Long story short, I’m late 30s, asexual, and still get plenty of it. And I detest it. When do I get too old? I cannot wait to become invisible.
I’ve not gotten a gross comment in a good while, luckily laws against sexual harassment are pretty strong where I live. But I’ve been noticing men get subtler and it grosses me out to no end. For example, random men in the street start whistling a tune, or outright burst into song when they see you. And no, it’s not “they just happened to be singing” it literally happens right when you pass them by, or when they notice you.
I just hate being treated like an object when I’m just out minding my business.
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Where do you live? In certain parts of Europe and East Asia it’s not a problem, unless you maybe dress extremely provocatively
Don’t take this the wrong way, but never, I hope.
I appreciate someone who appreciates me, even if I have absolutely no interest.
It’s harder when they stop, even if you hoped they would for years.
You’re hot. Enjoy it. Time is a mother.
It doesn’t.
Men break out into song when you walk by? Never heard that one.
when i got agoraphobia and stopped going out without my partner
It doesn’t. I lived for a few years in San Jose CA, from ages 21 to 28. Wow, the amount of cat calling I experienced was next level. Barely even wanted to leave the house lol. I’m 32 now, in a new area, and it hasn’t fully stopped here either.
Never.
In your 40s more or less
I feel like it’s hard to say especially if you are attractive. I think I’m definitely average at 39 and I haven’t had attention for a while now haha. 🤣
I have been honked and whistled at in Australia but only when I dress provocatively for a night out
I went to a puppy adoption fair with my mom (56) today and she had a man following her around trying to start a conversation the entire time…
I don’t get any. But I do look like a huge bitch so that’s probably why. RBF does have its perks 🤷🏻♀️
I’m 46 and it still happens. I look forward to being invisible to them, too.
I’m not sure. It stopped for me when my now husband gave me a giant engagement ring. It’s man repellent. They see it and assume that I won’t be interested and that they can’t afford me anyways.
Last year (I’m 35) I went to the grocery store without it on looking cute because I was beginning to think that perhaps it wasn’t the ring but that I wasn’t hot any more. I got asked out aggressively by a 25 year old while reading tomato sauce labels.
It does end but it’s not in the 30’s I don’t think.
I was just wondering this the other day! I was walking near my work and a guy behind my was making kissy noises at me for a solid 3 minutes until I got back to my building. I thought I’d for sure be done with this when I’m months from turning 40.
When you get fat and old! I am on the aroace spectrum and honestly the lack of attention is the only good part of being severely overweight. Men simply do not see you or want anything to do with very fat women.
When I lost 100 pounds a few years ago I was being hit on in public again and a small part of me regretted losing weight.
I still get it, BUT, I moved to the gayborhood and lord almighty is it a breath of fresh air to go for walks here and have no men bother me.
It doesn’t.
I look forward to your post in 10 years asking why you can’t find a good man
The only time street harassment stopped for me was when I lived in a very small town where most people knew each other. You have to behave better bc people know you! It was so so nice. Once a guy I didn’t know asked if I needed a ride home when I was walking w groceries. I said no thank you. And another time I got over confident and wore a tank top w no bra and someone leered at me. But that’s it. It was so nice!!!!
If you live in a walkable big city, it doesn’t.
I copped it really bad in my early 20s, random men on the street asking my number in various places or creeping on me and so forth.
I was a pretty big shut in in my late 20s but was also oblivious for other reasons and in a relationship anyway.
I still get it, albeit a lot less on my early 30s and it’s often men in their late 50s-70s otherwise sometimes a young upstart that doesn’t know how to talk to the female population and I want to yell at them “honey, I’m too old for you!!”. Younger guys are more shy I think. Also I got more attention when my hair was long + blonde.
Actually OP I have an idea, when I dyed my hair bright hot pink, any man who didn’t already know me wouldn’t come near me. Dye your hair a funky colour!!
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