Warning: contains abuse. My father was a raging asshole. He used to beat us and yell at us about how worthless we were constantly. My mother finally had enough, and said that either he gets psychological help, or she leaves him. He went to the doctor, and was prescribed an antipsychotic medication, which made sense to us kids, because he was psychotic. When he started taking it, he magically became nice! No more beatings, no more yelling… it was paradise. Then, after a while, he turned mean again. We asked our Mom what was going on, and she said that he stopped taking his medication because he didn’t like the side effects, whatever that meant. We felt doomed. Until one day, my mom accidentally? left his prescription bottle in the kitchen. My sister and I looked at each other and didn’t even have to say a thing. She got out a spoon and I ground the white pill into powder, and we put it in his orange juice. What a nice day we had! We did this every single day, enjoying our temporary happy home, until the prescription ran out. It was the best month of our childhood, and I’m not sorry.
Edit: Wow, thanks for all of your kind words and the award, this is unexpected but greatly appreciated! To those that asked, I’m doing fine now and live a blessed life. And no, I don’t recommend people do this at home, I was just a kid during desperate times.
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I could be wrong but I don’t think antipsychotics work like that. You don’t take one and feel better immediately. They usually have to build up in your body in order to become effective. I could be totally wrong though. Sounds like he needed it.
Edit: I confused them with antidepressants! Thanks for the corrections! Good on you, OP
That’s what I call being a survivor. Good for you & your sister.
Good for you. Wish he would’ve kept taking them longer
I wish I would have done that for my step-dad after he stopped taking his medication for BPD
You shouldn’t be sorry. I’m glad you got a momentary reprieve.
Im sorry this happened to you
I had 3 days of nice dad. That’s how long my dad was on Zoloft for.
I should have done this when I was a kid. I’d have been better off. Seriously.
You da real MVP.
I would have told my mom lmao.
You did nothing wrong and should in fact be applauded for this.
Good for you, OP. I’m sorry you had to live like that. I used to pull apart my Prozac capsules and stir them in my mom’s butter spread, hoping it would make her nicer and more stable.
Perhaps unrelated: back in the “Good Old Days” when divorce wasn’t allowed, housewives used to just poison their husbands for good.
this is such a crazy story , good for you !
The way I see it, you didn’t drug him, you medicated him
I hope things are better for you now.
A child force feeding a parent their prescribed medication so that the kid(s) don’t get beat just doesn’t feel like “drugging” to me, so much as creative problem solving ❤️ I hope you’re safe now
Knew someone in a similar situation, they used Benadryl.
You didn’t drug your dad, you assisted him in taking his meds!
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Good job!
This could have been written by me or my sister. Never had a moments of peace until he died at 80.
Wow, thanks for all of your kind words and the award, this is unexpected but greatly appreciated! To those that asked, I’m doing fine now and live a blessed life. And no, I don’t recommend people do this at home, I was just a kid during desperate times.
Honestly good on you. Sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do just to survive.
I kinda relate to this. My father is EXACTLY the same. He went to the psych doc, too (not for his abusive behavior but cuz he couldn’t sleep properly)
The doc gave him some pills which made him sleepy all day. But he only took em for 2 days literally 🙄
Those 2 days were the happiest days frrr.
(I, by all my heart, wanted to give him those sleeping pills again, by mixing it in his food but I couldn’t cuz idk im about to become a doctor and it didn’t feel right to me.) (I thought this would affect my karma, yes im a believer)
So i didn’t. I sometimes feel like I should tho 😭
On the one hand, feeding drugs to someone without their knowledge is bad. On the other, fuck that, he was prescribed it to make the lives around him safer, and by not taking it he made your lives miserable.
If I ever got psychotic and began to hurt my loved ones, take this comment as legal precedence to let them slip drugs into my coffee or whatever to make me not do that shit.
Side effects = erectile dysfunction.
Drugged with Prozac. Good!
Damn I wish I had that for my mother when I was a kid. Think “Mommie Dearest” – EXACTLY like “Mommie Dearest”
Ehe i bet the side effect was ED and he hated that he couldn’t feel as manly in his opinion – no abuse, no bouts of rage, no boners
You did what you had to do to survive. Glad you got out!
This is a very common scenario where I come from. Grandparents often live with the family and they end up causing very chaotic, abusive situations. Many sons and daughter in laws end up putting antipsychotics in their food to calm them down.
It’s wrong , but right in your situation. Good for you.
For someone who needs an antipsychotic to be “normal”, not taking their meds is equivalent to a normal person being on drugs. You didn’t drug your dad, you just stopped him from being on drugs.
That’s amazing
Not the asshole oh sorry wrong subreddit
It’s not drugging someone to give me them the medicine that they need that they have been prescribed.
It is always morally acceptable to drug your abuser. Aqua Tofana was invented for a reason.
Man, I wish I had something like that to have given my biofather to calm him the fuck down.
I would have done anything for a month of not being afraid.
I completely get it. If I had access to my father’s meds when i was a kid, I would’ve done the same.
For two years in the early 90s, my sister was on Prozac. She went from being a raging, loud, self-absorbed, pushy narcissist who always had to have everyone’s attention to a soft-spoken, lovely person who cared about others and was a joy to be around. It was the most magical transformation ever!
Then she decided she didn’t need to be on Prozac any longer. After that, she was even worse than before. It was incredible. After a year, I couldn’t handle her shit any longer and basically went no-contact. I really think they should just put this in our nation’s water supply.
There are very few cases where doing the wrong thing for the right reason is okay, but I would happily argue that your case is one of the few; you didn’t increase the dose, I assume, but just made sure he followed the advice of the doctor. Glad to hear that you are in a better place now.
