Okay so for context, i work a front desk job. Upon checking the guests in (if they are male), I just ask for the general info. Randomly, and out of the blue they mention that they are with their wives or that they’re married. We get anniversaries and birthdays so that would be understandable stating that. But at least 7 or 8 times when they never had something like that going on they just say it when im just tryna do my job 😭😭😭. Do I have a jezebel spirit or something like im genuinely confused and want to know if I am just being delusional or odd! Is this normal or am i seeing things???
whenever i check a man in my job they always bring up their wives…
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are you by nature flirty or attractive by any chance?
Maybe they aren’t there with their wives and they think somehow you’d care enough to figure out who their wives are and then rat them out…
I mention my wife all the time. It has nothing to do with you, and there isn’t any real intent behind it. It’s small talk/filler to pass the time without an uncomfortable silence akin to mentioning the weather.
Lol dude, don’t sweat it. It’s just the ‘ol married man deflection in case they think you’re checking them out. No Jezebel spirit, you’re just a victim of preemptive defensiveness. Keep doing you, my dude. 💪😂🙌
Some dudes just like to bring up their wives every chance they get because they are a huge part of their lives. If I bring up my wife it’s typically because I am bragging or giddy or think it adds something to the story, not because I’m suspicous of women. But that’s just me.
It might not be about you.
It’s a safe small talk subject. Your reading far too much into it. Many feel the need to fill the silence with noise and small talk is used for that.
There’s worse things in life than putting out a jezebel vibe. I don’t wear a wedding ring, but I never even think to mention to random women I come across in my daily life that I’m married.
If it’s specifically “I’m with my wife” and there’s only one name on the reservation, it’s more likely that it’s their clueless way of saying they want to add her name to the reservation. You could always follow up and ask if they would like to add her. I know a lot of hotels will only deal with key issues with those whose names are on the folio.
I’m not a man, but my guess would be, they feel funny checking into a hotel. Like they might be thought of having an affair or something and then they say, my wife, and that will allay any of those suspicions.
Borat voice: My Wife
I do it as a way to make it clear I’m not flirting or looking for a phone number or whatever. That way we can both have a fun conversation knowing there’s no hidden motive.
Not jezebel spirit lol
Old ducks throw themselves at me regularly…I mention “partner” …they get it 🙂
Maybe they are paranoid you’re going to feel uncomfortable just by them talking to you so they are trying to show they aren’t trying to flirt for you to feel safe. A lot of men I know are totally paranoid they’ll be perceived as a forward asshole or something.
I get so sick of this. Happens all the time. It’s like they have to let you know they’re taken, because surely, since you’re talking with them, you must be interested. I wish I had the nerve to tell a guy to stop flattering himself, next time it happens.
I’m 60, been married over 30 years. I have earned the right to not talk about my wife. And nobody is ever gonna be hitting on me.
This is a younger man’s problem.
Maybe they don’t want you to think they are meeting a woman there to cheat.
Na, most dudes are wiped and are stuck in this mode of pleasing their wife, even when she’s not there. Peep game, most dudes are simps.
Eh. Voice of dissent here but I think you’re giving off something. Even the guys I know who love their spouses, my own included don’t bring it up constantly in fleeting interactions to the point it’s the vast majority of interactions. I’d ask your coworkers if they have a similar experience.