouldn’t notice.
I wasn’t well-off but I happened to have a couple of grand on the account at the time, which was money I’d transferred from savings to pay for my father’s funeral. My dad had died a few days before and I was all over the place. My “friend” was in a financial bind, so I said he could borrow £200 from my account and as he needed it urgently, I said he could transfer it by filing out the appropriate bank forms and get them processed in his branch immediately – and I’d sign them later. This was in the days long before we all had apps to do that sort of thing and cheques were still all the rage. Everything was paper-based and had (and needed) an audit trail.
He took £250 rather than the £200 we’d agreed then a couple of days later helped himself to another £200. This was only days before he was due to leave the bank and go and work for a solicitor’s instead. I got the money back, when I threatened to call the police and shop him to his new bosses.
Found out later that he was well-known for fleecing former friends in this way. No scruples.
Funnily enough, I stumbled across his blog completely by accident a few months ago he’s living in a new part of the country now) and have occasionally wondered if I should comment on it about what a shit he was.
I’m aroace. Knew a gay guy. A week after he accused me of sexually harassing him, he told me to become someone capable of falling in love with him.
If I had a dollar every time my friend group split up because someone had sex with someone’s else’s mother, I’d have $2.
It’s not a lot, but it’s weird it’s happened twice.
Insane level of jealousy that till this day makes no sense to me. For example, one time in high school I got a higher grade then her and she ignored me for the entire day. This continouied untill I finally saw it end in our 20s I ended the toxic “friendship” if you can even call it that.
She faked being pregnant, and her “baby” being still born at 32 weeks.
He wasn’t my friend but a friend of a friend. While driving on a winding mountain road at a blind corner he would cross into the on coming lane and yell out time for a blinder obviously risking a head on collision.
They will exchange friendship by money.
She tried to be very controlling and jealous of anyone who talk to me. She create memories in her head that we did and I be like yeah that didn’t happen.
Bad demons
Realised they were using my apartment to use meth when I wasn’t in, under the guise of “painting the kitchen”.
My ex best friend got mad at me for something, had no idea what.. instead of telling me she sent me death threats and told her Twitter followers to harass, stalk and cyber bully me. It never happened lmfao. She was insane.
Turned out behind my back he was trying to get my wife to sell him nudes.
Drugs, we’re speaking of kilos of drugs.
One of my childhood best friends and I had been through a lot together as teens. Deaths, druggy parents, SA, etc. We always talked about being each other’s bridesmaids and how amazing it would be. When it came time for me to get married, I of course asked her to be a bridesmaid. She was overjoyed and accepted. Missed every single dress try on/event.
Refused to buy her own dress ($30, we found it on clearance) because she was “broke” then proceeded to shop in front of us the same day at the same place, buying $60 of stuff. All of the other people in our wedding party paid for their own stuff because it was cheap 🤷🏼♀️ this was just a huge slap in the face and an obvious lie. We made a deal that because I’m buying it, that frees up money for her to come to our after wedding party (we were going go Karting and paint balling with our closest friends) she agreed and said she wouldn’t miss it for the world.
Showed up for the Bachelorette party not in the colors we asked, (just black, which is literally half her wardrobe so no excuse for that one) and refused to wear the cute sashes and light up flower crowns my maid of honor got us. Was a buzzkill the entire time. She also was supposed to come get ready at my place with me and my maid of honor, didn’t show.
The last straw, however was when she showed up hours late (20mins before ceremony started) to my wedding, hungover and reeking of weed and alcohol not in her dress, no makeup or hair done, nothing. She then asked to use my curling iron as I was trying to finish my hair. The worst part? She was the one bringing the photographer. So we have almost 0 pictures of us getting ready, and none of my husband im his getting ready area.
She then volunteers to check and see if my husband has already walked down the aisle, then tells me it’s all clear so I head out and nope, there’s husband. Luckily he didn’t see me (we were doing a big reveal and hadn’t seen each other in days to make it more special)
Then after the wedding she keeps asking when we will be done with photos. When when when. Then finally when we are done, she says hey we will meet you at the next place.
Okay, could have helped clean up but that’s fine. Me and my maid of honor and husband did it all. Then I get a text from her about 10 minutes after she left saying that they couldn’t make it but to have fun. That’s it. No explanation, no apology. I just texted back, “Wow”. That was it.
For 2 years, she didn’t once reach out. She knew my husband was being deployed, knew I was all alone. Knew I was hurt. Then one day she texted me to ask how I was doing. I didn’t even know who it was because I had deleted her number. Once she told me. I told her everything that she did and how it made me feel. She didn’t even apologize. She said, “I’m sorry you felt that way.” 🙄🙄🙄 I told her to never text me again and that was 2 years ago now.
She slept with my fiancé.
Had a friend of 3 years, everything was normal at first but then I had to drop her because she was getting insanely obsessed with her religion and telling people about it and trying to get people close to her to convert to her religion…….it was traumatizing tbh. I used to avoid that as much as possible in our convos but it became unbearable as she got into it more
Made the mistake of telling a schoolmate where I lived. He wouldn’t stop coming over even though we were barely friends and had nothing in common.
My friend was to me what slade was to Robin lol
I was new in town, he took me to an arcade, pulled his dick out, and just started going crazy on that mf.
they started to talk classes over friendship
My dad slept with his mom. or like him ending it
I couldn’t stand to be around her husband. He was abusive towards her and their children, and I knew what a piece of garbage he was. She tried to leave him and I tried to help, but she ultimately decided to stay with him.
It was too hard for me to keep my mouth shut, I wanted to kick his ass.
So I ended my friendship with her, because I knew she would never leave him. I couldn’t watch her deteriorate anymore.
I still hope that someday she’ll call me and say she’s left for good, but I think I’ll get her death notification before that…
Jehova Witness cult
Best friend started belittling my disabled daughter.
They spent 10+ hours trying to film a music video of themselves while we were on a short and expensive vacation
Siniraan nya ko dahil akala nya inaagawan ko sya ng guy? Luh? Ok F.O na tlga un.