By showing them that you actually listen to them and know them. Going to a place they love or means a lot to her or the both of you, getting their favorite foods and drinks, doing something that they like or that you both have in common.
Make it a fun day were you both laugh a lot and then at the end tell her that you wanted to make it a special day because you had a question, and then just ask if they want to be your girlfriend OR if you can be her boyfriend (assuming this is a straight relationship). Personally I like the latter one more because this implies that you like her so much that you want to be something of her (her boyfriend) instead of asking her if she likes you so much that she wants to be something of you (your girlfriend).
Overall to be seen, heard and known is to be loved, and I think with showing her that you do is the best feeling there is. Adding a bit in from her love language (words of affirmation, physical touch, acts of service, gift giving/receiving or quality time) will make it even better!
I will never not brag on my husband for the way he did it.
We’d been crushing on each other for a long time (about eight months) before we considered adding romance to our purely platonic friendship. But “because reasons” neither one of us felt secure enough to ask the other one out.
TLDR: I decided to attend a church where he plays piano as a side gig. Big step for me, because I was pretty much done with church after escaping the Mormons, but he told me about his Unitarian church and I was intrigued. That plus the music (I play cello so I was interested to hear his piano.)
After church we landed at lunch together so he could help me process what I’d just witnessed — very different from the Mormons.
In the middle of the church conversation, we kind of landed on the fact that both of us were single, and looking. At which point he said he wanted to give me a confession: “I like spending time with you, and I’d like to do more of this. If you’re interested.”
Complete display of interest without any specific expectations, and that was exactly what I needed.
Ngl it was pretty romantic how my boyfriend took me on a date to an aquarium and they had a huge display where you were surrounded by huge fish. He took out a boquet of flowers from his bag and asked me to be his girlfriend.
Depends – are you currently dating but just asking to make things official or are you friends who want to start dating?
In both cases, I’d recommend using the information you’ve learned about them to plan a good day together, just the two of you. Something you’ll know they’ll enjoy, something that relates to their hobbies and shows them that you’ve been listening and paying attention to their interests. Everyone likes to feel seen and understood, so showing them that you’ve been paying attention is going to flatter them no matter what. Then after you’ve had a fun time, find a good time to tell them how you feel, what you admire about them, what you would like your relationship to become, and ask if they might feel the same.
The difference comes if youre actually already dating or not because then you can make it more explicitly romantic. But try to focus your conversations less on the sexual and more on the romance, partnership, and future you could have together since that’s the big thing that would change going from casually dating to becoming official partners.
Okay like literally actually ask her. I’ve had guys that assumed I was their gf and I’m like what r u talking about? You don’t take me on dates, u never had this conversation with me and now ur calling me ur gf? Crazy. Anyway. I’d do a nice romantic dinner and ASK HER. CLEAR COMMUNICATION IS SO HOT.
Ask somewhere private, cozy, or with a memorable view, after an enjoyable date doing something they like. Be 99% confident they had an amazing time, the chemistry was on point, and they are making moony eyes at you. Don’t ask while they’re talking about something sad or difficult or if they’re having a hard day.
Bonus points for peak season vibes (the smell of autumn and windy leaves in the air after a day at the park, a fresh crisp snow and hot cider, warming their hands by rubbing them between your hands, a breezy sunny spring or summer day that smells like coconut sunscreen and flowers blooming). Play up the season and it will feel romantic and nostalgic every year that you’re together 🥰
Personally, I would really like to receive some thoughtful flowers and have them tell me what I mean to them from their heart, before embracing me. Just us.
My husband (boyfriend at the time) just started introducing me that way to people, as we got to know each other better. It happened naturally over the course of our relationship. Very subtle, but very telling and it made me want to be that with him.
Honestly, for me, just about any way would be romantic enough for me. If me and a man I liked were just sitting, watching a movie, and he just comes out and asks it as a surprise, I’d be over the moon.
My bf took me on a trip and had a swan and rose petals in the room. It was very romantic and I love the gesture even though the rose petals are plastic. We joked about they prob recycle and reuse those for other couples too.
My partner and I had been seeing each other for a while before we had officially started dating. We talked about it a lot he knew I didn’t want to just jump into something (due to me having kids) he was very respectful and supportive of it.
He asked me out on a specific date which with all the numbers line up is the route he drove to see me. He drove us to a lake that was very important to me so a special place I loved and that he fell in love with when I took him there. I also told him on one of my late night rambles that he could propose to me with a ring pop.
So on that day he drove us out to the lake at sunset, made me turn around and he got down on one knee said the most sappiest lines ever with a ring pop and asked me to be his girlfriend. After I said yes he proceeded to spray me in the face with silly string.
I’ve only had one girlfriend as I’m a late bloomer lesbian.
