When a girl says she’s cold and asks for your jacket, don’t YOU get cold?

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Or do guys generally just not get cold, like a long sleeve shirt is enough? I get cold easily, and many women are like “it’s cold, can I borrow your jacket?” And the guy will give it to her no problem. I never knew how guys don’t then get cold without the jacket lol.

Edit: I’m a woman

Comments

  1. avalanchefan95 Avatar

    Sometimes, sure, but I want her to be comfortable. I won’t die.

  2. SaltWaterInMyBlood Avatar

    They do, but they feel they have to meet the expectation.

  3. Eldritch50 Avatar

    We do get cold. We just keep it to ourselves.

  4. loststylus Avatar

    Depends. I usually wear more layers.

  5. morgangshe Avatar

    Lmao okay so here’s the truth from a guy perspective, most of us do get cold, we’re just out here lying and suffering in silence for romantic reasons

  6. ChiefVulcan69 Avatar

    Men get cold. Men don’t complain. Men think to themselves, “Fuck. It’s cold.”

  7. SeaworthinessLong Avatar

    No I’m always hot

  8. Largicharg Avatar

    That’s the sacrifice you make

  9. Dudefishyt Avatar

    yeah we get cold, but like, it’s worth it. i’m like a furnace all year round, and in the summer typically that closeness you only get in winter is more sporadic. i kinda prefer winter/spring for small things like this 😀

  10. EmbraceTheFOG Avatar

    Can’t speak for most men but I run hot. My wife will be freezing and I am cooking to death. I think it has something to do with men normally being physically bigger than women and being bigger you produce more body heat. Or we just suck it up and be cold. WTF do I know haha.

  11. BosPaladinSix Avatar

    Yeah I’m not giving up my jacket. She can either learn how to plan better or continue to suffer the cold.

  12. throwawaygdn Avatar

    I let them deal with the consequences of their actions. They get warmed up by the rage they feel when I decline to hand over my jacket.

  13. Aawonnn Avatar

    I would rather her be warm. I can suffer until we get inside 🙂

  14. LittleLordFuckleroy1 Avatar

    I get warm inside by knowing I’m doing something for her. That feels more good than the cold outside feels bad.

  15. MatchLock__ Avatar

    That girls was really ‘cold’, so my jacket was useless.

  16. wolviesaurus Avatar

    That’s called chivalry.

  17. johnkortein Avatar

    We do but we dont put ourselves first we put her

  18. thunderfox57 Avatar

    So the way I see it is that I’m naturally warmer than my gf. So if I’m feeling chilly then she must be freezing. I’ll give her my jacket despite how cold I could be just because of that.

  19. prenderm Avatar

    Yeah but I’m trying to get some. And usually my jacket will come back smelling good. So it’s a win win

  20. WorkMeBaby1MoreTime Avatar

    Sure, but there’s a good chance you’ll get very warm later so I’m calling that a win

  21. Taodragons Avatar

    I wear a jacket solely because at some point, my wife or daughters will get cold, but they didn’t bring anything because….you know, it didn’t go with the outfit. I have a layer of blubber and a fur coat if I get cold =p

  22. Mammoth_Cricket8785 Avatar

    Ehh no I’m a warm blooded animal so usually if it’s like 60 ish degrees maybe 70 I can usually be fine if im on the move can it get chilly sure. But most of the women I’ve known in my life have been cold bloodied harpies. The second it drops below 80 they can’t seem to stand it.

  23. nipslippinjizzsippin Avatar

    No we get cold… that’s part of the point, we suffer for you

  24. Taftimus Avatar

    We do get cold, but it’s worth it to know that you’re now comfortable.

  25. TheEmperor0fNothing Avatar

    Pro tip: For the right woman, dealing with a bit of discomfort in order to make her happy/comfortable feels totally worth it.

  26. wood_baster Avatar

    How I feel is irrelevant to me, so long as she is warm.

  27. BobienDeBouwert Avatar

    I’ll never ask for it, because I assume he brought his jacket for himself, and I usually bring my own, too.

    But it has happened that I started shivering and they just offered, which was kind. And then insisted that they weren’t cold. As long as they weren’t at risk of hypothermia, I gratefully accepted the gesture.

