Got a haircut a few days ago, and it made me realize how much I missed being touched. It felt so good to have the barber touching my hair, and I was so sad when it was over đ¤Śââď¸ #nohomo
Got a haircut a few days ago, and it made me realize how much I missed being touched. It felt so good to have the barber touching my hair, and I was so sad when it was over đ¤Śââď¸ #nohomo
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Treat yourself to a massage
You really donât need to write âno homoâ. Your feelings and post were fine until you wrote that.
That is much more common, probably than people realize.
I am so touch and love deprived rn..even if chat gpt called me babe, I would start crying đ
I love hugs. I love when someone hugs me.
Here is how I see it… it’s something you just don’t think about much, but suddenly you realize how much your body craves a touch. That feeling when you realize how much you miss simple physical contact is surprisingly powerful, and, honestly, I think we all experience it from time to time, it’s kinda funny.
It sounds like you’re realizing how much we all crave simple human connection, which is honestly a little sad but also really understandable, I’m really guilty of needing a good hug sometimes too, and yeah, sometimes a haircut reminds you of things you hadn’t even noticed before… it’s funny how small things can trigger such big feelings.
Poor Barber thought he was just cutting hairđ
Brother, have you considered you may just be into men who cut hair?
I think loads of people go through this, we all need human connection and even if you have people youâre close to you wonât always have a lot of physical affection in those relationships, especially between men. Itâs great that you realised this is something you want/need more of, you can always take steps towards more connection
I’ve been married for over thirty years. My wife and I are nearly always touching. Holding hands in the car or anytime we’re walking. Sitting in our big chair. Anytime we’re within reach, we’re touching. I couldn’t live without it.
Anyone remember “free hugs” campaign?
Humans for the most part are social creatures social interaction usually have some elements of physical touch hand shakes hugs wrapping an arm around someone’s shoulders etc it has been the way of humans for eons only recently have we as a species gone so out of our way to disconnect from each other and yes it causes problems.
me at the nail salon honestly it was just really nice! itâs human nothing to feel embarrassed about
Dang bro heres a virtual hug
Someone gave me an almost hour long hug a month ago. First hug I’d had in more years than I care to remember. Haven’t stopped thinking about it and now I’m depressed.
Yes. I actually enjoyed going to the dentist last week purely for the human contact. Thatâs not healthy.
Ugh, I so relate to this. It’s crazy how something as basic as a haircut can make you realize how hungry you are for love. Like, why did that 10-minute scalp massage feel like therapy??
I touched my own lower back the other day and idk how to explain what I felt but I knew in that moment that I need human touch.
I go to the same salon every time. For me itâs an experience. My stylist is a super sweet lady too.
Society as a whole is becoming more impersonal and one to one connections outside of social media more uncommon. I believe this longing for personal touch will be felt by more and more people.
It’s actually one of those verry basic natural needs that all living things crave for; food, sex, comfort, excitement, etc…
Pedicures are the best. They scrub your feet and rub your legs
I love going to the barbers , go every 2 weeks ,just that fresh cut feeling is great
I would pay extra for the hair wash just for the human contact.
Me too and I go to a female hair stylist.
Started going to a hair salon that does those amazing scalp massages during washing. Not even ashamed to admit I book appointments more frequently than needed just for those 10 minutes of pure bliss.
The #nohomo wasnât needed đŤđłď¸
Do better.
Makes me actually scared for my friends who cut hair how many people are using them to fill a void.. I can understand and empathize on the topic of loneliness but service workers donât exist for this reason. Suggesting that they do is dangerous for people who are in this line of work- especially for women. Consent goes two ways.
I had my blood drawn a while back and I realized that I forgot how warm a personâs touch is. Youâre not alone
Same. Got a haircut at the Turkish Barbers last week and his fingers were touching my forehead for a second
I had this going back a few years, still havenât been touched since in the way I wasâŚ
I used to go to the barbers further away as the girl there was so hot.. I would always ask for my hair to be washed so she would run her fingers through it⌠đand she would also press up against you quite close, was the best..
Now Iâm definitely too far away to go there
This was me at the DOCTOR a few years ago lmao
This.
So at my job (barista) I make an effort to ask if I can hug literally any customer who might confide in me or share with me (both happy and not so happy things).
People need hugs. People need to know that other humans exist with an abundance of love to give.
I wrote this song because I felt the same. Ballad for the touch-deprived.
Getting the scalp massage at sports clips in the middle of covid was nuts.
I would go to a park or busy area and hold a sign. Will you give me a hug please?
Good thing I cut my own hair easier to live in denial when nobody touches you at all
You deserve to find someone who feels similar.
Touch is my love language and I’m beyond touch starved! Miss it SO much and desperately in need!
There’s this time I experienced the sameđno judgements i boarded a tuktuk and a guy sat next to me I really just felt goodđhe didn’t touch me just the feeling of being close to a guyđIt was crazyy
im so, so tired of the “no homo” thing
Massage time!
I don’t remember the last time someone hugged me. I am sitting here trying to remember and I can’t. It’s been so long. I remember a guy hugging me on a date so he could feel me up, but that was 3 years ago and made me feel dirty.
Yeah this post almost made me cry, lol I’m so touch starved. My coworker gave me a hug last week after I had a breakdown and I’ve been thinking about it ever since. Im asexual but I just need cuddles, ya know?
I have no idea if this is a known thing or not but yesterday I had the realization that men rough house/play fight because they lack physical touch in other parts of their everyday life. And because if theyâre touching itâs seen as âgayâ. Women are overall more physically affectionate with each other.
Wait people still say no homo? Or is early 2000s homophobia coming back in style?
Thats normal. As ive gotten older, I’ve become more affectionate with friends and family. I love to give them hugs. If you have family or friends, give em a hug.
You deserve a massage! Touch deprivation is a real thing. Treat yourself!!
Felt.
I go to snuggle parties. Lots of people feel exactly the way you do. Itâs helps to deal with loneliness together. DM me if you want connections for your area! I know a lot of people who host them..
i relate. i remember showering in hot water and then being like âi hope i can hug someone someday.â sending hugs. đ
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Itâs okay to not say no homo
I can relate. It’s tough when you crave that connection.
That #nohomo you threw in there is part of why you’re not being touched. I’m not making this a gay thing but if you cant talk about an experience with your barber without saying no homo, then you probably have other walls built up around your expression and seeking of physical touch.
Personality wise, not sexuality wise.