What’s the most unhinged thing you’ve done after finding out your spouse cheated on you?
What’s the most unhinged thing you’ve done after finding out your spouse cheated on you?
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What’s the most unhinged thing you’ve done after finding out your spouse cheated on you?
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Ohhhh this is a fun post. I found out he was seeing sex workers regularly. I got ahold of his phone and texted bunch of questionable contacts to arrange but straight to his parents’ house.
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May have went into his house when he wasn’t there and cleaned toilet with he and affair partner toothbrush.
I threw away his prescription pain pills.
I found out the guy I moved across the state for was fucking his ex wife the entire time I lived there, a full year.
I packed a huge U-Haul, had someone drive it, and had someone else drive my car, while I followed in my truck. My entire life was put in a storage unit, and I was homeless. I don’t even remember those days at all.
A few days later I called my sister disorientated, not knowing where I was. I was in Iowa or Ohio. I can’t remember which one. My home is Utah. I had a complete mental breakdown and just started driving. Those were horrible days, and it ruined me for a year.
I was single for 14 years before him, and will stay that way forever.
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Found her shampoo bottle in our bathroom and peed in it, then left for vacation.
Made him get tested for STI in our hometown, where everyone knows each other.
Oh, and his father is like the mayor so…yeah not a good look.
We got divorced
Found sexytime videos sent to his fb messenger. I didn’t save it because I was worried about revenge for but i confronted him, and after he tried to take our son out of my arms. I told him no. Then I found the boyfriend of the girl and messaged him and told him about it. They started fighting, and he got dragged into their fighting by the daughter. He told me I was crazy and that he didn’t cheat, which caused me to make a post asking all our friends if it was, and they all said it was. I don’t normally air stuff out like that, but he kept trying to gaslight me into thinking it wasn’t that bad and I had had enough.
I sent screenshots of the sexts to both of his parents.
He “wanted to be poly” but neglected to mention that until after he slept with her. So I contacted the organizers of every queer, kink, or poly group or organization in our area and warned them about his total lack of respect for boundaries.
He’s still single to this day. I know because he periodically tries to get ahold of me. 😹
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I downloaded tinder and convinced an 18 year old to slash all his tire for me 😭
I knew something was up but I was being told I was ‘crazy’. He was being really secretive about me being in spaces I’d been comfortable to go into before in his bathroom and bedroom.
He left the room one morning and I quickly rummaged through the drawers in the wardrobe and found a lingerie set buried at the back of the bottom drawer.
I had it in my hands when he walked into the bedroom and I panicked. Rather than confront him I put it inside my jumper and went home with it. Tried to burn it but but it melted.
To this day I wonder how he rationalised it’s disappearance to her.
Found out he was cheating on me and went the whole slash tires route and then kicked him out out of our condo and lit his crap on fire. I was young and petty.
Pinned him to the brick house with my Chevy Suburban and watched him freak out through the windshield. It was glorious.
I was in my early twenties. Found out she was sleeping with a coworker and went to their work, broke in to the other woman’s car, found proof of the affair in the form of love letters they were passing to each other, took pictures of each letter, put them back exactly how I found them, then posted every pic on social media and tagged them both. She spent a good year trying to figure out how I got them and tried to blame it on multiple coworkers. I finally told her the truth a decade later.
The juicier story with that breakup is that she went on to date the affair partner and attended her kid’s birthday party about six months in. At said party she was talking to this chick’s extended family and discovered that they were SECOND COUSINS. Her dad was in and out of prison most of her life due to drug addiction and she hadn’t had any interaction with his family since she was a toddler. The affair partner only saw that side of her family at holidays and birthday parties so neither of them had any reason to connect the dots.
They promptly broke up and you best believe I told every single person in our circle and her immediate family that she had been fucking her cousin.
This happened nearly 20yrs ago and we’re not friends but are friendly if we run in to one another. It still comes up to this day. She will never live it down.
Found out my ex was cheating on me with his coworker. So I watched her stories every day and dressed identically to her, every day. I watched him come home from work with a puzzled look on his face, every day.