So after I got my ex to orgasm, she wanted me to kiss her so I worked my way back to her face and after kissing her we gazed into each other’s eyes for a bit. She then said “kiss me” in a way that conveys “I want you”. Not sexually, not just her body but her as an entirety if that makes sense? So I started off kissing her chin, cheeks, forehead, nose and then a deep sensual kiss at the end. When we stopped for air, I gazed into her eyes again and asked her to be my girlfriend. Also ‘I Wanna Know’ was playing in the background and after she said ‘yes’ I started kissing her again and softly sang parts of the song as I kissed her.
Truth is, there is no one size fits all question. Listen to her, get to know her. My guy asked me after we had been getting each other off for several weeks, and then hanging around to watch star trek, MST3000, and bad kung fu movies. Turns out, yeah, I wanted to do more then just orgasm with him. Seven years later…I come home to my husband.
We first met during the pandemic. We were friends for about six months before we started dating. We had talked a lot about dating and he told me he was willing to wait on my timeline (I wanted to take it slow). I remember after spending a lot of time on one one, I told him this story about how the driver in the car next to me on the drive over was laughing at me for brushing my teeth in the car. My now husband asked “why were you brushing your teeth on the way over?” And I told him “because I’m going to kiss you today.” After I kissed him, I handed him a piece of paper that said “will you be my boyfriend yes or no?” (That meme was big at the time haha). He said yes and kissed me again.
I asked him to marry me the same way 10,000 hours after we first said I love you (we had talked about that being roughly the amount of time it takes to become proficient in something). We were in our apartment, I slow danced with him to the first song we ever slow danced to in our first week of dating. When the song ended, I gave him a vase of his favorite flowers with a note tucked inside that read “will you marry me yes or no?”
Also wanted to add: I am not the kind of lady who likes men approaching her. If a guy approaches me, I’m not going to be into it. I asked out every guy I ever dated and said no to basically every guy that has ever asked me out 🤷♀️
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Personally… Over a nice home cooked meal.
By showing them that you actually listen to them and know them. Going to a place they love or means a lot to her or the both of you, getting their favorite foods and drinks, doing something that they like or that you both have in common.
Make it a fun day were you both laugh a lot and then at the end tell her that you wanted to make it a special day because you had a question, and then just ask if they want to be your girlfriend OR if you can be her boyfriend (assuming this is a straight relationship). Personally I like the latter one more because this implies that you like her so much that you want to be something of her (her boyfriend) instead of asking her if she likes you so much that she wants to be something of you (your girlfriend).
Overall to be seen, heard and known is to be loved, and I think with showing her that you do is the best feeling there is. Adding a bit in from her love language (words of affirmation, physical touch, acts of service, gift giving/receiving or quality time) will make it even better!
Goodluck!
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I will never not brag on my husband for the way he did it.
We’d been crushing on each other for a long time (about eight months) before we considered adding romance to our purely platonic friendship. But “because reasons” neither one of us felt secure enough to ask the other one out.
TLDR: I decided to attend a church where he plays piano as a side gig. Big step for me, because I was pretty much done with church after escaping the Mormons, but he told me about his Unitarian church and I was intrigued. That plus the music (I play cello so I was interested to hear his piano.)
After church we landed at lunch together so he could help me process what I’d just witnessed — very different from the Mormons.
In the middle of the church conversation, we kind of landed on the fact that both of us were single, and looking. At which point he said he wanted to give me a confession: “I like spending time with you, and I’d like to do more of this. If you’re interested.”
Complete display of interest without any specific expectations, and that was exactly what I needed.
We’ve been married for 17 days! Squee!
Big overblown romantic gesture
Think proposal 😂😂😂
Full room of balloons and candles, huge bouquet of flowers, wrote it in petals on bed……
I know it’s silly but women never ever experience this level of romance we see in movies. I think I’d bawl
Ngl it was pretty romantic how my boyfriend took me on a date to an aquarium and they had a huge display where you were surrounded by huge fish. He took out a boquet of flowers from his bag and asked me to be his girlfriend.
My boyfriend asked me one night after dinner while we were cuddling. It was perfect for me. 😊
Depends – are you currently dating but just asking to make things official or are you friends who want to start dating?
In both cases, I’d recommend using the information you’ve learned about them to plan a good day together, just the two of you. Something you’ll know they’ll enjoy, something that relates to their hobbies and shows them that you’ve been listening and paying attention to their interests. Everyone likes to feel seen and understood, so showing them that you’ve been paying attention is going to flatter them no matter what. Then after you’ve had a fun time, find a good time to tell them how you feel, what you admire about them, what you would like your relationship to become, and ask if they might feel the same.
The difference comes if youre actually already dating or not because then you can make it more explicitly romantic. But try to focus your conversations less on the sexual and more on the romance, partnership, and future you could have together since that’s the big thing that would change going from casually dating to becoming official partners.