    In the same vain, I’m usually the one with an umbrella to share for rain that no one anticipated but me, so…

    Edit: forgot to say what an absolute pleasure it is, by the way, to wear a man’s jacket. Especially if it’s still warm from his body, and smells of his cologne and personal scent. They’re usually too big for me, so it feels very cherished, like he’s giving you a loving hug.

  28. blind_programer Avatar

    Its not a big deel. I want her to be comfortable. A bit of cold won’t hurt me

  29. stxxyy Avatar

    We do, but that’s less important

  30. adultdaycare81 Avatar

    Yes. But I am willing to suffer for her to be comfortable.

  31. Leather-Double-1260 Avatar

    Of course we get cold, man. But there are a few things going on here.

    First off, a lot of the time we’re running hotter than you are. Men tend to have a higher metabolic rate and more muscle mass, which is like having your own personal furnace.So, a long-sleeve shirt might genuinely be enough for us in that moment.

    But yeah, a lot of the time we do get cold. Here’s the thing though, it’s a trade-off.

    It’s a protective instinct. It’s like a caveman thing deep in our brains that says “protect the tribe”. Giving up the jacket is a simple way to show we care and want to make her comfortable. It’s a gesture of affection.

    It stops the complaining. Let’s be real, if she’s cold, you’re going to hear about it. Giving her the jacket is a quick and easy solution to that problem.

    It’s just the “guy” thing to do. For a lot of us, it’s how we were raised. It’s an old-school chivalry move. It’s like holding the door open.

    So yeah, we get cold. But usually worth it to see her warm and comfortable. It’s a simple, effective way to show you care. And honestly, a little shivering is a small price to pay.

    That, or you can just pull a Kelso and say, “Damn Jackie, I can’t control the weather!”

  32. crashfrog05 Avatar

    We’re just toughing it out so that you think we’re generous and physically resilient

  33. Red_Danger33 Avatar

    Well damn Jackie, I can’t control the weather!

  34. UserJH4202 Avatar

    Yes, sometimes I get cold. But when you love someone, you do nice things for them. There is a personal benefit here too though. When you love somebody that way they usually love you back.

  35. swiftskill Avatar

    I say “Well damn, Jackie, I can’t control the weather!!!!”

  36. crashpilliwinks Avatar

    Next time just say: “damn Jackie I don’t control the weather”

  37. squirrelybitch Avatar

    Yeah, they do, but it’s just the expectation that men and boys are more willing to be uncomfortable if it means that they will make the woman or girl they are lending their overcoats to will be more comfortable and warmer than she was before he gave her his coat.

  38. Current_Poster Avatar

    If I liked her, I wouldn’t mind. For that reason, I also wouldn’t just ask a guy if I could have his jacket, it’s really easy to read a lot into that.

    Anyway, I throw off a lot of heat- I’m one of those guys who wears a T-shirt and no jacket in December, sometimes.

  39. Aforano Avatar

    Yeah we get cold but we want you to be comfortable

  40. Virtual-Squirrel-725 Avatar

    When it’s your girlfriend you give her your coat because you’re a gentleman.

    When it’s your wife you say “i told you six times it was going to be freezing, but NO, you didn’t want to bring a coat” and then you give it to her because you still don’t want her to be cold.

  41. Nash_man1989 Avatar

    Yes but we grim and bear for the ladies

  42. SkawPV Avatar

    It is instilled on us that our suffering is less important than a woman’s, so we have to “deal with it”.

  43. graemo72 Avatar

    A wise man once told me, “Women need to be kept at.least 2 to 3 degrees above room temperature at all times.” Symptoms may include whining, shivering and a sudden irrational negative attitude. Combine this with hunger and you have a serious situation on your hands. Pay attention for the love of God.

  44. SomeRannndomGuy Avatar

    Maybe, but probably less so.

    Women tend to have less muscle mass, which is a natural heat producer, and slightly more body fat, which insulates the core but can restrict blood flow to the extremities, making them feel colder. They are often smaller than men, resulting in a higher skin surface area relative to their body volume, so they lose heat faster, and their hormone cycle is also a factor in raising and lowering their body temperature. Lastly, a woman is often wearing a less insulating base layer VS a man wearing trousers and a shirt.

