Hey, not sure anyone will see this but I’m a woman who wants to name my first daughter after me. I want her to have my first name. I just always wanted to. However, my partner seems to think it’s weird and I have a big ego and I’m looking for an exact person of myself. And that the child should have their own name and be their own person. Im not opposed to this nor did I ever say I wanted the child to be the exact version of me. I just wanted to name my first daughter my name. I’ve always wanted that. I don’t know, do you guys have any thoughts?
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That’s weird
Not weird at all, I’ve seen a few juniors and seniors.
Its not weird
Men do it ALL the time. Hell, my dad, grandad, and great grandad all have the same first AND middle name.
I don’t think there’s anything wrong with it at all!
It’s common to name boys after their father, less so for women to do that with their daughters, but it does happen. I think if that’s something you really want you should do it, it could create a really special bond between you and your daughter.
I think people are focusing too much on it being more common for men to do it.
I don’t like it either way and would have not liked to have the same name as my dad
My middle name is my mother’s name, which I love. If my mom had made my first name the same as hers, it might have annoyed me (for various reasons).
What is weird is you refusing to compromise on a name with your significant other.
You’re tying her identity to your own. I find it to be a selfish choice.
I PERSONALLY don’t like it when people do this…for either gender and feel bad for people stuck being a “junior” or having a nickname to differenciate themselves their whole life. I also see it as really old fashioned.
I don’t understand why people make things unnecessarily confusing. Two people with the same address and the same first and last name is a nightmare. A name is a way to identify someone, why make that extremely complicated for everyone? I just don’t get it. I don’t get it when guys do it either. Give someone their own name. Its such an incredibly weird thing to do
Why do you want to do it? Like why is it so important that your daughter be named after you?
nothing is wrong do what you want
My grandparents named their first born after my grandpa and then the second born after my grandma, I never thought it was weird because while I was growing up people knew my uncle as Jr and my aunt has had a nickname since childhood.
I don’t think it’s weird unless you’re trying to create a carbon copy of yourself
worked in Gilmore Girls 🙂
no matter what their name is will be their own person. And will have their own nicknames etc.
but I wouldn’t do it unless you can get your husband on board too since you both should have a say in the name.
Could you do your first name as her middle name? she could use either but maybe he’d be more on board with that?
There’s nothing “wrong” with it, I knew a woman who had her mother’s first name, it was sweet (and her brother had her father’s name). But it is unusual, which is why your partner says it’s “weird.” He needs to get over it being “weird” and just decide if he’s okay with the name or not.
I’ve personally always hated when parents do that. Let the child be an individual. Put your name as their middle name.
I’m not a fan of it but you do you
Men who do it usually have some family tradition that they’re holding onto. I agree with others on not liking the practice, but there’s at least a non-weird explanation for it today.
Your desire to name your kid after yourself has nothing to do with tradition, and is fully weird. Listen to your SO on this one and pick a different name.
Give her your name as a middle name, but give your daughter her own first name and her own identity!
It’s weird and selfish just like when men do it. They’re not some new/junior version of you. They deserve their own name rather than be named after someone else.
A good compromise would be to give them either your first name as their middle name and/or your middle name as their first name.
Having the same name and address makes logistical things confusing, plus always having to specify as Jr.
I’ve always thought it would be great if my wife, daughter and I had the same first name, because it would make those situations where I keep needing to go and do errands for everyone so much simpler… but yeah. Idk if my name would work for my three year old daughter.
I guess the better question is “why do you want her to have your first name?”
I think it’s weird that people think it’s weird. Women play such a huge role in their children’s lives. How dare anyone tell a woman they don’t have the right to name their own child after themselves. I mean seriously, are they okay in life? Thinking that’s weird is every bit of a reflection of their own insecurities and not of you. I hope you know that!
Your husband is right and a lot of people have already explained and supported his angle.
But it’s also not like you’re doing something so evil. Just probably borderline selfish but you do you. Emphasis on you, because it’s really a you decision.
What a great question. To me it’s extremely unusual but women do it, and I’ve never understood why. It seems egotistical, I guess?
You‘re partner‘s right, it’s weird
So I have never put thought into it, but if a daughter is named after the mother, are they “Mothers Name Jr” like a son is when named after their father??
It is weird when men do it. It is weird when women do it. Just, why? There are millions of beautiful names. You can even make one up. I always think the parent is so full of themselves that their child is meant to be a copy or extension of themselves. Weird.. weird…
I have a half brother that my father did this to. Making it worse, my brother was “the third.” It was confusing as fuck. You say one name, and then everyone is like “who? Who? Which one?”
Don’t do this to your kid. That fucking sucks to do to someone.
I hate naming children after other people. Give them their own identity.
They already look like you and will act like you. You can’t even let them have their own name? Even after your partner has explained how they feel. Good luck to that poor kid
There is nothing wrong with it. Do what you want.
I don’t like when men do this, and I don’t like when women do it. I think everyone should have their own identity outside of their parents/family. A middle name is fine, but a first name, I feel, should be for the child.
Honestly, male or female, naming your kid after yourself is one of the most vain things a person could do..
It’s just quite the hindrance in practical life:
It’s confusing enough to have a neighbour 2 numbers further down the road with the same name as you, but at the same address, that’s madness.
You may like the idea without a second thought now, but remember:
Whenever someone says your name, there are two people in the room to respond to it. Your mail and your daughter’s mail have identical recipients, your parcel too.
And children don’t stay small forever, but grow up quite quickly:
Do you really want your daughter to mistakenly open your mail, your parcel or such? Do you really want to know everything your daughter may not want to tell/show you? (the same things you wouldn’t want to tell your parents in detail)
Eg. Do you really want to explain your daughter why you bought this latex suit or accidentally open her package with the horse-shaped 15″-dildo in it, just because you two can’t tell from the outside which one should actually receive it?
My mom named my sisters after her. Oldest has the same first name as her and middle sister has my mom’s middle name as her first name. It says A LOT about my mom (and not in a good way) and that’s the opinion for most moms AND dads that name their kids after themselves. It also made sorting mail hell as well as answering the phone back when there were no cell phones. “Are you looking for the mother or the daughter?”