What’s the typical effort split between you and your partner during sex? Do you feel it’s 50/50, or does one of you usually put in more work? If it’s uneven, what would you say the percentage split is? Just curious how it plays out on average for others and if there’s a gender bias.
What’s the typical effort split between you and your partner during sex?
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Mostly 50/50 but sometimes one of us just wants to completely focus on the other for that session, next time it’ll be reverse case, but most of the time it’s 50/50.
100/100. We’re like wild animals with each other.
Edit to add: because we are into BDSM, we do talk it through first, and ask each other what we expect out of each session- but most of the time it just flows.
Depends on the activity and position. Oral? One person is doing 99% of the “work.” Woman on top? 75%. Et cetera
I’m the one who usually initiates, but when we’re at it we’re at it! We both can be completely enthusiastic and creative!
It’s about 70/30 with him doing more. He likes being in charge in bed and I’m fine with not being in charge.
Well to be honest it’s more like 75% my husband and 25% me. We start off about 50% but after my first orgasm I am just ready to be totally ravished then pampered.
Depends on which partner. I was seeing this girl who did quite literally nothing in the bedroom. She wouldn’t touch me or move at all, she’d just lay there. The lack of reciprocation was crushing. I feed off the energy of my partners, and some of the men I’m seeing now make it so easy to have an even split. Some I find myself doing a lot of the work, and some the opposite. As a poly person, my dynamics with each person is so vastly different, but I always give it my 100; how else is there to enjoy it?
During sex, I’d say it’s 50/50. But I wish my husband would initiate more for sex instead of waiting for my cue. I know he is being respectful of my needs and wants to be sure that I am in the mood, but it would PUT me in the mood if he initiated more! In a sexy and animal way!
Definitely steamy and equitable. We’ve been together for 11 years so we have it down to a science. I probably receive more than I give.
Unspoken rule: whoever initiated has to do more. Is that fair?
Hmmm, now that I’m thinking about it in those terms, I’m not sure how to quantify our individual effort. I usually initiate, but then he gives me oral or whatever I indicate will get me most aroused, then he makes most of the physical effort. I really enjoy different variations of missionary and doggy so he’s doing a lot of the physical work, but I’m super responsive and verbal so I feel like I’m feeding most of the emotional energy into the loop, so to speak. I guess in that way it ends up being equal.
I put in more work because she’s a lucky fuck and can have basically endless orgasms. I have to wait like 15 minutes between them.
Maybe 65/35. When we have “normal” sex it’s probably equal, but sometimes he wants a quick thing and then he does most of the work.
But he definitely burns more calories most of the time lol
It totally depends on the situation.. we both are very physical and passionate when we have sex.
70/30, 50/50 or 30/70. We switch it up.
I say 40-60 (40-me)
I use my mouth a lot and I count that time!!!
I’d never thought about this. It varies a lot, depending on mood, location, and how much time we have
It’s about 50/50. Sometimes he does more work, sometimes I do. We’re both really enthusiastic lovers, so it works out perfectly.
I suck dick longer and more often than he eats me but when fucking he does like 85% of the work. In my defense though- I am weak so riding is hard and throwing it back is cardio. Starting the gym this week tho cause I realized how out of shape I am.
Imagine a metronome lol. I can’t say it’s 50/50, we fight over domination and sometimes we fight like NOOOO YOU BE ON TOP, I WANT TO BE A PRINCESS TONIGHT – YEAH? MAKE ME, PFFFT.
I always thought I need a brat tamer. Turns out I just needed a guy who is a brat too, lmao.