It was a mutually agreed one and we struggled so much between trying to satisfy each other’s wants and needs, never being able to come to a consensus. A part of me wasn’t ready to give up, another part of me gets to see him outside of us being together and that part of me yearns for his affection and love all over again, since we’re just roommates now and waiting for our lease to end in a month. We’re just not compatible, we’re in two different places in life, but he loved me hard and was a passionate but flawed human, I’m scared I will never feel that kind of a love ever again.
The older I’m getting, the less window of tolerance for bullshit I feel, but I also feel so sad and mourning this passionate relationship we had, he tried but we kept missing the mark for each other. The good was so good, but the bad was so stagnant and frustrating, and downright unacceptable at times — I’ll remind myself of the bad times to keep me in check.
The breakup is fresh, but I feel pretty damn apathetic and I’m wondering if this is normal after a mutual breakup. I feel nothing towards other men right now, but I know I need to move on from this current headspace I’m in.
How long did it take you to 1) get past the post breakup blues and 2) start ACTUALLY feeling open and receptive to dating or seeing other guys?
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It’s highly subjective, but it took me a solid 1-1.5 years to get over my last breakup. It was rough.
Then I met my husband, who absolutely blew my prior relationship out of the water in every single way. I had no idea love like this was possible, and I was no stranger to dating good guys and having solid relationships.
I hope you find someone who is a better fit for you too! ❤️
My last break up was really rough and I didn’t feel ready to date for 2 years. Then I had a short fling (that I ended) and have decided again that the juice just isn’t worth the squeeze for me, at this point in my life.
I’m in the thick of it right now girl. No words of advice. Just in the same boat with you.
Two years here. Shit sucks until it doesn’t. I’m sorry. ❤️