I’m 58 and I haven’t and won’t. My mom is amazing, but we are different in many ways and always will be. We adore each other, but we are not similar at all. The biggest difference is she’s devout (my dad is a pastor) and I’m not a believer.
When I started grumping at the neighbor for cutting the grass wrong? Or maybe when I painted the powder room and put 4 coats before I was kind of satisfied with the results?
It’s normal to take on behaviors from how we were parented. That’s just how our brain works. I realized it myself on a walk to prevent a menty b after getting into a conflict with an ex partner. All of my thoughts were just so ridiculous and passive aggressive and I was SO disgusted by it. Went home to journal and realized alllllll of that was my mother and I NEVER wanted to do that again. Realized I’d been doing it well into my 20s and had no idea how I even had friends honestly. So I had to cut off the relationship with my mom to heal all that and she naturally hasn’t even tried to reconnect since. That was 7 years ago. And now I’m not like her anymore lol I refuse to and actively work to heal those young parts of me as they show up. My mom was very enmeshed with me.
My mom’s voice comes out of my mouth when I’m handling my kids. I don’t even know what I’m doing different to make her voice. Many of my motherhood mannerisms are hers, so after having kids I realized I’m more like her than I thought. She’s been gone for 12 years and my brothers said they hear her when I talk.
In my mid 20s. I was falling into predatory and abusive relationships and feeling obligated to stay in them “for love”. Like suffering through hardships was how I proved I loved someone. Except I was the only one going through hardships and they were all created by my partners. Like my mom’s relationship with my father.
I swore off dating for several years until I could learn to have better boundaries and prioritise my wants and needs.
I started having health issues from inactivity/ obesity. I also couldn’t get onto our boat swim deck because I was too fat and weak. That was 5 years ago and now I’m stronger than ever and lift 3x week. I haven’t dropped as much as I would like, but I can wake surf.
I’ve always been her mini-me lol but I think I started noticing it when my arguments with my dad started to sound like arguments between him and my mom 😂 he’d always say we sound exactly the same
I’m more like my dad- personality. But certain things like cleanliness- my mom, with a touch of dad haha. I see a lot of my kid whose habits are like my mom so it’s definitely there!
My brother is emotionally like my mom.
When I couldn’t say the correct name when talking to/about my kids. I used to hate that my mom would mistakenly call me by my brother’s name when I was growing up. Now, I run through all of my kids names,sometimes even our pets names, before I land on the correct one.
At 25. I am also turning into my father. I warned my sister about it, it’s a bit like a werewolf curse, except I keep trying to make ppl tea and get excited about gardening.
i’ve realized i’m turning into my mom socially and emotionally and my dad in every other way. i have her shy demeanor and mannerisms and prefer to stay in the house like she does but the way i do just about everything else is like my dad. i have my dads brain and my moms heart.
My daughters are both in their 20’s already, one in college and the other graduated. Except for some physical features, I’m still nothing like their grandma/my mom.
Don’t get me wrong, we are a close family and I love both my parents very much. But she and I are very different people.
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These last few years. I’m actually okay with turning into my mom, she’s a kind, thoughtful and amazing lady.
I’m 58 and I haven’t and won’t. My mom is amazing, but we are different in many ways and always will be. We adore each other, but we are not similar at all. The biggest difference is she’s devout (my dad is a pastor) and I’m not a believer.
When I started putting grocery items in the baby seat of the cart. Used to drive me nuts when my mom would do it. Now I use it all the time
My mom, never. My dad, however…
When I started grumping at the neighbor for cutting the grass wrong? Or maybe when I painted the powder room and put 4 coats before I was kind of satisfied with the results?
Oh no I’m turning into my dad all the way. I think I’ve always been my dad.
My mother and I get along exceptionally well and we love each other very much but we are very different in a lot of ways.
I’m not. I am turning into my dad.
My mom is a reclusive homebody who rarely goes anywhere aside from work.
I’m basically living the same life as her; I just skipped the steps of marriage, having a kid, and divorce.
