When you see it and have time, answer immediately….. if you don’t, don’t check until you have the time to respond(even if that response is “I’m at work I’ll text back asap”)…..
If I’m free and they happen to text me, immediately. If I am busy and I haven’t checked my phone, whenever I check my phone next. I never understood the whole “waiting for some time before texting back” rule because why would I spend so much time thinking about responding to a text
I respond as soon as I feel my phone go off. Everyone has their phone on them at all times and all it takes is a few minutes to respond or tell them that you’re busy and will get back to them when you can.
Seconds. If you message me then if I like you I prob am checking my phone more often and I will respond immediately. If a dudes leaving you on read then either:
1: you’re a side bitch and he can’t message you because his other bitch is around
2: he is playing games and if he’s playing those games then he will play all sorts of games (so will she this isn’t gender bias)
3: he doesn’t care about you and he’s going to message you when he wants to root
So can I ask you men something??? What does it mean and be honest I can take it…. when my man will respond to EVERY one else immediately or basically immediately but me has every excuse as to why he didn’t respond to me??? Relationship over yes I know I just want to make sure from men….
Depends on the time I am being messaged. If I’m at work and it isn’t an emergency l, it might be a bit. If I’m just chilling and doing nothing, then I respond fairly quickly.
Usually right away, unless she starts playing games and takes hours. Then I usually just stop talking to her completely because to me that’s a sign of disrespect.
Easiest and simplest rule with women: Match their effort. If she takes long, take long, if she answers quickly, you answer quickly(if you have time). I used to hate having to “play games” as it’s called, but It’s just understanding women’s psychology within dating. They are hard wired to want a man who’s not needy and willing to walk away due to self respect and having a purpose in life, and a dude who’s overly eager to text, call and meet 24/7 just sends women a message that they have nothing else going on for then in life and that she is put on a pedestal.
Being iger, and romantic and giving is something you can do when you actually have her full heart on lockdown, but that happens only after you also let her invest in the relationship from the start.
Imagine person A is handed a lamborghini for free.
Then imagine person B put in effort and time to earn the lambo. Which one of those two do you think would take more care of the car? Maintaining it, cleaning it, washing it? Yup…The one who invested in it.
If I can, I will message back instantly.
We all have stuff going on, though. When I’m at work, I will not break my focus and flow on an important task to text back instantly, of course.
When you see the message? Why the fuck do people play these stupid games. If she gets disinterested from you responding when it’s convenient, you sure do not want to make her the one.
Don’t play games, waiting and timing, it will make your life so much easier. However, that extended conversation that goes on for days doesn’t really help either.
If you both like each other, the “when to text” doesn’t really matter.
Being honest about your intentions sure helps though. Throwing out a “I really like you, I’d like to get to know you better, would you oppose being invited to dinner this Friday? I’ve got this new place I want to try out!”. This might however result in a “I don’t like you in that kind of way” — which is good information, because then you can get it out of your head. Otherwise you’ll talk yourself into the friend zone most probably. Trust me, I’m an expert xD
I had a lot of female friends, just sayin’, one could think I was some kind of Casanova just based on the amount of girls I hung out with in my early 20’s. But I was literally giving them the friendship treatment, so it obviously put me in the friend zone.
Then I learned how to be more upfront with my intentions, and it solved so many issues. Had a good couple of friends with benefits trying to sort my mid 20’s and eventually I found my wife.
Sure, I might have gone from friend zone to hoe, but that needed some calibration. I didn’t really get much action leading up to my 20’s xD
My point with all of this; most of my issues with the “when to text” and “what do I say” usually fixed itself when I just got clearer with my intentions. The catch is that you need to deal with rejection, however getting comfortable with rejection is a god damn life skill you need to learn in combination with communicating your needs.
So, if she texts, just reply when you see it — don’t overthink it! We all know everyone is living with their phone in their hand anyway, you’re not fooling anyone. Learning to “close” however, using sales lingo, probably would help though.
My job revolves around me having a phone on me at all times almost like I have to be available very fast. So if someone texts me, it’s very typical for me to have texted back within 20 minutes the latest.
I always have sound on I will never ever mute my phone unless I’m in a meeting or at church, etc. so if a girl I went on a date with texted me, I would probably reply within 10 minutes
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As soon as I see the message or very close to it.
I like responding to my girl or anyone within minutes. Unless im at work. Then I usually have to take my time
When you see it and have time, answer immediately….. if you don’t, don’t check until you have the time to respond(even if that response is “I’m at work I’ll text back asap”)…..
If I’m free and they happen to text me, immediately. If I am busy and I haven’t checked my phone, whenever I check my phone next. I never understood the whole “waiting for some time before texting back” rule because why would I spend so much time thinking about responding to a text
When I’m at home, just hanging out, I text back asap.
If I’m at work, I tend to see the message, but can’t respond to it right away.
