I’m 20 yrs old, and I’ve never dated anyone before. As someone who’s interested in getting to know someone (and eventually have sex), what’s a normal amount that ppl experience per week/month? I know everyone’s versions of normal is probably veryyy different, and it might be dependent on age/how long you’ve known someone. I’m just scared bc I’ve never had sex before, and I don’t want my future partner to be upset 😭
What’s the ‘normal’ amount of sex that you should have per week/month?
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Depends on your sex drives, the length of the relationship, your stage of life, and other things.
Depends on the couple, some once a week some twice a day for the first x amount of time until the normal drop off
As much as they want, but both must want it.
No normal amount. Depends on you or the couple. Long as nothing’s hurting and there’s no arguments it’s normal.
It depends on what you and your partner both want.
My partner and I had times of 2 times a day 7 days a week and times of once a week (sometimes even less).
Don’t stress yourself about the amount, in the end sexual compatability is really important for any long lasting relationship so just look for people with similar needs as you.
There is no normal, it varies from person to person.
There is no normal. You have as much sex as you want and your partner is comfortable with
“Normal” doesn’t exist and it is a foolish metric to chase. What is normal for some, would be a dry spell for others and an abundance for others. There is no “proper” amount.
I was blessed/cursed with a pretty high drive when it comes to sex. So, meeting a woman who matches that drive has always been a challenge. In my 50’s now and I can only really think of one partner who matched me in drive, and we tended to go several times every night that we spent together. Meanwhile, X-Wife thought it was cute to withhold physical intimacy when she didn’t get her way. Obviously, we were not a good match long term even though we did have a child together while we were married.
It’s a crap shoot, man. It should never be your primary focus, but it’s a lie to say it’s not important. Just find someone with whom you share chemistry and remember that your needs matter too, so don’t let them be overlooked or ignored in hopes of finding some idealized “normal” which will never exist.
Like you said yourself, it’s different per couple and often per couple it’s different per relation stage they are in. There is no wrong or right here, so no need to worry. Just talk about it with your partner. You’ll find your way. At the moment you’re just overthinking it.
Normal doesn’t exist. The frequency, inclination and intensity varies wildly not only from couple to couple, but often for the same couple.
Early 20’s, almost daily if I had a willing partner. At the moment in my 40’s 2 to 3x a week.
Daily if possible, every other day at the bare minimum. If it’s less than that then it has to be because of an emergency or down period, not a regular occurrence. A romantic partner you’re not actively having sex with on a regular basis is a roommate and a friend, not a romantic partner
The answer is always just a little bit more than at present, right up until interest diminishes.
There is no normal amount of sex. Some people want more, some want less. And more than likely, it will be something that changes pretty regularly.
I mean when I was 18 I wanted sex ten or twelve times a day if I could get it. But now at age 62 I only want it six or eight times a day. Things change.
I’ve met couples who are once a month or less, some who are once a day.
It really does depend on the pair in question.
honestly? there’s no “normal” amount. some couples go at it every day, some once a week, some just cuddle & vibe. if the chemistry’s good and both of you are on the same page, the number kinda stops mattering. just focus on connection first… the rest follows naturally 😉
At your age? Everyday, anytime of day. Youth has the advantage of stamina and enthusiasm.
when I was 20 I was not getting laid at all and didn’t get laid again for another several years.
Work on yourself and be awesome.
My wife and I got together when we were 15/17.
We are now 36/38.
We have sex 3-4 times a week, but if we go away it can be as much as I can handle 2-3 times a day.
The frequency has stayed the same throughout our marriage because we are both excellent communicators in and out of the bedroom.
The quality of our sex is immeasurably better now, than then. We are literally having the best sex of our lives.
Totally normal amount like 50-100 times a month.
>What’s the ‘normal’ amount of sex that you should have per week/month?
Don’t try to delude yourself like that. There is no “universal rule” here that you can put forth to either put forth as him asking for “too much” or its weird/creepy/concerning because he is asking/looking for “too little”. One of the things couples have to figure out entirely by themselves is how they address they are going to manage their sexual wants and needs.
What you need to figure out is NOT “what is a normal amount” but whether you are a good communicator and willing to accept one of the many options there are in case your sexual desires are mismatched.
I (25m) and girlfriend (24f) both have very high drives. We are a “medium” distance couple 3 hours away from one another. With that being said it’s not an everyday thing for us but when we see each other it’s varies from 1-5x a day easily. If I were to average it out I’d say 10-15x a week 40-60x month.
There’s no “normal.” Some couples do it a few times a week, some once a month, some not at all.
When I was 20 with my first GF, it was like once a week, sometimes less. We were both new and figuring stuff out. No one keeps score, and it changed over time.
It’s all about what feels good for both of you. No one worth your time will be mad you haven’t had sex before.