When you realize how touch-deprived you really are

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Got a haircut a few days ago, and it made me realize how much I missed being touched. It felt so good to have the barber touching my hair, and I was so sad when it was over 🤦‍♂️ #nohomo

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  1. wattscup Avatar

    Treat yourself to a massage

  2. Sneaker_Pump Avatar

    You really don’t need to write “no homo”. Your feelings and post were fine until you wrote that.

  3. SDWantingToMoveOn Avatar

    That is much more common, probably than people realize.

  4. Lonely_Book1 Avatar

    I am so touch and love deprived rn..even if chat gpt called me babe, I would start crying 😭
    I love hugs. I love when someone hugs me.

  5. Tremenda-Carucha Avatar

    Here is how I see it… it’s something you just don’t think about much, but suddenly you realize how much your body craves a touch. That feeling when you realize how much you miss simple physical contact is surprisingly powerful, and, honestly, I think we all experience it from time to time, it’s kinda funny.

  6. avid-learner-bot Avatar

    It sounds like you’re realizing how much we all crave simple human connection, which is honestly a little sad but also really understandable, I’m really guilty of needing a good hug sometimes too, and yeah, sometimes a haircut reminds you of things you hadn’t even noticed before… it’s funny how small things can trigger such big feelings.

  7. Both_Perception_2673 Avatar

    Poor Barber thought he was just cutting hair😂

  8. meagainpansy Avatar

    Brother, have you considered you may just be into men who cut hair?

  9. Julietshere Avatar

    I think loads of people go through this, we all need human connection and even if you have people you’re close to you won’t always have a lot of physical affection in those relationships, especially between men. It’s great that you realised this is something you want/need more of, you can always take steps towards more connection

  10. NervyPervy Avatar

    I’ve been married for over thirty years. My wife and I are nearly always touching. Holding hands in the car or anytime we’re walking. Sitting in our big chair. Anytime we’re within reach, we’re touching. I couldn’t live without it.

  11. natattack410 Avatar

    Anyone remember “free hugs” campaign?

  12. isolatedheathen Avatar

    Humans for the most part are social creatures social interaction usually have some elements of physical touch hand shakes hugs wrapping an arm around someone’s shoulders etc it has been the way of humans for eons only recently have we as a species gone so out of our way to disconnect from each other and yes it causes problems.

  13. ojkas Avatar

    me at the nail salon honestly it was just really nice! it’s human nothing to feel embarrassed about

  14. Hiitsuroldthong Avatar

    Dang bro heres a virtual hug

  15. Background-Bit-Oh Avatar

    Someone gave me an almost hour long hug a month ago. First hug I’d had in more years than I care to remember. Haven’t stopped thinking about it and now I’m depressed.

  16. spandexvalet Avatar

    Yes. I actually enjoyed going to the dentist last week purely for the human contact. That’s not healthy.

  17. cutiepeachyx Avatar

    Ugh, I so relate to this. It’s crazy how something as basic as a haircut can make you realize how hungry you are for love. Like, why did that 10-minute scalp massage feel like therapy??

  18. AdoreUDior Avatar

    I touched my own lower back the other day and idk how to explain what I felt but I knew in that moment that I need human touch.

  19. Beautiful-Matter-912 Avatar

    I go to the same salon every time. For me it’s an experience. My stylist is a super sweet lady too.

  20. Curious-Bench-5696 Avatar

    Society as a whole is becoming more impersonal and one to one connections outside of social media more uncommon. I believe this longing for personal touch will be felt by more and more people.

  21. Ok_Big_660 Avatar

    It’s actually one of those verry basic natural needs that all living things crave for; food, sex, comfort, excitement, etc…

  22. Emotional_Moosey Avatar

    Pedicures are the best. They scrub your feet and rub your legs

  23. Jay_Bhoy Avatar

    I love going to the barbers , go every 2 weeks ,just that fresh cut feeling is great

  24. Iamdickburns Avatar

    I would pay extra for the hair wash just for the human contact.

  25. Independant-low6153 Avatar

    Me too and I go to a female hair stylist.

  26. WildDreamgirl Avatar

    Started going to a hair salon that does those amazing scalp massages during washing. Not even ashamed to admit I book appointments more frequently than needed just for those 10 minutes of pure bliss.

