It can be hard and won’t be possible if you have to change you ways too much. the more apart your cultures are the more open minded the other person needs to be. and If there is no freedom you have to feel if you want to keep it up that way or if the things that you could change matter to you.
possible, but not challenge free. (I know all relationships have challenges but Cultural are just different). you will see how much of your cognitive structure you assume common practice and you will be reflecting upon why you think the way you do.
I’m a third culture kid. I’ve dated a white American who’s only been in America, and it was very difficult. His knowledge and understanding of cultures outside America is really bad.
My long term partner, now, is also a first generation immigrant American child. It’s way better in terms of being more culturally and politically aware. Bonus that we both speak 3 languages each.
I(35F) am from the United States and I live in Mexico. I’ve dated a few men over the course of the last 7 years. There certainly are cultural differences but it absolutely varies person to person and I want to be clear I am not generalizing any groups of people but speaking from my own experiences. I am a very independent woman, and I am not jealous. This has been surprising to the men I have dated. My independence has been viewed as a negative in some way as I feel like some men here expect a woman to be quite reliant on their partners. But that is to say, not all men, as my current partner sees my independence as a super power.
I date almost exclusively outside of my culture. It’s not a choice I made, it’s just always been that way. I don’t date people from just one other culture, I date people from all around the globe – from Europe, from the Americas, from Asia, from Africa.
I come from a very small town where people date each other. But I moved to an international city to go to university, that’s when I was introduced to international people from different backgrounds, different cultures, and then I migrated to another continent, and now I live in a city with a bunch of other migrants, and I date international.
The hardest thing for me was the language barrier. I just never felt really that connected my ex’s family because conversations were a bit limited, and even when I could understand, I struggled to connect on a deeper level. I did make an effort to learn the language more but it’s really hard with that level of disconnect for such a long period while learning. This has happened in two relationships. My current bf’s family speaks the same language as me and I felt part of the family in a matter of a few months, it’s SO much easier and I love spending time with them. Before I used to sort of dread family events because it was exhausting trying to learn the language and focus more on what they say.
The cultural differences never bothered me because I live in a multi-cultural country so there wasn’t any culture shock. We have people here from sort of everywhere!
I’m German. I dated an Indian guy and I discovered that there are other flavours than salt and garlic. We broke up like 10 years ago but my spice cabinet is still full and I make curries all the time. Bless that man for introducing me to flavour town.
I’ve never had a problem dating outside my culture. It’s always been a fun thing to explore and teach eachother new things and most importantly, try new foods lol.
Recent exes (and my now bf) have been guys outside my culture. I prefer it that way mostly because I work remotely now so I’m never in my country save for few months or weeks and even if I was, I feel like I know the people back there too much. I love them as friends honestly, it’s a different level of bond and enjoyment but it’s always all platonic.
I do bond with the guys I date well but also sometimes I’d have to explain the things I find funny more or certain concepts that guide my decisionmaking (even though sometimes it can be toxic for me too and they’re just being logical, like how you can’t just cutoff core family members even if they’re toxic).
Never had issues with my spouse and not really any with prior partners. Most people are curious but don’t know how to ask questions. My in laws don’t seem to grasp that there is a spectrum to assimilation.
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It can be hard and won’t be possible if you have to change you ways too much. the more apart your cultures are the more open minded the other person needs to be. and If there is no freedom you have to feel if you want to keep it up that way or if the things that you could change matter to you.
possible, but not challenge free. (I know all relationships have challenges but Cultural are just different). you will see how much of your cognitive structure you assume common practice and you will be reflecting upon why you think the way you do.
I’m a third culture kid. I’ve dated a white American who’s only been in America, and it was very difficult. His knowledge and understanding of cultures outside America is really bad.
My long term partner, now, is also a first generation immigrant American child. It’s way better in terms of being more culturally and politically aware. Bonus that we both speak 3 languages each.
I(35F) am from the United States and I live in Mexico. I’ve dated a few men over the course of the last 7 years. There certainly are cultural differences but it absolutely varies person to person and I want to be clear I am not generalizing any groups of people but speaking from my own experiences. I am a very independent woman, and I am not jealous. This has been surprising to the men I have dated. My independence has been viewed as a negative in some way as I feel like some men here expect a woman to be quite reliant on their partners. But that is to say, not all men, as my current partner sees my independence as a super power.
*looks at my white husband 😂
I’ve never dated within my culture; I guess you can say Im an equal opportunity dater? lol.
I date almost exclusively outside of my culture. It’s not a choice I made, it’s just always been that way. I don’t date people from just one other culture, I date people from all around the globe – from Europe, from the Americas, from Asia, from Africa.
I come from a very small town where people date each other. But I moved to an international city to go to university, that’s when I was introduced to international people from different backgrounds, different cultures, and then I migrated to another continent, and now I live in a city with a bunch of other migrants, and I date international.
I’m a black woman engaged to a Puerto Rican and Korean woman. It’s been fine. We enjoy learning about each other’s cultures.
The hardest thing for me was the language barrier. I just never felt really that connected my ex’s family because conversations were a bit limited, and even when I could understand, I struggled to connect on a deeper level. I did make an effort to learn the language more but it’s really hard with that level of disconnect for such a long period while learning. This has happened in two relationships. My current bf’s family speaks the same language as me and I felt part of the family in a matter of a few months, it’s SO much easier and I love spending time with them. Before I used to sort of dread family events because it was exhausting trying to learn the language and focus more on what they say.
The cultural differences never bothered me because I live in a multi-cultural country so there wasn’t any culture shock. We have people here from sort of everywhere!
I’m German. I dated an Indian guy and I discovered that there are other flavours than salt and garlic. We broke up like 10 years ago but my spice cabinet is still full and I make curries all the time. Bless that man for introducing me to flavour town.
I’ve never had a problem dating outside my culture. It’s always been a fun thing to explore and teach eachother new things and most importantly, try new foods lol.
Recent exes (and my now bf) have been guys outside my culture. I prefer it that way mostly because I work remotely now so I’m never in my country save for few months or weeks and even if I was, I feel like I know the people back there too much. I love them as friends honestly, it’s a different level of bond and enjoyment but it’s always all platonic.
I do bond with the guys I date well but also sometimes I’d have to explain the things I find funny more or certain concepts that guide my decisionmaking (even though sometimes it can be toxic for me too and they’re just being logical, like how you can’t just cutoff core family members even if they’re toxic).
Never had issues with my spouse and not really any with prior partners. Most people are curious but don’t know how to ask questions. My in laws don’t seem to grasp that there is a spectrum to assimilation.