I wrote an entire book of poetry. I’m editing it and arranging it now, over a year later. It’s gonna be great!
I plead the fifth
Keyed his car
lol, stayed with them
Im trademarking her name and making it a brand .
Not immediately walked away
I was going on a trip with my kids for a while. Left a lapel pin pokey side up in my spot in the bed.
I took his friends with me when i left
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I feel like this post was made for me, my sister always laughs about how crazy I went. I’m a lot older now and wouldn’t approach the situation like this now, for what it’s worth.
Found out he was cheating within weeks of me telling him I was pregnant. We had a flat that he’d lost one of the keys for, so when he was home (worked offshore), he had the key and I had to rely on him letting him me in. I had horrendous morning sickness and came home early one day from work, to find the door locked. I banged at the door, no response. Tried to phone him, no response. Looked through the window to see makeup and women’s clothes on the table and sofa. Starting banging real hard on the door. He came out in his boxers. I said something along the lines of ‘where’s the fucking whore’ while trying to get in. He wouldn’t let me in, we continued to fight as I tried to get in to this woman and he desperately tried to get me away from her. Clearly by this point, I wasn’t thinking about the fact I was pregnant and had gained some hulk like strength due to the pure adrenaline coursing through my body. I ripped his boxer shorts off him, giving him a major disadvantage as he continued to try and get me out whilst covering his privates. He eventually got me out. The following months, he started to tell everybody that our baby wasn’t his and turned all of our friends and his family against me, all whilst ignoring me too. So I signed him up to every baby club going and got him sent plenty of free baby stuff, I sent taxis, takeaways, pest control to his house. I even phoned his work and hinted that they may want to drug test him. Obviously he always suspected all of this was me but he never knew for sure.
Weirdly, our daughter is now a teenager and he’s wonderful with her and we also get on fine. Crazy times though, what you do when someone breaks your heart eh!
I .. well, emotionally manipulated him to sleep with me when he was in a relationship with this new girl for a month or two. Took him for a spin 2,3 times and then dropped him. I mean, you enter the new relationship the way you end the last one. In his case, with lies and deception and cheating. They didn’t last long.
I know he felt guilty. Probably scared I will out him. I still can’t make myself feel bad about it.
I moved to Phoenix from San Diego with my then boyfriend, we were staying with family while we went to school. Everything from my condo was in a self storage rental until we got our own place. One of my xbf’s friends that we always visited started getting new stuff for his place that was exactly like what I had in storage. I even commented, “ I have the exact same thing in storage !” Anyway found out my bf was cheating with this friend’s sister so I moved into my own place only to find a lot of stuff missing from my storage, and the stuff just like mine at his friends was actually my stuff And one day my xbf knocked on my door and for some reason I had an axe close at hand. I grabbed that axe and told him I was going to chop his cheating stealing hands off. He took off running and I chased him. When I realized I couldn’t catch him I threw the axe at him but thankfully I missed. I did end up laughing tho because some dude in the store ran out and grabbed the axe and brought it to me. Bwahahaha
I started smoking the day I kicked him out.
Was a fiancé and not a husband, but it was a near miss — I found out literally two days after I finished hand-knitting a six-foot silk lace wedding veil for myself to wear. Took me almost a year to make. It was intricate and delicate and beautiful and meant to be an heirloom for our children. Well, during That Conversation, I went and got it and scissors and shredded it to ribbons right in front of him while angry-sobbing my heart out. It felt really good, honestly.
He fucked an acquaintance of mine, I fucked his best friend.
I just matched his energy and then some more. Very toxic relationship, but then I also made my boss poison himself after he threatened me so…
I broke up with him and proceeded to send him screenshots of nearly every single one of his friends trying to shoot their shot with me over the next 6 months (most of them telling me what a piece of shit he was and that they could treat me better). Funny enough, one succeeded and I’m now married to his ex best friend.
