What’s yours story and what made you realize?
Guys talk about it but I always wondered from a woman’s perspective
Who is someone you regret losing/Not giving a chance?
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What’s yours story and what made you realize?
Guys talk about it but I always wondered from a woman’s perspective
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I don’t regret it, but I have been asked out a couple times on the road very respectfully where the guys accepted my no graciously, and then later I’ve wondered “what if…?” The reason I don’t regret it is because there’s far too many men I have given a chance to who’ve let me down later.
When I was just becoming an adult, I knew this person liked me and I liked them a lot back. I was very unsure of myself and I was scared of being toxic because of where I came from and I also had never met a guy (at the time) so nice I was nervous it was too good to be true. I was just very insecure and unsure of myself and stopped talking to them.
I reached out to them as an older adult after failed relationships where I wasn’t being honest with what I wanted, I really wanted to see if there was a shot things could work, if we found ourselves in similar places, and maybe they would still feel the same, very different scenarios, we tried things. I lost my cool and I lost them 🤷♀️
I wish I just told them I wanted to be with them when we were younger and didn’t hide my feelings thinking it was for the better.
I literally can’t do anything about it. And it really sucks when you feel like that’s the kind of person you really want.
But like my brother would lovingly tell me… “half of life is fucking up and the other half is dealing with it” 😎……🥹🕶️👌
Myself! I regret losing who I could have been in my teens and twenties when I was busy trying to please everyone else.
But I’m making up for lost time. <3
Are we talking relationship way? I can’t think of any man I regret losing/not giving a chance tbh. I do regret not staying in touch more with my girl friends from high school tho
There is a guy friend I miss from my past that I often wonder if we would have worked, so many things felt right except timing. I have thought about him throughout the years, I miss him often but it is what it is and we both changed into different people. I wished him well and hope he is living the life he wants.
Rushing for a sorority. I don’t know if necessarily would’ve stuck with it, but rushing looks fun and every girl I knew loved theirs
None
Nobody
I believe we are all phases in each other’s lives.
I regret ever dating my friend because he turned out to be the worst toxic relationship I ever been in. I miss him when I had him as a friend, I don’t have romantic feelings for him anymore, and I’m still trying to heal from all the damage he has done.
My best friend. Our parents were friends before we were born, we were best friends since kids. It was fairly evident he always had a crush on me. Good looking and very sweet too… after hs I was in abusive relationship for 3ish years. By the time I got out, he seems happy with a gf.
I regret not knowing my mother after becoming a mother myself. I wish I had the chance to say I understand and thank you so much. Also I was born early 70s under circumstances that would normally result in adoption. But that didn’t happen I think about it often and am so grateful- I wish I could let her know how much. When she died I was living interstate and I don’t think I gave her the attention she deserved during that time.
Cute guys who asked me out but I said no out of fear of not being enough for them, I missed out on a lot of experiences in my adolescence/young adulthood because of that
In my experience its very rare for a women to have a “one that got away” which i think is what youre asking. Most women have the opposite problem. Also men are not that special, if they “got away” it is for the best.
My friend of 16 years started pulling away from the friendship really hard and I figured I would stop putting more effort in than they were willing to give, so I stopped reaching out for about 8 months. When I finally decided to give up on my stubbornness and try to reconnect, I found out I was two months too late. They had committed suicide.
I don’t think I could have prevented their death, but I do wish I acknowledged that it was their own personal struggle, and didn’t spend that whole time believing they had lost interest in being friends.
I met this dude at 15, I think, let’s call him John. From 16-19 I was in a very abusive relationship, anyway my ex used to tell me that John was in love with me but that he was mean and a stupid rich boy. John was always very nice to me, he definitely liked me but I just ignored him because my ex told me to. When I broke up with my ex, John tried to win me but I immediately started a new relationship, John was always there for me, helped me with my business, was a good friend, took me out and I always knew he liked me but I was always focusing on a holes haha.
I even found him in unexpected places, for example, where from another country and I found him in Canada (what are the chances), we had a lot of encounters like that, now that I look back I know it was destiny screaming at me lol.
Fast forward we’re 25, he moved to Canada for good with his gf, he took me out to say goodbye to me, he didn’t do anything romantic (neither I did) but it was definitely something, I was the only one who he said goodbye alone. Now that I’m more mature (27yo) and know what I want I realized how he really liked me and in such a good way, he was very nice, supportive and never expected for me to do something with him. Now he’s thriving, has money, is very handsome and he’s still very nice and a good person, we still are friends I have NEVER tried anything and more since he has a gf, but I do regret all the times life put him in front of me and never did anything. He would’ve been a great partner instead of all the a holes I dated. But I actually like that we can be friends, I’m very happy for him and I really hope he stays in Canada if it’s for his happiness. I think deep down I always liked him, but I was so immersed in toxic circles I didn’t realize until he left (lame I know), I regret it but I think I would have made him miserable if I had dated him.
God no.
I always had a “will they won’t they” thing with a guy I grew up with. We were childhood friends and played as children, lost touch for a little bit, then rekindled in high school when we had similar classes and interests. He was a quiet guy but I liked him. He’d come to my house to do activites and we’d hang out. His family member even married into another family that we were separately friends with so it was like we were meant to be. We kept in touch throughout the years and I always thought he was the guy I’d end up with because I used to believe in fate like that.
Fast forward like 10 years and he suddenly reappears after he ignored my messages the year before (I honestly thought he died). He begins to trauma dump on me about somebody overseas he was “dating” for years but they had never even FaceTimed…. And about how he had tried to basically steal his roommates gf but he was the victim because she told him to stop messaging her. And then I realized the only reason he was messaging me (while I was taken) was because he was using me to get over this online chick + the roommates gf!
Basically turns out the guy is crazy. Like hinting he’s gonna commit suicide if I don’t respond to him, clearly trying to use me, trying to go out with me while I was in a relationship, wouldn’t take no for an answer and then wouldn’t quit blowing my phone up….
Anyway all this just to say that the one you “wish you had given a chance” could very easily turn into “thank god I never gave them a chance”
Losing the life i had and the potential it had before I got married. I could have done so much more for myself
I have someone I think about too often…