Maybe this is just the corner of the internet I’m on, but everyone seems to be strongly against women proposing to men.
If I ever see a cute romantic video of a woman proposing all the comments are hateful, saying it’s wrong. I often see people saying that it means the woman loves the man too much (and that’s a bad thing??)
What confuses me even more is that the majority of the hate comments are from other women.
I don’t get why the tradition of men proposing seems to be the only thing that people are against changing. I see no issue with women proposing, and it just shows that we’ve achieved equality. How’s that a bad thing?
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I honestly wonder the exact same thing. If you love someone why not propose to them regardless of what your chromosomes are?
They not progressive
> “What confuses me even more is that the majority of the hate comments are from other women.”
Honestly, I keep thinking about that. It’s so bizarre. Seems people are struggling with some deeply ingrained notions. We all need to examine our own biases, I guess. It’s strange, but true
This double standard’s got to stop. Women shouldn’t have to tiptoe around how they express their love because society says so, if a dude pops the question, it’s romantic and bold… but if a chick does it? She’s too aggressive, too demanding. It’s 2025 already, when are we gonna get over this BS? We need more of these conversations, y’know? More people speaking up against outdated gender norms. So let’s keep this train rolling in the comments below, share your thoughts! > “Why are so many people against women proposing?” Exactly this! It’s mind-boggling to me how many folks still cling to these archaic beliefs
There is nothing wrong with a women proposing but I want a big diamond 🙂 💍
From what I’ve seen, women are angrier about it than men. They think men don’t deserve being proposed to because making the man feel valued for even a second is bad.
Of course these women are likely very bitter based on their own experiences.
I actually asked this from a few male friends of mines, causes I was curious about it since they had mix feelings on it. From what I was told, when it comes to things like marriage, especially wedding. the bride is the face of it more than the groom, not to say the groom does not get the attention as well (i think both parties deserve it). but it’s no secret, that we’ve grown up with society making it known that bride is going to be the ‘face’ of the wedding. so because of it, many guys feel like they only have the proposing as their little moment.
Is it stupid? Yeah, but we haven’t really changed society view on wedding when it comes to the bride being the main focus for weddings, at least in the level that you know she’s ‘bigger’ deal than the groom. heck, I’ll admit that anytime I think of weddings, I think of a bride first before groom. but that simply cause that was what I was taught for years as a child duo to being exposed so much to it from tv shows, movies, games, etc.
It does suck that because of it, its seen not good for a woman to try proposing since she’ll be the face of the wedding anyways. When the wedding should focus on both parties rather than one over the other.
Personally, If I wanted to get married, I would do the proposing. If not, you’re not the one.
Guy here no problem with. I thought women were just shy or felt out of place doing it.
It’s not wrong, but I do see it as being very naive. While I am happily married myself, I also understand that the 4b movement is growing for a reason. Misogyny saturates culture and legislation, making the risk disproportionately high when trying to build a stable life with a man. I can’t see that any woman who would do the proposing herself as being one who’s aware enough of the imbalances and dangers to make an informed decision on marriage. It has nothing to do with tradition and everything to do with current gender inequalities.
I think (in general) women are more romantic/lovey-dovey/eager to commit than men. So in my opinion, I think women often refuse to even entertain the thought of proposing bc the man (the one often not being the more emotional of the two in the relationship) should feel he is at that stage and that she is “The One”.
Also side note note: Can we stop using “equality for men and women” to be assigned to such minuscule activities. Like, people who fight for equality are not fighting for women to be able to propose. Can we be serious.
I don’t know and I find it insane. I don’t know if I was living in a bubble before or if I stepped into a kind of rabbit hole on the matter but I didn’t see as much backlash against it a few years ago.