I’ve been a divorced guy since 2019, and every now and then i like exposing myself to new people. Be it travelling, going out, sports or other activities.
I’m a single straight and I don’t mind connecting with opposite gender. It usually happens with varying rate of success, and takes lots of effort. However, I noticed that gay guys like me for some reason, and hit on me on regular basis. Every 1-2 months I get approached by a dude. I’m as much confused as I’m flattered.
I’m neither handsome nor ugly. Relatively smart and easygoing. Muscular build with a bit of bear padding. Women pretty much never compliment on my looks despite classic ‘you got a beautiful eyes/you are cute’ kind of stuff. Speaking of guys, the way they talk, sometimes I wish I was gay.
Why do gay guys approach me? Anyone with similar experience?
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because women don’t usually hit on men. they don’t have to, there just have to show up and 100 people will hit on them
i also get some gay guys, honestly i’m flattered.
Take it as a compliment. It means that you must be somewhat attractive but women still won’t step over their pride to talk to you first while gay guys don’t mind.
Cause guys are more direct.
Well same here bro 😂
I mean, you could be a closeted pansexual. It’s worth considering.
I’ve had far more approaches and interest from gay guys than women. Granted how I dress may influence that but generally speaking, men are more likely to be forward enough to make their interested known. Women often wait for the man to initiate things (not all though).
Did you mean to say hit….. Or hit on? Because one of those things is assualt
gay dudes are still dudes, they’re socialized to be more direct than women, that’s all there really is to it, blame the patriarchy and take the compliment
It’s a sign/j
I seem to be the odd one out when it comes to women in the fact that I will hit on men and ask them out. Most women aren’t gonna go to you, trust me, I know.
You shouldn’t accept anyone hitting you, not just the gays.
Because gay men are way more physically attracted to men than the average straight woman. They will hit on you more often, more direct and in a more flattering way.
It is what it is. Appreciate it, let it give you a small confidence boost, politely reject them and keep going. Unless you’re bi-curious. Then have at it.
Gay men don’t have hugely inflated egos, and are not cowards scared of rejection unlike some “people”.
that’s a good sign dude. gay guys have good taste. the women will come just work on yourself and be a genuinely nice human being, not someone pretending to be nice for sex
Without at least seeing you, or even better talking to you, nobody is really going to be able to say. Anonymous text is just about the worst method of communication for this available.
Some guys are socialised to initiate that follows through across sexuality. Also just between you and me most mlm guys have lower standards than the average woman. If you’re a 5 in the straight sense you are probably a 7 in the gay sense. Also you could be sending signals.
You probably aren’t picking up on the signals from women. Have to look for the subtle glances and behavioral cues.
If you’re medium ugly, it makes you more approachable. If you’re attractive enough to pull gay dudes, you might be intimidating to many women.
Tldr: you need to shoot your shot more
They are aggressive literally no shame . You can tell immediately if someone is cool with it or not , being pushy and shit is not going to help tf .
I asked a worked where something was in the store they brought me there I said I even though I said I can take it from there , showed me the thing I said k cool that’s all I need , stays and keeps talking , giving there opinion and shit , then I was like alright I got this thanks for helping , dawg literally ask me if I was to go for a picnic , like my guy read the room still stays longer I just want as a charging cable that’s it
You mentioned muscular build with bear padding. That’s usually enough for us gays
Muscular build with bear padding? Do you have a beard? Gay guys might just think you are a “bear”.
Also getting called cute and nice eyes by a woman is like the most you’ll get unless you are a model.
Because gay men are just as horny as straight men, and their standards are equally as “flexible”
Тому що ти виглядаєш мужньо, а геї люблять мужніх чоловіків. Ще мені здається, що геї здатні більше цінувати естетику чоловічого тіла ніж жінки. (I’m gay)
Because you are attractive, and women do not hit on.
I know guys in here are giving reasonings like women don’t effort, prides, over-inflated ego and among other bullshits, but I think… us men should consider the possibility that sometimes women don’t approach us because they can easily get labeled as easy to get, trying hard, or they’re “a certain woman”. There are still men out there who thinks that it isn’t “womanly” to make the first move. Seriously, a woman will sit their waiting for a guy and she gets hated for it or approaches the guy first and still be shamed later.
Also, gays have always been like that. They are more outspoken about what they like and not giving a shit if they don’t fit society’s moral and societal expectations.
Dude, i would have thought you were me, except that I got divorced in 2018.
But yes, muscular “bear” build, with chesthair poking out of my shirt collar. Permanent 5 o’clock shadow, and grew a mustache last year because they’re finally back in style and it fits my face well. I got a forearm sleeve tattoo six months ago (something I always wanted, rationalized against, then had a “fuck it, yolo” moment).
Women occasionally give me the sultry eye-lash bat, but gay dudes march right up and say “heyyyyyy!”
Not gonna happen, but I can’t blame anyone for shooting their shot.
Well, you say you like exposing yourself to new people, then act all surprised when you get hit on? 🤣