It’s normal to take on behaviors from how we were parented. That’s just how our brain works. I realized it myself on a walk to prevent a menty b after getting into a conflict with an ex partner. All of my thoughts were just so ridiculous and passive aggressive and I was SO disgusted by it. Went home to journal and realized alllllll of that was my mother and I NEVER wanted to do that again. Realized I’d been doing it well into my 20s and had no idea how I even had friends honestly. So I had to cut off the relationship with my mom to heal all that and she naturally hasn’t even tried to reconnect since. That was 7 years ago. And now I’m not like her anymore lol I refuse to and actively work to heal those young parts of me as they show up. My mom was very enmeshed with me.
When I started cleaning the house while mumbling about how no one else helps. That’s when it hit me…. I became her 🤣
When I dated someone similar to my dad (in personality of course), and realized I acted like my mom in the relationship
My mom’s voice comes out of my mouth when I’m handling my kids. I don’t even know what I’m doing different to make her voice. Many of my motherhood mannerisms are hers, so after having kids I realized I’m more like her than I thought. She’s been gone for 12 years and my brothers said they hear her when I talk.
i thought i could “fix” men
When I made someone clean up their spilled water immediately. Not later, not in a few minutes, not in a moment. Now. 😅 water damage is not fun
In my mid 20s. I was falling into predatory and abusive relationships and feeling obligated to stay in them “for love”. Like suffering through hardships was how I proved I loved someone. Except I was the only one going through hardships and they were all created by my partners. Like my mom’s relationship with my father.
I swore off dating for several years until I could learn to have better boundaries and prioritise my wants and needs.
Moreso my Dad. But he tolerated and remained in things he shouldve left forever ago. He was an enabler.
My Mom, i actually apologize and talk things out, and I dont gossip or manipulate ppl, so id say im much better off.
I started having health issues from inactivity/ obesity. I also couldn’t get onto our boat swim deck because I was too fat and weak. That was 5 years ago and now I’m stronger than ever and lift 3x week. I haven’t dropped as much as I would like, but I can wake surf.
I’m not, but every now and then I catch myself saying something in her accent or cadence and I shiver inside.
When I had to put a cushion on the floor when doing something close to the ground, because of my knees
The moment I realized that I can’t rest or relax unless my living space is clean. But honestly, I don’t hate that. I love living in a clean space
I’ve done everything in my power to never turn into my mom. It’s working so far and that’s what makes me happy
When I caught myself saying the exact same things she did and reminding everyone to wear a jacket, even before I had kids.
Around 30 I started noticing some traits and largely disliked that. Now at 35 I am watching old videos of her at my age and taking notes.
I’ve always been her mini-me lol but I think I started noticing it when my arguments with my dad started to sound like arguments between him and my mom 😂 he’d always say we sound exactly the same
Never, I’m also working on my look to not be like her
When my friends came over and the only snacks I had were trail mix and fresh fruit😭
I’m more like my dad- personality. But certain things like cleanliness- my mom, with a touch of dad haha. I see a lot of my kid whose habits are like my mom so it’s definitely there!
My brother is emotionally like my mom.
When I freak out and clean the entire house if someone is coming over. (HIDE THE CHAIRS! We can’t let them know WE SIT! Iykyk🤣)
When I couldn’t say the correct name when talking to/about my kids. I used to hate that my mom would mistakenly call me by my brother’s name when I was growing up. Now, I run through all of my kids names,sometimes even our pets names, before I land on the correct one.
At 25. I am also turning into my father. I warned my sister about it, it’s a bit like a werewolf curse, except I keep trying to make ppl tea and get excited about gardening.
Dance moves
i’ve realized i’m turning into my mom socially and emotionally and my dad in every other way. i have her shy demeanor and mannerisms and prefer to stay in the house like she does but the way i do just about everything else is like my dad. i have my dads brain and my moms heart.
Noticing specks of dust everywhere and making big deals about it….
i was like OH GOD😭
When my booty and ooobies started to look like hers
Every time we out together, we end up ordering exactly the same thing.
My daughters are both in their 20’s already, one in college and the other graduated. Except for some physical features, I’m still nothing like their grandma/my mom.
Don’t get me wrong, we are a close family and I love both my parents very much. But she and I are very different people.