Hugging me from behind while I’m cooking his dinner. Picking me up a little snack or drink or just something to show he’s thinking of me. Giving me a quick compliment or acknowledgement of the effort I put into making his life as easy as possible
When he does something for no good reason – and it can be a tiny thing. Emptying the dishwasher, picking up a snickers bar for me because he knows I love them, pouring me a glass of wine at the end of a hectic day, an extra lingering kiss. He ALWAYS says I love you on the phone or when we leave each other for work, shopping, etc. I’m a super lucky woman, I know.
Hmm. There’s so many things to pick from. The way he holds me after sex, how he notices things I bypass something in the store that I want but don’t have the budget for, his patience with me, the way he rubs my shoulders and neck… the way he’s taken an effort to accommodate my tummy troubles… too many things to pick from but these are my favorites.
Mentioning me to their friends/family/co workers and casually telling me about it 😭 someone wanting everyone to know about you is the biggest green flag
When I am low or have run out of something that I use/eat frequently and she replaces it for me without asking. It isn’t that she bought me something, spent money on it, etc. it’s that she noticed it and took the time, energy and thoughtful concern to just go get it.
I have never, ever been big on anniversaries or Valentine’s Day. I’ve only been single on Valentine’s Day a couple times in my life, so it’s not because I felt bitter about it or anything, I just really never cared about that kind of stuff. But since being with my girlfriend (9 years), I’ve grown to look forward to Valentine’s Day, because she always makes me a sweet personalized card. It usually has an inside joke and/or my name on it, something specific to our lives. Idk, it just feels so much more special than if she went to the store and picked out some flowery card from the rack. She took the time to think about it and make it, and I love them every year.
Little gestures that show he cares about my wellbeing and happiness such as preparing me a healthy breakfast, placing my stuff near the door when he knows I have to leave early for work so that I don’t forget anything, helping me getting our baby boy ready for daycare.
Affective gestures such as hugging me from behind while in the kitchen or bathroom or putting his head on my shoulder while watching tv.
Talking about me to his friends and colleagues, texts to encourage or support me when I’m going through stuff, including me in video games with his friends, among a ton of other things. He really is the best.
When he gets me a croissant whenever he goes grocery shopping because he knows it makes me happy, or when he’ll get me ice cream randomly, or when he comes to me during the day just to hug me, when he strokes my face when I’m talking, sometimes I’m not even aware of it because he does it so casually and I get distracted for a minute and I’ll forget what I’m talking about lol. Or when he tucks my hair behind my ear randomly. Also when he treats me with love and patience and understanding when I’m going through PMS and I’m an emotional wreck lol
the quality time he gives for sure. i’ve never had someone be so on the same page as me when it comes to that. for someone to give you the one thing you truly can never give back is something so special to me
When he casually touches me in front of others. Not always possessively but leaning against me or his arm around my waist while he’s talking to someone.
When he actually listens to what i say and responds to it. Most of the time, I feel he’s not completely in the moment with me. It closes things up, so i hesitate to discuss even simple things because I think what’s the point.
If I’m focused on work at my laptop, he wraps a blanket around my shoulders and brings me a drink (iced coffee or hot chocolate, depending on the weather)
When we’re cuddling and he gently strokes my back. Bonus points if he slips his hand under my shirt to touch my skin.
She’ll just start massaging my arms while we’re sitting on the couch together. They’re often sore from working out a lot, and I don’t even realize until she finds all the good spots. She just wants to be touching me.
He starts my car for me on cold mornings so it’s warm when I get in. On Sunday’s he has coffee with friends and always brings me back a fancy latte to try. The way he gently takes my hands or my arm to pull me close for a cuddle, a hug, or a kiss.
Forehead kisses, grabbing anything I reach for no matter how close it is, making the bed with all my Squishmallows lined up to greet me whenever I come over
Hugging me or holding/kissing my hand randomly. Remembering little things and doing/making it for me. Asking me for my opinion when he needs to make a big decision or sort out a work problem. He’s really smart and independent so this makes me feel like he really values my opinions. I honestly just appreciate him being in my life and making me happy in general.
Compliments without always having a sexual agenda, acknowledging effort, a kiss and an “I love you” before going to sleep and/or leaving for work (or wherever), loooong hugs all the way wrapped around my waist when I’m having a tough day, holding my hand when we’re with friends/family
Him getting or being sleepy around me and when we cuddle. It’s literally proof of oxytoxin flowing around his body and his love to me.
And since I teased and told him about it, I think sometimes he also pretends or exaggerates being sleepy to make me happy and it’s somewhat become our way of saying/showing ILY in a way that’s feels a bit deeper to us.
whenever he picks up mexican food before coming over he always always buys me a jamaica cause he knows i love it and i never have to ask. just the little things that makes me know he was thinking of me
I used to complain to my ex that he had no wall clocks in his apartment, unlike mine, so I had to look ALLLLL the way down at my phone for the time! Obviously I was joking about the minor inconvenience, but a week later he bought a wall clock for his apartment 🥰
He also used to let me treat him like my pet, but I guess that was more of a me cherishing him thing.