He did more than just cheat, it was kinda crazy but we weren’t even tg for long like almost a year, but I went into hypervigilance and thought there was a sex trafficking ring going on, amongst other things, made like 100 Spotify accounts thinking it’d help his dreams come true and somehow uncover the sex trafficking ring, and the rest I refuse to disclose
Created one of those “Are we dating the same guy?” Facebook groups for my local community and posted about him to warn other women.
It’s been a little over a year and the group has over 1,000 members now who are all lovely and supportive 🥰
I caught him cheating with multiple people over years. I am older and wiser now but I was early twenties and he was my first serious relationship. I suspected for so long, and he made me feel crazy, like I was being insecure and jealous for no good reason. I was right about everything but he convinced me I was the problem. Then one day I answer his phone and it was his gf, which was funny because I was his gf of several years.
Everything I did was unhinged.
*He was supposed to be very religious and moral so messaged all his church friends from his sim saying he was online serial love rat complete with pics (the ones between him and the married woman were great).
He went on constantly during our relationship because I was not as religious as him and didn’t live a life of faith as much as he did. I didn’t attend church. I was just doing things like being honest, faithful and loyal. The sinner that I am 🙄
I made a fake dating profile of him on dating sites to let women know he lied about his age, profession, race and basically everything.
To top it off I took the dog back I gave him as a gift.
I eventually returned the dog as she fretted for him and I felt I was being cruel to the dog, I felt shitty about it so I give it back.
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I put all his stuff in trash bags and put it outside, then I ordered myself a pizza and a bottle of wine and had a night to myself.
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I outed the group chat his friends specifically made to exclude him by asking them to join it on the group chat he’s in.
Beat his ass, then made him text the girl to come over like a hook up then beat her ass as soon as she walked in the door. (Its a long story but she knew and would text me pictures of them together on his phone. Text me trying to fight all the time ect. Was young and super dumb, had just had his 2nd child. Thought i could change his druggy cheating ways ect.)
He was using Rogaine for years and was convinced it wasn’t doing anything but didn’t want to stop. I spilled half the bottle out and replaced it with water so the solution was really diluted. He’s balding now.
I cut one of the two middle buttons off of every work shirt. Felt amazing
Called his boss pretending to be from a rival company offering him a job interview. He showed up in his best suit only to find an empty conference room with divorce papers on the table.
I found the women he was cheating on me with (only had their first names) and told them the truth. They all texted him to tell him what a terrible person he was and blocked him. I also found and contacted all of his friends and told them what he did to me. I changed his family’s streaming accounts so the profiles read out to “NAME CHEATED. NAME CHEATED.”
Contacting the other women was cathartic but also when we aligned timelines I’d never felt more violated. He slept with one woman and then me within hours of each other.
It took over a year of therapy to start trusting myself and feeling whole again. It didn’t help that he started stalking me after I ended the relationship.
We dated for eight years and finally got married. Three months after we got married I decided to check my savings account and noticed that $9000 was missing. I worked in the financial industry five days a week 16 hours a day so that we could have a good life he worked full-time, but didn’t make a lot of money, but that was OK. He was a good man to our kids. I know that you like to drink a lot, but who cares about that? I certainly drink my share. When I finally started to investigate where the money went, I found out it was all ATM withdrawals while I was at work. So I rented a car and waited by the ATM machine he always took the money out of. I followed him and it was for sex workers. And I don’t have a problem with sex work do what you do but years and years of unsafe sex is not OK with me. So I bought sardines, anchovies, and tuna all in oil until I had about a gallon of oil, I pulled up the carpet in about 5000 areas of the house in Port droplets of that oil into the padding under the padding and into the subfloor. I also drilled tiny holes into the wall where pictures hung in the droplets of the oil inside the wall so it would get on the insulation. Under the sinks anywhere everywhere I could find. Then I packed my stuff while he was at work one day me and my daughter left, and we never went back. I filed for an annulment and was granted one. I figure I did about $10,000 worth of damage, but that made up for the money he stole. I also helped pay that mortgage for eight years so I don’t feel bad. Last I heard they had to strip everything down to basically the studs because they couldn’t figure out what smelled and they thought it might be mold. I have zero remorse.
