Why am I fantasizing about my boyfriend with other woman? We have talked about an open relationship before, and I know myself – I am not okay with him being with other woman right now. Maybe down the line, but not right now. But, the idea of him wanting other woman turns me on so much… but would make me sick if it happened irl. Like the idea of him getting turned on and getting off to another woman makes me horny lol and during sex I imagine i’m another woman that he’s fucking and it gets me off. Why is this?
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My first guess would be too much porn. If that isn’t the issue, you may actually want it, but feel morally in the wrong about it. You can either bury that desire or act upon it.
I’m exactly the same! It’s a really sexy fantasy, but I would hate it irl. I told my husband that I fantasize about sharing him and it turned him on so much. We both agreed that it’s just a naughty little fantasy tho, so nothing will come of it
sometimes fantasies are exciting. the adrenaline and especially the fact that you like giving him or seeing him receive pleasure. even if you know you cannot handle seeing him with another woman, that part of you that likes seeing him pleased wants to see it from a 3rd POV.
here are some recommendations:
wishing you the best with navigating this and do not ever feel ashamed of finding ways to deal with fantasies in a way that still makes you comfortable and happy ❤️
Fantasies are exciting! Lean into it and understand that fantasies can stay as fantasies and in no way need to be acted out if you don’t want them to be.
It’s a fetish that’s been gaining popularity lately, called cuckold or cuckquean
Sounds like you need a threesome
Maybe it seems you aren’t attracted to yourself and it’s harder to think about him with someone else because you can’t feel his attraction for you from his perspective.
Letting him be with someone else begs the question will they want me after, or will it always be different?
Something you could try is a threesome or possibly a partner swap. That way both people are feeling that vulnerability together, but when it’s done you can come back to the relationship together and close the doors on the possibility of having those relationships until you are ready to open it together.
But fantasizing about him getting off also sounds like a pleasure kink to me. You like to see your partner get off. You could also be someone that likes to watch.
Sexuality has infinite possibilities. But so do relationships.
Fantasies are fantasies. That’s where you can play out all sorts of things that defy logic, laws, and physics without real world consequences.
Don’t overthink it.
Maybe just a harmless fantasy. You don’t have to act it out.
very common
Everyone has sexual fantasies. Sexual fantasies have no bearing on sexual reality. There’s a difference between fantasizing and actually wanting to do something.
Same as porn. 99% of people do not want to have sex with family members despite what porn would have you think.
It’s a harmless fantasy of mine too however I could never let it enter the bedroom…..I would hate actually seeing him with another woman, there would be blood spilled lol