But the women usually are at work themselves, so it’s fine.
Generally I match the energy that I’m getting
I respond as soon as I feel my phone go off. Everyone has their phone on them at all times and all it takes is a few minutes to respond or tell them that you’re busy and will get back to them when you can.
Seconds. If you message me then if I like you I prob am checking my phone more often and I will respond immediately. If a dudes leaving you on read then either:
1: you’re a side bitch and he can’t message you because his other bitch is around
2: he is playing games and if he’s playing those games then he will play all sorts of games (so will she this isn’t gender bias)
3: he doesn’t care about you and he’s going to message you when he wants to root
It depends what I’m doing and if my phone is close at hand. Not everybody is glued to their phone.
So can I ask you men something??? What does it mean and be honest I can take it…. when my man will respond to EVERY one else immediately or basically immediately but me has every excuse as to why he didn’t respond to me??? Relationship over yes I know I just want to make sure from men….
Generally whenever its convenient for me to respond.
Usually within a few hours unless I’m at work or sleeping.
Depends if I really like her I wait 7 minutes so she doesn’t know I threw my phone across the room out of excitement…..
When I can. Don’t overthink it.
Whenever I can give the message my full attention. I don’t wanna send something rushed and regret it later.
Depends on the time I am being messaged. If I’m at work and it isn’t an emergency l, it might be a bit. If I’m just chilling and doing nothing, then I respond fairly quickly.
Usually right away, unless she starts playing games and takes hours. Then I usually just stop talking to her completely because to me that’s a sign of disrespect.
Easiest and simplest rule with women: Match their effort. If she takes long, take long, if she answers quickly, you answer quickly(if you have time). I used to hate having to “play games” as it’s called, but It’s just understanding women’s psychology within dating. They are hard wired to want a man who’s not needy and willing to walk away due to self respect and having a purpose in life, and a dude who’s overly eager to text, call and meet 24/7 just sends women a message that they have nothing else going on for then in life and that she is put on a pedestal.
Being iger, and romantic and giving is something you can do when you actually have her full heart on lockdown, but that happens only after you also let her invest in the relationship from the start.
Imagine person A is handed a lamborghini for free.
Then imagine person B put in effort and time to earn the lambo. Which one of those two do you think would take more care of the car? Maintaining it, cleaning it, washing it? Yup…The one who invested in it.
When I can, if it warrants a long reply I might give a “swamped at work, get off at 4 will text you then ^^”. I don’t play games.
If I can, I will message back instantly.
We all have stuff going on, though. When I’m at work, I will not break my focus and flow on an important task to text back instantly, of course.
Not the texting game again. I text back when I have the time.
When you see the message? Why the fuck do people play these stupid games. If she gets disinterested from you responding when it’s convenient, you sure do not want to make her the one.
Play stupid games win stupid prizes.
As soon as I see the message.
That could be anywhere between immediately and a day or two from now.
2min Max
Don’t play games, waiting and timing, it will make your life so much easier. However, that extended conversation that goes on for days doesn’t really help either.
If you both like each other, the “when to text” doesn’t really matter.
Being honest about your intentions sure helps though. Throwing out a “I really like you, I’d like to get to know you better, would you oppose being invited to dinner this Friday? I’ve got this new place I want to try out!”. This might however result in a “I don’t like you in that kind of way” — which is good information, because then you can get it out of your head. Otherwise you’ll talk yourself into the friend zone most probably. Trust me, I’m an expert xD
I had a lot of female friends, just sayin’, one could think I was some kind of Casanova just based on the amount of girls I hung out with in my early 20’s. But I was literally giving them the friendship treatment, so it obviously put me in the friend zone.
Then I learned how to be more upfront with my intentions, and it solved so many issues. Had a good couple of friends with benefits trying to sort my mid 20’s and eventually I found my wife.
Sure, I might have gone from friend zone to hoe, but that needed some calibration. I didn’t really get much action leading up to my 20’s xD
My point with all of this; most of my issues with the “when to text” and “what do I say” usually fixed itself when I just got clearer with my intentions. The catch is that you need to deal with rejection, however getting comfortable with rejection is a god damn life skill you need to learn in combination with communicating your needs.
So, if she texts, just reply when you see it — don’t overthink it! We all know everyone is living with their phone in their hand anyway, you’re not fooling anyone. Learning to “close” however, using sales lingo, probably would help though.
My job revolves around me having a phone on me at all times almost like I have to be available very fast. So if someone texts me, it’s very typical for me to have texted back within 20 minutes the latest.
I always have sound on I will never ever mute my phone unless I’m in a meeting or at church, etc. so if a girl I went on a date with texted me, I would probably reply within 10 minutes
I seldom carry my phone (I lose it too easily).
Some messages straight away “do you want/ like etc”
Others ” what do you think about/ we etc” take time especially removing ambiguity in the reply.
She will know that I always answer… and its not just a throw away line.