I don’t know if anyone else got this growing up, but whenever I would make a silly mistake that wasn’t serious enough to get punished but still needing correcting, my parents would say “I love you, but…(then correct me)” in a semi-sarcastic tone, and I think that’s fucked up. “I love you” should only be used sincere and genuine tone in any and all circumstances, so as not to degrade the meaning of one’s love for another
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I say this to my boys all the time. Some of them are knuckleheads that require a talking to and I always preface it with. I love you dude, but…..
For me, the “I love you but ‘followed by a critique of some kind’” was usually when the critique was either lighthearted/not that serious or said by someone close to me and that was their way of easing me in to the critique.
You guys had parents tell you they love you?
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“Nothing someone says before the word ‘but’ really counts”
Eh, I prefer it (when it’s sincere.) It makes me think they actually care since they want to remind you it comes from a loving place. When people truly love you, they want you to be the best person you can be, even if it sucks for you to hear. That’s why people want to remind you they love you and wish the best before something you may take as an attack
My wife and I say this to each other a lot.
Mostly “I love you but you never shut up” when the other is talking way too much.
You are taking it the opposite way it is meant.
They are trying not to hurt you feelings with their comments
The only time I’ve useful this line was on my now estranged sister…” I love you but you’re a fkcing bitch”