I’ve thought about it casually, and trends seem to be shifting older, but what do you guys think and feel?
I’m 28 and I only have dated casually or done hookup culture and never really have felt the pull yet.
When do you guys think it is time to start settling down with a woman?
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When you find her
You’ll know when you find her. I was like you and I met my wife when I was 30 and never looked back. We got married a year after we met. You just know
It’s better to not get married too early, lots of people change a lot from 18-25. I think in your 30s is best.
Never. Don’t fall into that trap.
Just date normally and you’ll find the one eventually, usually women want to settle down in their late 20s or early 30s after they’ve been ran through and are now “high value Christian women” out of nowhere.
When it feels right.
Settle down? Or get married?
After a divorce 14 years ago, it will never be time to settle down again! I will find someone who hates me and give them half of what I have left before I go through that pain again. To use what a lot of women on TikTok videos are saying “I refuse to settle” down.
35M. I promise you it’s 29 or before. After 30, what’s left is everyone who has trouble committing (if it’s a male generally) or compromising (if it’s a female generally) or has mental issues (also quite frequent nowadays).
At the end of the day, it comes down to 2 emotionally/mentally stable individuals being able to compromise and commit in any good long term relationship. I was one of those who could not commit, and now I’m dating in a pond full of women looking for the perfect thing, and thus single themselves. Don’t make the same mistake, fellas.
When you meet the right one.
I didn’t meet my wife until I was 28, and we didn’t seriously date until almost a year later, and still didn’t get married for a few more years.
You’ll know when you find the woman. I’d really only casually dated as well, had recently moved across the country for work. Was young and fit and prepared to be a man whore. I met my now wife two months later.
Basically when it feels right. Though I don’t believe that starting your acquaintance from a hookup will ever lead to settling down with that person. At least that’s my opinion.
My man said “you just know it feels different” & he was asking older men about us and asking how did you know she was the one? So if you don’t want a relationship that’s okay too! There’s so many people who just want casual !
I don’t think there’s really a concrete answer. There’s some people who meet the one in elementary school and spend their entire lives together in complete bliss, there are some who get married after a week of knowing each other in their 50’s. In my uneducated opinion, it’s about finding someone and being someone who puts in alot of work into the relationship and your shared lives.
Now with all that being said, I’d personally give it about four years for the honeymoon phase to be over and decide if we like the person behind the lust. Something I’m personally very bad at lol.
I’m almost 37 with 3 kids (not with my current girl), two of which I have full custody, and am finally engaged. I just thank god I didn’t marry my kids moms.
Personally I’ve been ready for a while it’s just nearly impossible to find a girl I think is worth the effort
Almost everyone I knew who settled down and got married because “it’s time”, either had their marriage crash and burn or are unhappy in their marriage. In other words, there isn’t a set “right time”. But if you find someone who you love and have no doubt that they’ll be a great partner through life’s joys and struggles, but STILL don’t want to settle down, then honestly, the “standard” life course may not be for you. And that’s ok.
When she traps you with so many kids if you left your whole paycheck goes to her so you think about it and you know what she’s not that bad so you decide to get married but you can’t afford a honey moon cause you have sooooo many god damn kids and you also don’t have enough for a nice reception so you just buy pizza for the day….yeah that’s when you know it’s time…yeah
Honestly never before 33-35.
When I was younger I promised myself I’d never get married before 30. I can tell you that was an extremely wise decision even if I wasn’t 100% aware then.
I see women for who they are and how they work much better. Learn to play the game, then choose, rather than get played and get chosen as a last resort.
I couldn’t tell you, I am 43M and have never tried to date and have always left women alone..
When it’s time, you know. As long as you’re not being guilted into it that is.
Personally, I have only ever had the intention to find a life partner.
When she’s the right one.
As soon as you find her. Picking a date is silly
35-45 ish
Never. Men don’t benefit from marriage, no matter how much women try to sell the lie that we do.