Everyone’s idea of romance is different
Okay like literally actually ask her. I’ve had guys that assumed I was their gf and I’m like what r u talking about? You don’t take me on dates, u never had this conversation with me and now ur calling me ur gf? Crazy. Anyway. I’d do a nice romantic dinner and ASK HER. CLEAR COMMUNICATION IS SO HOT.
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I would like us to be monogamous
just the fact of clearly asking is already romantic. lots of men don’t.
Ask somewhere private, cozy, or with a memorable view, after an enjoyable date doing something they like. Be 99% confident they had an amazing time, the chemistry was on point, and they are making moony eyes at you. Don’t ask while they’re talking about something sad or difficult or if they’re having a hard day.
Bonus points for peak season vibes (the smell of autumn and windy leaves in the air after a day at the park, a fresh crisp snow and hot cider, warming their hands by rubbing them between your hands, a breezy sunny spring or summer day that smells like coconut sunscreen and flowers blooming). Play up the season and it will feel romantic and nostalgic every year that you’re together 🥰
I’m not one for grandeur or anything along those lines. Just ask like you mean it, sincerely and wholeheartedly, that is enough.
Personally, I would really like to receive some thoughtful flowers and have them tell me what I mean to them from their heart, before embracing me. Just us.
My husband (boyfriend at the time) just started introducing me that way to people, as we got to know each other better. It happened naturally over the course of our relationship. Very subtle, but very telling and it made me want to be that with him.
Honestly, for me, just about any way would be romantic enough for me. If me and a man I liked were just sitting, watching a movie, and he just comes out and asks it as a surprise, I’d be over the moon.
My bf took me on a trip and had a swan and rose petals in the room. It was very romantic and I love the gesture even though the rose petals are plastic. We joked about they prob recycle and reuse those for other couples too.
My partner and I had been seeing each other for a while before we had officially started dating. We talked about it a lot he knew I didn’t want to just jump into something (due to me having kids) he was very respectful and supportive of it.
He asked me out on a specific date which with all the numbers line up is the route he drove to see me. He drove us to a lake that was very important to me so a special place I loved and that he fell in love with when I took him there. I also told him on one of my late night rambles that he could propose to me with a ring pop.
So on that day he drove us out to the lake at sunset, made me turn around and he got down on one knee said the most sappiest lines ever with a ring pop and asked me to be his girlfriend. After I said yes he proceeded to spray me in the face with silly string.
It all depends on who your (future) partner is.
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I’ve only had one girlfriend as I’m a late bloomer lesbian.
So after I got my ex to orgasm, she wanted me to kiss her so I worked my way back to her face and after kissing her we gazed into each other’s eyes for a bit. She then said “kiss me” in a way that conveys “I want you”. Not sexually, not just her body but her as an entirety if that makes sense? So I started off kissing her chin, cheeks, forehead, nose and then a deep sensual kiss at the end. When we stopped for air, I gazed into her eyes again and asked her to be my girlfriend. Also ‘I Wanna Know’ was playing in the background and after she said ‘yes’ I started kissing her again and softly sang parts of the song as I kissed her.
Truth is, there is no one size fits all question. Listen to her, get to know her. My guy asked me after we had been getting each other off for several weeks, and then hanging around to watch star trek, MST3000, and bad kung fu movies. Turns out, yeah, I wanted to do more then just orgasm with him. Seven years later…I come home to my husband.
For me, it would be more romantic if a man asked me if he could be my boyfriend than if he asked me to be his girlfriend
Not through a text that’s for sure. Be in person and ask when you’re having a nice cozy moment.
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Well damn! My partners never asked me, it was just kinda assumed and known. I gotta increase the bar for my next relationship
We first met during the pandemic. We were friends for about six months before we started dating. We had talked a lot about dating and he told me he was willing to wait on my timeline (I wanted to take it slow). I remember after spending a lot of time on one one, I told him this story about how the driver in the car next to me on the drive over was laughing at me for brushing my teeth in the car. My now husband asked “why were you brushing your teeth on the way over?” And I told him “because I’m going to kiss you today.” After I kissed him, I handed him a piece of paper that said “will you be my boyfriend yes or no?” (That meme was big at the time haha). He said yes and kissed me again.
I asked him to marry me the same way 10,000 hours after we first said I love you (we had talked about that being roughly the amount of time it takes to become proficient in something). We were in our apartment, I slow danced with him to the first song we ever slow danced to in our first week of dating. When the song ended, I gave him a vase of his favorite flowers with a note tucked inside that read “will you marry me yes or no?”
Also wanted to add: I am not the kind of lady who likes men approaching her. If a guy approaches me, I’m not going to be into it. I asked out every guy I ever dated and said no to basically every guy that has ever asked me out 🤷♀️
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