I’m a light sleeper and he doesn’t realize it cause sometimes I just pretend I’m asleep, but he kisses my forehead when I’m “sleeping” and it’s comforting knowing he’s got my back even when I’m “knocked out”
When they remember the little things like how I take my coffee, or texting me just to say they’re thinking of me. Those quiet, everyday things mean the most.
The random head on shoulder gesture. Could be 1 second could be longer. It’s like when a cat cheek rubs you or they’re walking by with their tail that hooks on you.
Providing help with my job when he sees me struggling. I won’t even ask for help, but he will see me and offer some guidance and help me work through a problem.
Sometimes I’ll casually mention something I like, or something I want to do, and then randomly, weeks or even months later, my husband will surprise me with that thing.
He does it all the time, no special occasion required. It really makes me realize that he is always listening to what I’m saying/ talking about.
I try to do the same for him too, but he’s way better at it than I am.
When they remember and/or notice details about me, big or small, and say why they like them, I like knowing that I do cute random things and somebody adores them!
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Hugging me from behind while I’m cooking his dinner. Picking me up a little snack or drink or just something to show he’s thinking of me. Giving me a quick compliment or acknowledgement of the effort I put into making his life as easy as possible
Being curious about me/what I say, and remembering the little things
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He always has that particular smile with me, one that holds affection. Touching my leg, holding my hand.
When he does something for no good reason – and it can be a tiny thing. Emptying the dishwasher, picking up a snickers bar for me because he knows I love them, pouring me a glass of wine at the end of a hectic day, an extra lingering kiss. He ALWAYS says I love you on the phone or when we leave each other for work, shopping, etc. I’m a super lucky woman, I know.
Cuddling, holding me tightly, kissing my forehead ( naked of course :- )
The cute, spontaneous and random little things my husband does for me. He’s just the best. 💕
Hmm. There’s so many things to pick from. The way he holds me after sex, how he notices things I bypass something in the store that I want but don’t have the budget for, his patience with me, the way he rubs my shoulders and neck… the way he’s taken an effort to accommodate my tummy troubles… too many things to pick from but these are my favorites.
How caring and non judgemental he is and how he remembers so many details of our life together.
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Mentioning me to their friends/family/co workers and casually telling me about it 😭 someone wanting everyone to know about you is the biggest green flag
Him making me a nice lemon water when we wake up. It’s our daily ritual ☺️
When I am low or have run out of something that I use/eat frequently and she replaces it for me without asking. It isn’t that she bought me something, spent money on it, etc. it’s that she noticed it and took the time, energy and thoughtful concern to just go get it.
I have never, ever been big on anniversaries or Valentine’s Day. I’ve only been single on Valentine’s Day a couple times in my life, so it’s not because I felt bitter about it or anything, I just really never cared about that kind of stuff. But since being with my girlfriend (9 years), I’ve grown to look forward to Valentine’s Day, because she always makes me a sweet personalized card. It usually has an inside joke and/or my name on it, something specific to our lives. Idk, it just feels so much more special than if she went to the store and picked out some flowery card from the rack. She took the time to think about it and make it, and I love them every year.
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I keep wearing his pajama pants because they are soft, and he teases me about this. Today I came home to a new pair on my desk so now I have TWO!
when i met his parents for the first time they told me “all he ever talks about is you and this guy barely even talks” :p
Thinking / planning ahead for me
Little gestures that show he cares about my wellbeing and happiness such as preparing me a healthy breakfast, placing my stuff near the door when he knows I have to leave early for work so that I don’t forget anything, helping me getting our baby boy ready for daycare.
Affective gestures such as hugging me from behind while in the kitchen or bathroom or putting his head on my shoulder while watching tv.
He listens to me.
Cooks for me
Just generally attentive to my needs
Talking about me to his friends and colleagues, texts to encourage or support me when I’m going through stuff, including me in video games with his friends, among a ton of other things. He really is the best.
I’m feeling really jealous of some of you
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When he gets me a croissant whenever he goes grocery shopping because he knows it makes me happy, or when he’ll get me ice cream randomly, or when he comes to me during the day just to hug me, when he strokes my face when I’m talking, sometimes I’m not even aware of it because he does it so casually and I get distracted for a minute and I’ll forget what I’m talking about lol. Or when he tucks my hair behind my ear randomly. Also when he treats me with love and patience and understanding when I’m going through PMS and I’m an emotional wreck lol
the quality time he gives for sure. i’ve never had someone be so on the same page as me when it comes to that. for someone to give you the one thing you truly can never give back is something so special to me
He always kisses me goodnight, goodbye and hello when I get home from work.