You didn’t drug your dad. You ensured he was taking his necessary medication for an illness that causes people to think they don’t have an illness. You were protecting him as well as yourselves.
In india it is legal to put anti Psychotics in food without consent. Just because it is heavily stigmatized. You did the right thing.
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The side effects were probably he didn’t feel like himself.
This was an ethical act of kindness and pragmatism. No issue with it, whatsoever.
The first post on here I relate to. My dad was a raging violent drunk and when I was a kid/teen I would offer him a snack with 2-4 crushed up melatonins. Even poured it into his beer sometimes. No regrets! We only had peace when he was asleep lol
this is heartbreaking
We all know what the “side effects” are.
It was prescription medication. That isn’t drugging him.
I can relate to this so hard and I’m so sorry you had to do this but on the other hand I totally understand the relief
Probably illigal but good for you and your sister
Well that just reminded me of how me and my sister used to grind up sleeping pills and put them in our dads coffee when he got so drunk that we knew he would terrorise us. NTA
Honestly I feel bad for all parties involved here. Clearly the father was mentally unhealthy. Even got prescribed something for it and took it, until either externally or internally decided it wasn’t good for them. I’m not justifying their decision to stop taking it or to take anything out on their children in any way. I just feel bad that they had that condition in the first place and I think its sad that they got a glimpse of how life could be if they were correctly treated for their condition.
Good job. The side effects were probably not being able to get aroused or get off when aroused. I’m glad you survived that trauma.
That’s not drugging atleast I wouldn’t say it is
You survived.
Can you do this for Kanye too?
Props to you not giving him the whole bottle at once.
The anger these men have astounds me..
how did he react when he realized the pill bottle was empty ?
I had to do this with my dad’s Zoloft. You do what you have to so you make it out alive. Hugs to you, stranger.
The side effects of mental health drugs two and three decades ago were pretty harsh for even just the mild issues, and horrendous for the larger problems. It was always a matter of trading one mental health issue for another and both often sacrificed relationships in the process.
Looking back, it was hardly worth it, except for the fact that it brought us to the modern medications and therapies we have now.
This made my heart glow and broke it at the same time. The helplessness yet resilience of children. Parts of me resonate. Glad you survived!
I hope you’re safe now and living you’re best life
If I become mentally unwell and become abusive my kids, I fully expect and hope my wife would have me committed or at least removed from them for their safety. You did good.
Your father deserved it. While you may have done something technically wrong, you did it in the name of survival for you and your family. Trust me… no higher power would ever punish you for this… bless you, OP
Wish you had an endless supply
I hope you’re doing much better currently
Wow so yall just straight up believe everything you read on the internet, huh? No shot this is real. So let me get this straight.
Your dad stopped taking the meds because of side effects. But then didn’t notice for an entire month he was a totally different person and didn’t notice he had the side effects he didn’t like? And he didn’t wonder why it HAD to be you or your sister giving him a drink every single day for a month? An 8 year old was able to crush a pill into a drink every single day and not get caught or anything?
Come on man 🤣
yoooo thats awesome and all, but how did he not find out about it
Wish I coulda done that.
What happened after
What kind of medication changes a whole ass mood for a day immediately? Cause damn, I want some. Everything I’ve ever been on takes a month to take root.
It was prescribed to him by a doctor so the reward vs risk was a no brainer. Good for you.
Now this is the kind of drugging I can get behind
I did the same for the same reasons. It was so worth it. I have no regrets, and I hope you don’t either 💜
You didn’t drug him, you were administering medication to an uncooperative patient.
You did everything right.
My sister and I did this to our mom when we were kids. Our mom was like your dad, but she ended up in legal trouble. Was court ordered to undergo a psych evaluation. Got a laundry list of diagnosis. Was told that she’d be blood tested every month for the duration of her sentence to ensure she was taking her meds. She stopped taking them about 2 months in, saying she’d take the pills the day before the test and she’d pass.
I was in charge of making the coffee pot every morning when I got up for school. We started crushing them up and putting them in her coffee every morning. It was the best 2 years of our lives. To this day, she’s still convinced she outsmarted the courts.
You did what you had to do im glad that you made it through that.
Props to you and your sis – and your mom for “leaving” them.
My dad was also diagnosed with what was called “paranoid schizophrenia” in the 80s. He wasn’t particularly “nice” while medicated but was nicer-ish and less ragey. He too stopped taking his and my mom – a registered nurse – never made him again. But I can relate to your bliss.
I’m sorry this happened to you growing up and I’m sorry your dad did what he did and that he stopped taking his medication and I’m sorry your mom wasn’t able to or simply didn’t either get him to take his medication or leave him and bring you girls somewhere safe.
Reddit is like 75% fake AI stories now
As children with little power in defending yourselves you did the right thing.
You did what you had to do for survival, smart kids.
Mom should have ordered more…
How old were you guys?
I’m sorry, dude. I had a mother like that.
(She’s still alive, somewhere, I think. I just cut her off about 20 years ago.)
It’s hard when your don’t know when the abuse is coming. My female parent would be watching tv come downstairs and start hitting me.
I am sorry that you and your sister had to live through that. you both did what you had to do. I wouldn’t feel bad about it.
hopefully everything is good now, thank you for sharing.
never let anyone make you feel bad. you were a child in survival mode. most childhood abuse victims have done something that people who haven’t been through it wouldn’t understand.
i hope you are in a better situation now.
Me and my mom had to do this with Xanax too. Don’t blame you one bit