Basically when did you stop caring what others thought of you? More importantly, did it happen naturally, or was it a conscious effort? I am approaching my thirties and can feel myself changing, but I still care a lot about others opinions in certain situations.
When did you stop caring?
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I was in my late 20’s when I had the “Aha” and asked myself, “Why do I spend so much time and energy trying to get people to like me? Why does a stranger’s opinion of me matter so much?” My close friends realize and appreciate my value and contribution. You will free up a lot of your personal energy when you give up trying to impress ppl in any way.
When I got into punk rock at 14. 27 now and I’m still me.
In my early 40’s. I realized that I was going out of my way to be someone I thought others wanted. That was wrong and ever since then I’ve been true to myself and who I really am.
4 years back when an incident occurred and no one came to support me. I said to myself screw them. And then i stopped caring about everyone except my closest family.
12 years old after I went to my first punk/ska show and realized all the degenerate looking adults and dirty kids were the nicest people I ever met, and having way more fun than the “cool kids” and normal people
For me it was realizing nobody in the friend group cared… water pipe broke in your house? No problem I brought over dehumidifiers to help at 1am in the morning. Your pet was sick? I had my wife pull strings at the animal hospital she worked at so you didn’t have to pay full price. I ended up needing help onetime (can’t even remember what it was at this point in my life) and none of the friend group showed up.
After that I stopped talking as much in the group chat and now I do my own thing. I’m happier and don’t have to deal with as much drama.
In my late 20’s. You can walk on water for a person, and they wont appreciate it. There is nothing more for you to do you already did the impossible, it’s on them to appreciate it and if they don’t thats just how it is. It’s frustrating, but you have to learn that’s less effort for you to waste on your part. The hardest part is believing that there is someone that appreciates the effort, and they are out there, but that takes effort to find.