We were friends before we started dating, but when we went on our first date (first time we had ever hung out just the two of us) I knew within a few hours that we were going to get married, we did, that was almost 20 years ago now.
When she apologizes for something and also prefers going 50/50 on dates. In addition, seems genuine and honest with no noticeable red flags. Lastly, is motivated and has a solid career.
Once or if all these things appear to be true, I then feel she is right for me.
It affects me very little. Even before all these are confirmed, I’m generally a decent dude who treats people with equal respect and loyalty. It simply makes me like her and shift more towards love instead of just liking or appreciation.
When she has goals in life, a stable career, is family oriented, wants a family of her own, and doesn’t expects me to take care of her like a child like most modern women want. It’s so weird like it’s a fetish.
How natural it feels to be humorous and funny with them. Not feeling like I have to tip toe around jokes is a big sign that I’ve gained that level of comfort and trust with them.
I don’t think you do. I think you find out why people are wrong for you. And eventually, you just get to a point where, if you haven’t figured out why they are wrong for you, they must be right for you.
You don’t. It’s a fn gamble, and you have a higher chance of winning a lottery. Most modern women are too egotistical, shallow, and behave the “what’s in for me” mindset.
That’s a difficult question to answer because you can’t always tell if someone is right for you early in any relationship. How does she talk about people when they’re not in the room? What kind of people does she choose to spend most of time with (if she hangs around people who are toxic then I gotta cut it off)? Does she bring out the best or worst in me (this should be the standard thought)? Does she make a lot of bad choices? Is she disciplined especially financially? The real way to know if she’s right for you is to give her more than enough freedom to do what she wants to do without judgement and she’ll show you if she’s right for you or not, it’ll take time so you need to be patient while keeping your options open.
For me it was when she made me nervous on our first date. In college I just fell into relationships, most not lasting long, and enjoyed myself. I could talk to any girl, have no expectations, it was easy going. On the first date with my now wife I was nervous as could be and everything in my head was screaming “Do not fuck this up”.
You don’t. I’ve always waited till they get comfortable around me usually that’s when the real them comes out and they drop what I call “the representative” around 90 days or so from my experience.
When she starts cutely inserting herself into my life. I dated a girl in college(one I should have married but was an idiot) who just stated showing up and doing things at my house(after we got to the ‘here’s a key’ stage.) I came home and it was “hi baby I did your laundry for you hope thats ok.” Or I would wake up and she would hand me a cup of coffee bedside.
Also dont ask me why this specific quality is so attractive to me… but when a girl is the ‘leave the party early’ type of girl its incredibly hot.
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When I discover she’s not an asshole
When I’m really looking forward to the fifth date
You don’t. You make them wait 5+ years to show you who they really are.
We were friends before we started dating, but when we went on our first date (first time we had ever hung out just the two of us) I knew within a few hours that we were going to get married, we did, that was almost 20 years ago now.
When she apologizes for something and also prefers going 50/50 on dates. In addition, seems genuine and honest with no noticeable red flags. Lastly, is motivated and has a solid career.
Once or if all these things appear to be true, I then feel she is right for me.
It affects me very little. Even before all these are confirmed, I’m generally a decent dude who treats people with equal respect and loyalty. It simply makes me like her and shift more towards love instead of just liking or appreciation.
When she has goals in life, a stable career, is family oriented, wants a family of her own, and doesn’t expects me to take care of her like a child like most modern women want. It’s so weird like it’s a fetish.
You don’t. People rarely show who they really are in the early dating stage.
When it’s your best friend but you like fucking too
You never really know if someone is right for you, but you’ll definitely know if they aren’t.
How natural it feels to be humorous and funny with them. Not feeling like I have to tip toe around jokes is a big sign that I’ve gained that level of comfort and trust with them.
I don’t think you do. I think you find out why people are wrong for you. And eventually, you just get to a point where, if you haven’t figured out why they are wrong for you, they must be right for you.
When she has a playful, goofy quirk and is genuinely nice to me and others around us. How you treat strangers is a strong indicator of your morality.
You don’t. It’s a fn gamble, and you have a higher chance of winning a lottery. Most modern women are too egotistical, shallow, and behave the “what’s in for me” mindset.
That’s a difficult question to answer because you can’t always tell if someone is right for you early in any relationship. How does she talk about people when they’re not in the room? What kind of people does she choose to spend most of time with (if she hangs around people who are toxic then I gotta cut it off)? Does she bring out the best or worst in me (this should be the standard thought)? Does she make a lot of bad choices? Is she disciplined especially financially? The real way to know if she’s right for you is to give her more than enough freedom to do what she wants to do without judgement and she’ll show you if she’s right for you or not, it’ll take time so you need to be patient while keeping your options open.
We talk a lot. I have a few ways of telling if its going to work long term, or just be fun.
For me it was when she made me nervous on our first date. In college I just fell into relationships, most not lasting long, and enjoyed myself. I could talk to any girl, have no expectations, it was easy going. On the first date with my now wife I was nervous as could be and everything in my head was screaming “Do not fuck this up”.
You don’t. I’ve always waited till they get comfortable around me usually that’s when the real them comes out and they drop what I call “the representative” around 90 days or so from my experience.
When she ghosts me, tends to be a decent indicator
When she starts cutely inserting herself into my life. I dated a girl in college(one I should have married but was an idiot) who just stated showing up and doing things at my house(after we got to the ‘here’s a key’ stage.) I came home and it was “hi baby I did your laundry for you hope thats ok.” Or I would wake up and she would hand me a cup of coffee bedside.
Also dont ask me why this specific quality is so attractive to me… but when a girl is the ‘leave the party early’ type of girl its incredibly hot.
Most people are right for you in the early stages. Most people are full of shit.
Unfortunately it takes time to get to know a person without their walls up.
I’ll wait until the dopamine runs out before making a decision bro