When he casually touches me in front of others. Not always possessively but leaning against me or his arm around my waist while he’s talking to someone.
When he actually listens to what i say and responds to it. Most of the time, I feel he’s not completely in the moment with me. It closes things up, so i hesitate to discuss even simple things because I think what’s the point.
If I’m focused on work at my laptop, he wraps a blanket around my shoulders and brings me a drink (iced coffee or hot chocolate, depending on the weather)
When we’re cuddling and he gently strokes my back. Bonus points if he slips his hand under my shirt to touch my skin.
He likes coffee, I like energy drinks. He always has an energy drink in his fridge.
Random reassurance. When it comes out of nowhere is when it feels the most real
If they make an effort and want to cuddle outside of just sex.
Used to be- when I say I’m comfortable he will ask how can he make me even more comfortable 🥹🥰
She’ll just start massaging my arms while we’re sitting on the couch together. They’re often sore from working out a lot, and I don’t even realize until she finds all the good spots. She just wants to be touching me.
They pick up and fold my clothes that I leave laying around.
Open and close doors for me.
He starts my car for me on cold mornings so it’s warm when I get in. On Sunday’s he has coffee with friends and always brings me back a fancy latte to try. The way he gently takes my hands or my arm to pull me close for a cuddle, a hug, or a kiss.
Forehead kisses, grabbing anything I reach for no matter how close it is, making the bed with all my Squishmallows lined up to greet me whenever I come over
Hugging me or holding/kissing my hand randomly. Remembering little things and doing/making it for me. Asking me for my opinion when he needs to make a big decision or sort out a work problem. He’s really smart and independent so this makes me feel like he really values my opinions. I honestly just appreciate him being in my life and making me happy in general.
He gets up early to make me coffee every day.
The fact that he’s NEVER forgotten a good morning text, even after we started living together.
Stops in the bedroom to give me a hug and kiss before leaving for work in the morning.
Leaves notes occasionally.
Packs my lunch, even though he does NOT have to.
Hugs, going out of their way to be close to me/affectionate, cute little notes, cute texts while I’m out.
Compliments without always having a sexual agenda, acknowledging effort, a kiss and an “I love you” before going to sleep and/or leaving for work (or wherever), loooong hugs all the way wrapped around my waist when I’m having a tough day, holding my hand when we’re with friends/family
When I’m sleepy or drunk, and he thinks I don’t know, he strokes my hair SO GENTLY almost subconsciously
Talking about me, little kisses here and there, hugs, touches.
Him getting or being sleepy around me and when we cuddle. It’s literally proof of oxytoxin flowing around his body and his love to me.
And since I teased and told him about it, I think sometimes he also pretends or exaggerates being sleepy to make me happy and it’s somewhat become our way of saying/showing ILY in a way that’s feels a bit deeper to us.
whenever he picks up mexican food before coming over he always always buys me a jamaica cause he knows i love it and i never have to ask. just the little things that makes me know he was thinking of me
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When he asks for my advice and then actually follows it, that blew my mind at first.
I used to complain to my ex that he had no wall clocks in his apartment, unlike mine, so I had to look ALLLLL the way down at my phone for the time! Obviously I was joking about the minor inconvenience, but a week later he bought a wall clock for his apartment 🥰
He also used to let me treat him like my pet, but I guess that was more of a me cherishing him thing.
When I am going out, I kiss him bye. He always tells me to be careful.
I’m a light sleeper and he doesn’t realize it cause sometimes I just pretend I’m asleep, but he kisses my forehead when I’m “sleeping” and it’s comforting knowing he’s got my back even when I’m “knocked out”
There are more but those are the daily highlights 🥺
Smoking me out at any time, I don’t ask for much so his willingness to keeping me high when we hang out is so fun haha.
When they remember the little things like how I take my coffee, or texting me just to say they’re thinking of me. Those quiet, everyday things mean the most.
When we’re in bed he can be on his side, facing the other way, but he makes sure our feet or legs touch.
When she farts the other way.
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The random head on shoulder gesture. Could be 1 second could be longer. It’s like when a cat cheek rubs you or they’re walking by with their tail that hooks on you.
The butt rubs every Saturday morning
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Lingering glances my way 🙂 i love just feeling wanted
Providing help with my job when he sees me struggling. I won’t even ask for help, but he will see me and offer some guidance and help me work through a problem.
Being taken care of. When I don’t have to worry about anything and can turn my brain off.
Sometimes I’ll casually mention something I like, or something I want to do, and then randomly, weeks or even months later, my husband will surprise me with that thing.
He does it all the time, no special occasion required. It really makes me realize that he is always listening to what I’m saying/ talking about.
I try to do the same for him too, but he’s way better at it than I am.
When they remember and/or notice details about me, big or small, and say why they like them, I like knowing that I do cute random things and somebody adores them!