I was able to get a dinner with two of the girls he tried to cheat on me with, and posted a pic of the three of us on social media
Moved back to my (our) hometown and had FWB with his best friend for 9 months…
He was a serial cheater.
He claimed he never ever spoke about me to the longest-standing mistress. Especially not shit-talking, never!
I stalked her on Facebook and managed to find a post from yeeears ago with her phone number. Then I asked him again what he told her about me…he said nothing…so I asked for his phone and told him I was going to text her. He didn’t believe me and didn’t think I had her number.
I pretended to be him and messaged her that he was leaving me for her and she was all “I thought you said she refused to give you another baby and I heard you just had a baby, why are you leaving” well, well. Anyway I told her a lot of sweet nothings, and arranged a date for that evening (she asked for a small “loan” too lol) and then I deleted the whole convo.
My ex husband meanwhile had been sitting there wringing his hands and saying “what you’re doing is not healthy” lol. I never told him whether I really texted her or what was said. He probably called her after and got the story from her but I don’t know.
imma just keep my mouth shut😂😳
I found him talking with an ex he had a matching tattoo with so I got a tattoo of a topless women with a “crazy head “ (since I’m so crazy for accusing him for months) in the same spot so we could all match.
I took all the curtains in the house when I left. He was a very private person and our neighbor’s house was just a few feet from ours. This was about ten years ago and I still feel so much pride in my work.
I wrote a super angry letter to the mistress, who had been spending the entire affair trying to be my best friend, so it definitely wasn’t a matter of me just blaming the other woman.
I ended it with “I hope one day your heart breaks much as mine has”. ( Edit: I never sent it! It was more of a therapeutic thing, to be clear.) Within 48 hours she had a massive heart attack at work, and my ex had to witness her being shocked 15 times while he was on the phone with 9/11. Now they both think I’m a witch. 👍
I found out my husband of 42 years had been cheating when I overheard him on the phone to his AP. They were both on speaker, and the conversation was very clear. When I confronted him, he raged. He got right in my face and screamed “Yes, I love her AND I DON’T LOVE YOU.”
The marriage was over, and I would not let him back in the house. He went to UHaul and bought a slew of identical boxes to pack up his stuff. He packed his stuff over the next two weeks. And being my lazy ass-wipe of a man, he did not even bother to label his boxes that he stacked in the garage. He was moving in with his girlfriend.
I had an inspiration. I would help him pack. I took one of the identical boxes and “packed” his office/room. I packed his dirty socks under the loveseat in his office, the crap from his desk, the toe nail clippings he left on the carpet. I found a pair of dirty, skid marked underwear and packed those too. Any of his crap that I had been cleaning up after him for years. Then I added this box to the pile in the garage.
It worked. He took all the boxes. I pray that AP helped him unpack and opened that box. Imagining her unpacking his shit stained underwear, and the growing realization of what she had “won”, was the highlight of my divorce.
I found condoms in his bag. I poked holes in the individual packages, careful not to get the condom itself. I soaked in jalapeños juice for several hours. Cleaned, dried off package & placed back in box & into his bag like I never saw them.
I took his favorite expensive shoes, put them on the grill, burned them, recorded it and sent it to him.
My therapist said it was an on outlet, because I’d put them on the grill and didn’t just light ‘em up.
Pretended to continue to love him after he died. I kept it up for the people that cared about him but I was pretty angry still
He had nudes of his best friends girlfriend, I set them as his wallpaper and let him fumble with an excuse
My previous ex could not get kids. I never minded. When I found out he cheated I left him and 10 months later I bought a reborn doll and “accidentally” send him a maternity picture of me and dolly. He went beserk. It was glorious
He was out of town (with her), so I threw all his belongings, that he needed to store at my place, in the dumpster.
I was young and toxic.
But an ex of mine cheated on me and then left me for the girl he cheated with. She also knew about me and knew what she was doing.
So I started casually sleeping with her ex-boyfriend, she didn’t like this, and I did it purely because I knew she still had feelings for her ex, and that my ex was nothing but a rebound to her. She left my ex and started going back out with HER ex, leaving my ex single and upset after he left me FOR her.
