Hi guys. I (22M) have been with my partner (21M) for 3.5 years now. I am autistic and really struggle with reading how close I am to people. Every 6 months my partner’s family goes away for vacation. It’s usually someplace really cool (this week it is France), and I want to be able to go with because I’ve never been able to travel much. However, I’ve never been invited or allowed to go. Previously I couldn’t have paid for myself, but now I have a well paying job and I want to go.
When is long enough of being together to prove that I want to be part of the family? I know the parents like me as a person, but they don’t seem to believe in the strength of our relationship (mom made a lot of comments about us breaking up/not lasting around the 1 year mark and idk if she’s changed her opinion). I really like their family but it feels like they don’t want to see me as anything more than a friend of their son.
TL;DR When do you become “part of the family” rather than just a fling in some parents eyes?