For example, most women tend to desire physical acts with a particular person, particularly someone they’re emotionally connected to. Instead of just focusing on the physical release.
Do men care as much?
When it comes to intimacy, do you desire a particular person or does it not matter to you?
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Believe it or not men are also humans that do human things, like feel.
We like sex even when it’s not with The One, if that’s what you mean. Sure.
I’m not going to be intimate with someone I’m not in a relationship with
I have to be attracted to the person. Some men seem to be able to overcome this and can literally fuck a catcher’s mitt (borrowing a line from the philosopher Christopher Moltisanti).
I don’t mind who it is aslong as we are both attracted and its not a weird relationship.
I know a lot of women who do the same too
Yes, that’s why I dont do hookup.
Intimacy with trust feels so much better. Probably the reason I don’t have much intimacy anymore.
That is a gross generalisation in my opinion. Women love sex just as much as men, emotional connection or not.
Men and women have a variety of motivations for sex. Sometimes physical gratification without any emotional connection is what men or women crave, sometimes intimacy with a loved partner is what men or women crave, sometimes a person just wants attention.
Bottom line is yes absolutely men often “desire physical acts with a particular person” it’s possible that men’s and women’s motivations may not be exactly matched, but yes men do desire their long term partners to the point of excluding outsiders.
I do prefer women with big boobs
There’s a personality trait called “sociosexuality” which refers to how much you enjoy sexual variety with different people. High sociosexuality means you’re willing to have sex with different people you wouldn’t be in a relationship with. Low sociosexuality means you don’t like sexual variety and catch feelings with sex easily and are hurt by your partners not being in exclusive relationships with you.
Men on average are higher in sociosexuality so they are more likely to have sex with someone they wouldn’t be in a relationship with and not catch feelings.
But these are averages. Like all personality traits most people are somewhere in the middle. I, for example am pretty cagey about sex for a man. I’ve turned down more women than I’ve had sex with although I did hurt an old FWB pretty badly because she had feelings I didn’t reciprocate. That potential for hurt and me being low enough in sociosexuality to be happy with monogamous relationships means I can just stick with those.
I desire peace and quiet! 😅
I don’t just want random sex. I want sex with my wife. The whole reason I married her instead of just being friends with her is because I wanted to have sex with her, and only her, on a regular basis.
Ehm….yes, I usually prefer my wife ?
I consider sex with someone I love and sex with hookups to be two entirely different things, that don’t serve the same purpose.
My wife, hands down. Sex with her hits differently than anyone else.