I couldnt really talk to women? One of the hardest things in the world to me, some I’ve known for years! So I’m asking, how do I talk to women when I cant?
What’s your strategy for talking to women, if you can’t talk to them?
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I couldnt really talk to women? One of the hardest things in the world to me, some I’ve known for years! So I’m asking, how do I talk to women when I cant?
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Stop talking to them like the end game is sex and if you don’t get it it’s a waste of time. Just talk to them normally. And who knows you may get lucky
Huh? Do you have, like, a speech disorder?
Practice on women who don’t scare you like your aunts and mother and any other older women you can find.
Morse code
Talk to women you’re less attracted to. Build up tolerance to the exciting feelings.
YOU are unable to talk to women but you still want to. Well, with the rules given I would suggest hiring a messenger. You can talk to the messenger and the messenger can pass on the message. I’m not sure of the whole parameters of this curse but the messenger may not even have to relay the message. You could simply talk to THEM in the presence of the person you want to communicate with.
This could make mid coitus dirty talk a little awkward.
Pretend like they’re a dude, but tone down the dick and fart jokes. That worked for me until I learned charm.
Flirting is one of the things that you just have to implement into your everyday life. Not that you should be flirting with romantic intent every time but you should be able to drop compliments and make people laugh and smile and walk away having made someone’s day with some regularity.
Find a legitimate reason to talk to the person. Once, I asked a girl how to put air in tire. I was young okay. I didn’t know. I went up to her as she was putting air in her tire. She showed me and it was all good. I wasn’t nervous, because I wasn’t try to get her number. I also asked a lady to recommend a wine for me, and she was absolutely giggling for no reason. In my head, I was like, “-___- ” then 5 years later…..”oh………..”
Try that.
Start with baby steps.
I went through a low point about a decade ago where I couldn’t look people in the eye during conversation. Felt super anxious talking to people, it was debilitating. I was very shy and struggled socially.
I started with just challenging myself to give a head nod to people who would walk by me. Then eventually to a smile with “hi”. Then to a “how’s it going?” and continuing the convo if they stop to talk to me.
After you do that I would recommend working on building friendships. After that you can probably start working on building romantic relationships.
The lessons you learn each step of the way build on each other, so learn to crawl, then walk, then run.
Hope this helps!
Talk to them as you would any other person, have fun and be yourself. I’m a big believer in exposure therapy, do what terrifies you until it doesn’t.
There are also loads of advice floating out there on the internet. My favorite is “you may fascinate a woman by offering her a piece of cheese.”
Can you make people laugh? Do you tell a good story? Have a hobby or something that interests you? A unique philosophy? Is there something specific about your presence that makes people feel safe? What do you like about other people, can you talk about that?
Don’t be in your head about it, but everyone has something that makes them good to be around, and people aren’t going to give you the time of day if you’re too busy trying to figure it out. I’d say just be yourself, but maybe figure out your strengths first, then focus on being the best version of yourself. Not just when meeting people.
Then when you go in public, have conversations with people. Thats it. Some people are harder to talk to. Don’t keep chatting with them. Relationships happen to people, not the other way around. So no sense operating with a goal like that unless you’re a skilled conversationalist already. Notice I didn’t say women once.
Edit: check the hygiene boxes before you try hanging around people for longer than 5 seconds. Might not need to say it, but from walking around town, I feel this might be helpful advice.
PM me, and you practice talking to me. I enjoy conversation and I’m super chill.
I promise to boost your confidence.
Find a fat ugly and practice.