What’s the one “small” thing a partner or friend does that makes you feel really seen or cared for?
What’s the one “small” thing a partner or friend does that makes you feel really seen or cared for?
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What’s the one “small” thing a partner or friend does that makes you feel really seen or cared for?
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A bunch of Flowers.
I have Celiac disease (autoimmune) and have to eat gluten-free or it could do damage to my intestines and cause cancer (as well as some nasty short-term symptoms). Part of this diet that people don’t realize is that Celiacs also have to make sure their food hasn’t come into contact with gluten in any way, similar to an allergy. Some restaurants are much better with “allergy” precautions than others, or are much more certain in the safety of ALL of their ingredients that go into a product.
So, my answer is- my partner or friends simply asking “can you eat here” about a place they’ve suggested to eat is very impactful. To most people asking an opinion on a restaurant might seem somewhat mundane, and the question itself is simple- but to me it’s the difference between eating food that will make me sick and hurt my body (or awkwardly sitting there without eating), and having a great time with friends and being nourished!
She brings me treats! Every few hangs my best friend has something she “isn’t using” that’s brand new, like a pop socket or lip balm.
It sounds silly, but he makes sure that I’ve eaten proper food and had water. He can tell when I’m getting down and always makes sure that I’ve had those. Sometimes I’m still upset and we talk about whatever it is, and sometimes I was just in need of food and or water 🙂
Doing something (chore, action ++) that accommodates my concerns. Bonus point if I don’t explicitly have to communicate those and he just do it to give me some pleasure. Can be small things or big things. Idk like picking up eggs if I had mentioned we needed those for making dinner, baking my favorite type of cake for my birthday.
Generally because it signals he listens and knows me, and deliberately chooses to do something just out of the goodness of his heart.
My friend texts me drive safe every single time we part ways. Not just bye or see you later always drive safe. It’s like having a little guardian angel who genuinely cares if I make it home okay.
My one best friend from a few years ago used to check in on me randomly when we’d go out because she knew how limited my social battery was. She always ask if I was okay/having a good time or if I wanted to leave. She was the only one to ever do so and I wouldn’t always take her up on her offer when I knew she was having a good time, but on days where I didn’t want to be out til 2am or walk home alone- I am forever grateful for her
My neighbor leaves random items at my doorstep. It doesn’t matter if I want or need it, it’s a sign she cares and is sharing her care with me. I especially love that she doesn’t even knock when she does it, she quietly places it there for the next time I open my door. It’s always such a nice surprise to see a new gift from her.
Legitimately listens when I tell him something. I rarely have to tell him twice. One time I told him that I think beetles are cool because of their iridescent colors, so he got me a pair of recycled beetle wing earrings for my birthday. I mentioned that once and ended up with some of the coolest earrings I’ve ever had!
More recently, I told him that he tends to apologize when a “thank you” would suffice. When I go out of my way to do something nice for him, it feels better to be received with gratitude rather than guilt. And he took that advice! He took it and it feels so much better for both of us ☺️