During the hearing for my restraining order against him, I explained to the judge I believed I had been drugged at the party. He blurted out: “she brought her own alcohol!!” Who brings their own alcohol to a party?
I was raped right before my 18th birthday in my senior year of high school.
I initially consented because he told me he’d break up with me and then beat me to a pulp if I didn’t let him put it in. We were in my car in an empty church parking lot. I didn’t know that coercion like that meant that consent wasn’t valid. And when he went to put it in I was so scared and so tense, it hurt so bad. I don’t think he even got more than a half an inch in. I begged him to stop and that it hurt but he kept pushing me. Finally I guess I was crying hard enough for him to just get off and demand I take him home.
A few days later I realized that 1) I was coerced into saying yes and 2) he didn’t stop when I was pleading with him too. When I told him that I never wanted to talk to him again because he raped me and hurt me in so many ways he said “but you said yes! I didn’t rape you because you let me put it in!”
After being recorded admitting to raping one of his 15 year old students, he said it was acceptable because during the Middle Ages, girls got married that young.
“It happened to me so I did it to someone else,” a 40 something year old man telling me about the time he raped a little boy. I refused to speak to him after that night, and if I had to it would be all insults and disrespect.
He’s dead now. The universe did its job for once.
“I don’t remember it. I was half asleep.” He also said he was going through a rough patch and was struggling with memory loss around that time. He never said sorry.
“You could have easily screamed out-“ my ex’s lawyer when I went for a restraining order hearing after he did it to me outside my car with my 3mo old son in the back.
I’m a cop and work in a unit specialized in sexual offenses. I’ve heard it all, but the worst one has to be the dad who assaulted and then raped his daughter for almost 4 years.
“I didn’t do anything wrong. We just love each other so much and all I did was prepare her for the real world. I’m a good father and she loves me”
I can still hear him say it and my soul still barfs a bit when I think of it.
Or the guy who was a refugee from a pretty conservative Muslim country who gangraped a minor:
“He comes from a country with totally different values and had had little direct contact with women. He just didn’t realise this isn’t acceptable here. “
I had very vivid memory of both nights of my assault; after the second one, i had to comfort him because he kept saying he “felt like a bad guy”
(My trauma response is freeze and fawn).
One the first night he thought it was very funny that i kept passing out (i was having vasovagal syncope episodes due to extreme and sudden anxiety) so he would stop and wait until i was “up” again and then he would start again.
After i left on the third day very early in the morning, i tried to move away and never see them again but i was convinced to tell someone about the whole thing.
He said it never happened and whatever DID happen, i wanted it/it was consensual) and anything else i claimed he didnt remember because he was high.
I never got an apology, never got any admittance that he did anything wrong and i ended up existing in hell for a little over a year because since his timeline of events was clearer than mine (thanks trauma), he was believed over me until i was able to get ahold of texts i had sent some friends on those nights.
Im still angry and every now and then i still think i see his face and i get nauseous/feel like im going to puke every time i do.
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During the hearing for my restraining order against him, I explained to the judge I believed I had been drugged at the party. He blurted out: “she brought her own alcohol!!” Who brings their own alcohol to a party?
“I was going through a hard time”
Worst excuse I have ever heard.
I was raped right before my 18th birthday in my senior year of high school.
I initially consented because he told me he’d break up with me and then beat me to a pulp if I didn’t let him put it in. We were in my car in an empty church parking lot. I didn’t know that coercion like that meant that consent wasn’t valid. And when he went to put it in I was so scared and so tense, it hurt so bad. I don’t think he even got more than a half an inch in. I begged him to stop and that it hurt but he kept pushing me. Finally I guess I was crying hard enough for him to just get off and demand I take him home.
A few days later I realized that 1) I was coerced into saying yes and 2) he didn’t stop when I was pleading with him too. When I told him that I never wanted to talk to him again because he raped me and hurt me in so many ways he said “but you said yes! I didn’t rape you because you let me put it in!”
I read this in a Mississippi newspaper some years ago: “She was about to get her period.” I can’t even
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“I know it’s every girls dream to be raped”
“i was sleep deprived.”
I don’t get a boner if I wear a condom – my ex
I know this is askwomen, but, “women can’t rape men”. And yes, I’ve heard it in person.
After being recorded admitting to raping one of his 15 year old students, he said it was acceptable because during the Middle Ages, girls got married that young.
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Not from him but said by a therapist in response to me explaining why I refuse to take equal blame in our divorce, aka “well, my husband raped me.”
Ready for this? This was this year:
a licensed therapist told me that it was impossible for a man to rape his wife and shouldn’t I have wanted to satisfy my husband.
The guy who raped me when I was 13 recently messaged me on Facebook in full psychosis saying the planets made him do it and that his sorry
he said
“I just wanted to be close to you”
“It happened to me so I did it to someone else,” a 40 something year old man telling me about the time he raped a little boy. I refused to speak to him after that night, and if I had to it would be all insults and disrespect.
He’s dead now. The universe did its job for once.
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“I don’t remember it. I was half asleep.” He also said he was going through a rough patch and was struggling with memory loss around that time. He never said sorry.
“You started it” – the guy who raped me in my sleep
“Not my fault you’re attractive”
“It was just role play”. 😒
He said “I was raised by mom and sisters, i would never do that to a woman.” But did it anyways…
“You could have easily screamed out-“ my ex’s lawyer when I went for a restraining order hearing after he did it to me outside my car with my 3mo old son in the back.
That I dreamed it bc he would never do something like that🙄
I’m a cop and work in a unit specialized in sexual offenses. I’ve heard it all, but the worst one has to be the dad who assaulted and then raped his daughter for almost 4 years.
“I didn’t do anything wrong. We just love each other so much and all I did was prepare her for the real world. I’m a good father and she loves me”
I can still hear him say it and my soul still barfs a bit when I think of it.
Or the guy who was a refugee from a pretty conservative Muslim country who gangraped a minor:
“He comes from a country with totally different values and had had little direct contact with women. He just didn’t realise this isn’t acceptable here. “
This came from his (female) lawyer. 🤮
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I had very vivid memory of both nights of my assault; after the second one, i had to comfort him because he kept saying he “felt like a bad guy”
(My trauma response is freeze and fawn).
One the first night he thought it was very funny that i kept passing out (i was having vasovagal syncope episodes due to extreme and sudden anxiety) so he would stop and wait until i was “up” again and then he would start again.
After i left on the third day very early in the morning, i tried to move away and never see them again but i was convinced to tell someone about the whole thing.
He said it never happened and whatever DID happen, i wanted it/it was consensual) and anything else i claimed he didnt remember because he was high.
I never got an apology, never got any admittance that he did anything wrong and i ended up existing in hell for a little over a year because since his timeline of events was clearer than mine (thanks trauma), he was believed over me until i was able to get ahold of texts i had sent some friends on those nights.
Im still angry and every now and then i still think i see his face and i get nauseous/feel like im going to puke every time i do.