So I (M21) have never dated before but almost all my friends do and I agree with the way thy date. They never cold approach or ask out somebody that they’ve just met but wait for a while and get to know them/become friends with them.
So my question is if you catch feelings for a friend and want to date them, how should you go about it?
What would be a good way of going about telling them and asking them out?
Btw please don’t tell me to not date friends. Literally everybody that I know started as just friends or friends of friends for a while and then ended up dating.
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You ask them out on a date. I would like to take you to dinner Friday night. Dinner and you asking to take them makes it clear that this isn’t two friends hanging out. Start there.
Before you become too friendly or they show they’re not interested. Earlier the better. Waiting a while isn’t smart and will lead a lot of people to think that you were never actually interested in friendship, just fucking.
when it feels mutual and you’re not just guessing in the dark, go for it. no need for a big moment, just be honest without making it weird.
I got asked out by a friend of mine. He took me to get coffee and when we were about to leave he asked if I wanted to get dinner sometime. I said yes.
Doesnt need to be hard. If it is something that you think will be awkward in your head, then it will probably be awkward.
Dating friends can be a great way to go! You already know them pretty well, and have come to admire some great things about them. Yes, it can get messy if you break up, but many solid friendships have stuck around after.
Do you already hang out one-on-one? If not, suggesting an activity for just the two of you is a great start. Low-risk, like coffee or a hike. If that goes well, ask her for dinner or to an event like a play or something. “Could I take you out to dinner sometime?” is generally pretty clear that it’s a date.
Definitely the earlier the better but you should totally just be open and do a late night ice cream!
You CAN date friends, but it just almost never ends well.
Do not do a big ‘grand gesture’ date.
Also, feel the situation out. Your being enamored might mean nothing to this person. She might laught. Be ready to laugh.
This may sound cold, treat her like any other prospect.
Make it clear that it is a date.
The last thing that you want is to think that you have a date, but when you show up, a mutual friend has tagged along.
Gtfo, Brian. It’s only supposed to be the two of us.
Ask as soon as you are comfortable. All my guy friends had crushes on me, never told me or asked me out, then got vicious when I got a boyfriend. It always got ugly & I was confused by there reactions. My only guy friends now are the husbands of my girlfriends & I don’t associate with them outside of an interaction with my girlfriends. I am too afraid of the ramifications from incidents in my younger days.
Ask them out on a date.
Make it clear that it’s a date and not just some meet up.
Understand that there are two answers. Be prepared for both.