My ex tried to get back with me after, and I laughed in his face and said, “Not nice being left for someone else, is it?”
I went through everything he owned. Every personal item possible while he was at work. Found more evidence.
We weren’t married, but: He was in the military, and had recently been stationed overseas. (Maybe two months prior.) I was two weeks into a month-long visit, in the european country he had been stationed. an outing he arranged for me with his friends’ wives resulted in them asking me to help them find him a better woman than the one he was with now. They didn’t like her and wanted to set him up with someone else. (They were under the impression I was a friend from college, not his GF of 8 years who had lived with him until he was stationed overseas. Had no idea I was unaware he was in a relationship with someone local.) Punched him in the face that day. Then made him pay for a fantastic tour of Europe for the remaining two weeks of my trip, and dumped his ass when I got home.
I know of a woman who found out her partner was cheating on her and they broke up, but they were both stuck with festival tickets bc they had originally planned on going with each other.
They both went to the festival, but separately. She found out where his tent was and threw a snake inside
I slept with his brother.
I hooked up with the woman he was cheating on me with, and he was cheating on her with me 🤭
I physically dropped off the face of the earth in his world and filed a restraining order and got divorced.
I told him a guy who picked me up hitchhiking asked me out on a date. Could he take care of our child.
The guy who picked me up asked my soon to be ex if he and my son wanted to come on the date.
I gotta random Snapchat saying “omg I didn’t know he had a gf I am so so sorry”. I asked him what this was about and he tried to deny at first then gave up.
I downloaded tinder and asked him to swipe to see who he wanted to watch me fuck in front of him to see how it feels instead of doing the same behind his back.
I picked a guy and told him to show up at the apartment we stayed at. And boy was my ex pissed because he didn’t think I’d actually go through with it.
We separated and he was “going to work on himself for us.” As soon as he was out, I went no contact and never spoke to him again. Argue and work it out with her, dude. The attorney handled the back and forth of the divorce.
Smashed a jar of homemade pickles over a PT cruiser soft top on a hot summer day. Oh, and left a substantial pile of cat shit on the smoking area table (he fucked a coworker where he caught and gave me an STI)
I almost got arrested for it. 🤷🏽♀️🤷🏽♀️
I threw an iPad at his face while he was asleep when I saw the messages between him and an escort. This was back when iPads were ginormous.
When I found out my ex-husband cheated on me I sent all the dick pics and masturbation videos he was taking for his side chick in a group chat to his mom, dad, and aunt (from his phone).
I fucked his sister! Not a spouse but… Long story short…. I am a girl & he was my boyfriend for over 2 years 18-20ish. 8 years after I broke it off I had to move to another state to free myself from him. Then I went back home & fucked his sister!, it was her idea & I was totally cool with it because I wanted to try being with a girl. I met him right before I turned 19. I should have seen all the red flags but didn’t. He was very physically & mentally abusive & of course super jealous, cheated on me all the time. He still has no idea to this day & it’s been 24 years since then.
I have never been cheated on but have always dated guys who LOVE their vehicle. If I ever get cheated on, I’m dumping glitter all over the interior. No way in hell that’s coming out. Simple but effective.
I concocted this backup plan not long ago lol
I threw the mattress out of the sliding glass door and off the porch. Motherfucker did it in OUR BED.
I literally threw and egg at his head.
I broke up with him almost 8 months before I ended up moving out but when I did I took everything that was mine. I left no utensils, toilet paper, light bulbs, dishes, or batteries
Found out he was cheating with a girl we both worked with. First thing i did was canceled the car insurance and take the tag off the car I had foolishly registered in my name for him.
Less than 8 months later saw that they were getting married. I called him over to where i was staying. I fucked him after I made him eat me out. The wedding was 2 days later. It was petty but I took back that power from them BOTH
I made him tell his mother.
This was years after he had had to watch his mother struggle after his dad cheated and eventually left the family. But boy oh boy, I think she might have been even more pissed off than I was.
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