    Unless a man actively WANTS to kill off all remaining vestiges of the natural feminine and masculine gender roles, she really shouldn’t have to ask.

  45. darkwing--duck Avatar

    Girl + cold + me + not cold = no booty

    Girl + not cold + me + cold = possibly booty

    This is the equation used to determine whether or not we will give up our jacket.

  46. TranquilConfusion Avatar

    It’s a weird system we have, that the person who needs more insulation (the smaller person), is the one that needs to show more skin to be dressed fashionably for a date.

    Predictably, at some point she might want to borrow a jacket. Which gives the guy a chance to be a provider, and build the relationship.

    She might even accidentally-on-purpose take it home, requiring a second meetup to return it.

    As a guy, a good strategy is to dress warmly enough to be able to donate a jacket without suffering too much for it.

  47. lonelyinbama Avatar

    When you’re married for as long as I’ve been it gets even worse lol

    “You should bring a jacket it’s gonna be cold”

    “I’ll be okay”

    “You’re gonna get cold”

    “No I won’t”

    …….

    “Can I have your jacket…?”

    “….. sure honey “

  48. Celebrimbor96 Avatar

    If I wouldn’t be cold without the jacket, I wouldn’t have brought it in the first place

  49. youknowimright25 Avatar

    Of course. But men’s feelings don’t matter. 

  50. Not_Sure__Camacho Avatar

    I had a girl tell me that she was cold but I had no romantic interest in her so I told her, “Me too! I’m glad I brought my coat!” and just left it like that. 

  51. CerealExprmntz Avatar

    Is this a serious question?

  52. brandocommando95 Avatar

    So i usually beat my wife to it and say babe im freezing can i wear your cardigan

  53. BerwinEnzemann Avatar

    In these cases, there’s more going on than meets the eye. On a more subliminal level it’s about proving that you would be willing to suffer a bit for your lady. Do uncomfortable things for her. This is one of many subconscious tests by the females to check if a man is a suitable partner.

  54. grafknives Avatar

    Well Damn Jackie, I Can’t Control the Weather

  55. needzbeerz Avatar

    One of the primal roles of the male is protection. We evolved to endure hardships so others don’t. Yes, you get cold and you suck it up. If it’s too cold you get to someplace warm.

    And next time you go out you remind her to not forget her jacket 😂

  56. Relevant-Mirror-5124 Avatar

    Im a woman who loves cold, i can offer him my jacket, easily

  57. Agigator-TunaTater Avatar

    No, because I have a jacket and she doesn’t.

  58. DanceDifferent3029 Avatar

    Well it’s basically a guy saying it’s worth being cold to get laid

  59. PowerCord64 Avatar

    I’m in south Florida. I never get asked that question. And, what’s a jacket?

  60. spacetimebear Avatar

    I simply tell my wife: you should have brought your jacket then.

  61. floppy_breasteses Avatar

    Yes, we get cold. That’s why it’s a significant gesture when we give you our coat. So start bringing your own jackets like grownups, please.

  62. UnderProtest2020 Avatar

    They do get cold, that’s why we have jackets in the first place. XD

    That’s chivalry for you.

  63. SignalSelection3310 Avatar

    If we’re considered equal in all aspects — I don’t give you my jacket.

    If we accept that men and women are different in some aspects; yes, I give you the jacket out of curtesy because I can handle the cold. Not saying that I ain’t feeling it, but I’m accepting the cold because it’s the chivalrous thing to do.

    It’s the same thing with giving up your seat.

  64. IKhaibot Avatar

    My favorite part is dressing appropriately for the weather/occasion then watching her put on just enough not to be arrested

  65. HighKaj Avatar

    I think it’s one of those things that can be cute/endearing when first dating. Gives the guy a chance to be a little chivalrous. But after a while it can get real old.

    Like, it’s bad manners to never bring a jacket and then expect someone else to offer you theirs.

    And if it repeats a lot I’d just think “damn this person is either super forgetful, or doesn’t care about other peoples comfort”. Like “is your outfit more important than us both being comfy?”

    But I guess one way around it would be to bring two jackets/hoodies if you want to be chivalrous AND comfortable.

    That said, I only date men, or man (my fiance), so I’ve seldom come across this phenomenon in the wild.