  27. chadlybrown Avatar

    The #nohomo wasn’t needed 🫏🕳️
    Do better.

  28. seasickbaby Avatar

    Makes me actually scared for my friends who cut hair how many people are using them to fill a void.. I can understand and empathize on the topic of loneliness but service workers don’t exist for this reason. Suggesting that they do is dangerous for people who are in this line of work- especially for women. Consent goes two ways.

  29. VioViridian Avatar

    I had my blood drawn a while back and I realized that I forgot how warm a person’s touch is. You’re not alone

  30. Pleasant-chamoix-653 Avatar

    Same. Got a haircut at the Turkish Barbers last week and his fingers were touching my forehead for a second

  31. CaterpillarSure1102 Avatar

    I had this going back a few years, still haven’t been touched since in the way I was…

    I used to go to the barbers further away as the girl there was so hot.. I would always ask for my hair to be washed so she would run her fingers through it… 😛and she would also press up against you quite close, was the best..

    Now I’m definitely too far away to go there

  32. neutralest Avatar

    This was me at the DOCTOR a few years ago lmao

  33. Any_Speaker4258 Avatar

    This.
    So at my job (barista) I make an effort to ask if I can hug literally any customer who might confide in me or share with me (both happy and not so happy things).

    People need hugs. People need to know that other humans exist with an abundance of love to give.

  34. No-Temperature-7708 Avatar

    I wrote this song because I felt the same. Ballad for the touch-deprived.

  35. Smile_Candid Avatar

    Getting the scalp massage at sports clips in the middle of covid was nuts.

  36. present_monkey Avatar

    I would go to a park or busy area and hold a sign. Will you give me a hug please?

  37. puffbus420 Avatar

    Good thing I cut my own hair easier to live in denial when nobody touches you at all

  38. growagain2217 Avatar

    You deserve to find someone who feels similar.

  39. HeartBeetz Avatar

    Touch is my love language and I’m beyond touch starved! Miss it SO much and desperately in need!

  40. Perfect_Fig_5727 Avatar

    There’s this time I experienced the same😂no judgements i boarded a tuktuk and a guy sat next to me I really just felt good😀he didn’t touch me just the feeling of being close to a guy😂It was crazyy

  41. Hekkle01 Avatar

    im so, so tired of the “no homo” thing

  42. RebaKitt3n Avatar

    Massage time!

  43. RedditIsRussianBots Avatar

    I don’t remember the last time someone hugged me. I am sitting here trying to remember and I can’t. It’s been so long. I remember a guy hugging me on a date so he could feel me up, but that was 3 years ago and made me feel dirty.

  44. anti-valentine Avatar

    Yeah this post almost made me cry, lol I’m so touch starved. My coworker gave me a hug last week after I had a breakdown and I’ve been thinking about it ever since. Im asexual but I just need cuddles, ya know?

  45. Ok_Effect_820 Avatar

    I have no idea if this is a known thing or not but yesterday I had the realization that men rough house/play fight because they lack physical touch in other parts of their everyday life. And because if they’re touching it’s seen as “gay”. Women are overall more physically affectionate with each other.

  46. Pompitus-of-Love Avatar

    Wait people still say no homo? Or is early 2000s homophobia coming back in style?

  47. tracinggirl Avatar

    Thats normal. As ive gotten older, I’ve become more affectionate with friends and family. I love to give them hugs. If you have family or friends, give em a hug.

  48. Substantial-Town-993 Avatar

    You deserve a massage! Touch deprivation is a real thing. Treat yourself!!

  49. GoddessOfReverie Avatar

    Felt.

    I go to snuggle parties. Lots of people feel exactly the way you do. It’s helps to deal with loneliness together. DM me if you want connections for your area! I know a lot of people who host them..

  50. you_are_allofme74 Avatar

    i relate. i remember showering in hot water and then being like “i hope i can hug someone someday.” sending hugs. 💚

  51. SecondEqual4680 Avatar

    It’s okay to not say no homo

  52. canweplayytogether Avatar

    I can relate. It’s tough when you crave that connection.

  53. SpitInMyMouthMan Avatar

    That #nohomo you threw in there is part of why you’re not being touched. I’m not making this a gay thing but if you cant talk about an experience with your barber without saying no homo, then you probably have other walls built up around your expression and seeking of physical touch.

    Personality wise, not sexuality wise.