I’m only 17, never had a first kiss, never had a boyfriend (at least not a proper one)
I’m hesitant to put myself out there, from the few times I’ve actually tried all they’ve actually wanted from me is sex or something sexual like nudes
They call me “boring” then I say no to them, it seems all they want is my body and not me. Even when they seem really sweet, it doesn’t take long to find out their true intentions
I’m jealous of people my age in happy relationships because where are they finding the good guys out there? Like am I just a magnet for the bad ones??
It took me a while to figure out they were the problem and not me, it upsets me though. I want someone who wants me for me, not my body
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alls im saying theres a reason why horny teenage boy is a stereotype
Many 17 year old boys see sex as "getting some", as in, they are only concerned about having sex so they can feel the pleasure, say they have done it, and tell their friends. They don’t know what they are doing in pleasing a woman, and many don’t even know that’s part of it. Also, many don’t know how to relate to girls/women, so having a "girlfriend" is a foreign thing to them in terms of how to act when with them.
Those I’m happy relationships just made it through the BS, being a teenage boy is a mine field of hormones insecurity and societal peer pressure for not being "a virgin" it makes people desperate. That being said it doesn’t make them bad people or users as they might have genuine interest in you but not want to lose faith with the boys ect.
Try explaining you want to move slow and if they are decent you’ll be okay, if you need to be boring to maintain self respect do it – you have to live with your choices not them but honestly men never change we are always horny af and wanting to fuck YOU need to be the one that stands out and someone will notice and you’ll have your prince charming, patience is key.
TL;DR men are horny bastards don’t feel pressured and have regrets your person is out there
It’s them, not you.
Young men have always had strong urges. A few generations ago, boys and girls played outside together, and learned how to talk to each other.
In current society the easy access to hardcore porn has caused a lot of guys to view real women as objects with just a single purpose. Many of them don’t know how to have a real conversation with a woman because they don’t have any practice at it.
There are good guys out there, you just have to keep looking.
35f here
Well fortunately youre 17 on your way to 18. Don’t mind teenager boys behavior, honestly they never grow out of it in my experience. My husband is my oldest child😂 but he amazing. He has the energy of an 18yr boy(he’s 38)
Alot of men I’ve encountered are pretty much horn dogs, it’s just finding someone that meets you at you’re level. I’m trying to keep up with my husband unfortunately my 30s taken a toll on my libido.
Do not be discouraged. There are so many different people in the world, you will find the one for you when you least expect it.
Sending you the good vibes✌️🤙🫶
One thing you’ll learn as you get older is men (and teenage boys) want sex. A lot of them will only want sex from you but even the ones that genuinely like you will want sex too. if you’re not interested in having sex then you’ll have to find a guy that doesn’t mind waiting. Unfortunately at your age there’s a lot of pressure to have sex/lose your virginity so for most guys, that’s their priority.
Theres an old saying "there’s only enough blood in a guys body for one head at a time"
I am an old guy and if you were my granddaughter (I have one that is 13) I would tell you this- hold out for a good guy. You keep waiting until you are absolutely ready for sex, and then wait a little longer to be sure.
I can’t describe it, I don’t think anyone can, but after you have sex your life is changed forever. Not necessarily bad, but not always good. This is why older people tell you to wait, it isn’t because they don’t want you to have fun.
Try to not be impatient. Those happy couples you are talking about may not really be that happy but they aren’t going to let you know that.
Be yourself, and wait for a guy who loves who yourself really is.
It’s not just teenage boys. It’s called sex hormones and being horny. I was a very horny teenage girl. It isnt limited to just boys.
This is a known feature of pubescent males. Historically the solution is A: marry them off as soon as possible with the girls father ruling over him with an iron fist. Or B: send them off to war and don’t think about them for 6 years.
My question is why any 17 year old feels pressured to be in a relationship at all; yall can barely handle yourselves as it is, AND you’re waiting on another teenager to be responsible? Not the time for it, hang in there and focus on building up your own skills and wisdom. If you meet someone nice, cool, hook up with them. But never feel pressured to make a hormonal asshole "like" you; they won’t even "like" themselves for another 8 years
Think about it—they’re turtles who fight crime and eat pizza. Their father figure, Splinter, is a rat who was raised by a ninja, who was later murdered by Shredder. They live in New York, and let’s be honest, all New Yorkers love
Being a good guy and wanting sex are not mutually exclusive traits.
Listen, boys (and men) are always going to want you. They will see you as a sex object and you will feel their desire for you as a palpable thing.
But what’s missing here is that’s not the ONLY way they feel. The good ones are going to lust after you AND want your friendship and to treat you well and make you laugh and have fun and genuinely make your life better.
So just expect that drive from the guys you’re with. That doesn’t mean you should do anything about it although I think as you mature you’ll find ways for that initial sexual attraction to be a fun aspect of your first few dates.
All that said if you’re with a boy and sex seems like the ONLY thing they want from you, or if they ever ask you to send nude pictures (huge red flag) then kick them to the gutter. Likewise any guy who tries to manipulate you or badger you into having sex with him and can’t take no for an answer. (Although if you like him you might want to change "no" to "not yet, but how about this…" – there are as many girls who string boys along with sex as there are boys who use girls just for sex. I remember early on my first real girlfriend said "not yet, but we can make out". Which we did. For hours. It was amazing. I still yearn for it 35 years later.)
As for the rest? Enjoy the attention and sexual tension and look for the guy beneath the libido. If you don’t like what’s there get rid of him. If there is something there you like then hang on and let things take their course. With the right person it’s a wonderful ride.
They aren’t the problem. There is no problem at all.
Guys that age don’t want a romantic relationship anymore than you want a sexual one.
One can ask, "why are teenage girls like this?" When wondering why they can’t get laid and every girl one meets thinks that their relationship will be a happy long term relationship.
Testosterone is on full blast when you’re a teenager. That hormone is the one that makes men want sex. So it’s all they can think about. But they do still actually want girlfriends. That’s how high school sweethearts happen. But they just want sex a lot as well.
>it doesn’t take long to find out their true intentions
you’re gonna find out real quick that men want sex, its literally biologically coded into us (though thats not untrue for women). Thats not to say that we cant and dont mature to want more than that, but the wanting sex part never really goes away. At 17 though, we’re not really thinking romantically, we’re being heavily driven by hormones and raging boners.
its probably one of the reasons younger women tend to date men older than their own age group.
I do think its also something of a societal thing too. boys are not sold "romance" like girls are. I didnt like romance in media until I was a bit older and thats cuz I learned that the a lot of western culture really doesnt make romance for boys/men, most of the west just makes porn and other lewd content for men that is void of emotional/romantic themes, we’re never taught what romance can look or feel like for us until we try to experience it for our self in real life.
compare this to girls who grow up watching and reading romance stories and get to have this fantasy experience of what being romanced or being in a romantic relationship looks like, how ever false it maybe, you at least have that experience of knowing to want it. boys are never sold this experience to even know if they want it or not.
That’s why my girlfriend call me ATM machine. Because I don’t have a personality to impress her.
I wasted my youth being a prude and waiting for the someone. Guess what the someone never came. No one is expecting you to get married at 17. It is stupid to do so. It’s also stupid to assume that the person you want to marry will be sexually compatible with you. You don’t want to wake up in your 30s and realize the person you love is not the one for you. You can only find what you want by finding out what you don’t want. You are at least smart enough that you don’t want someone who only thinks of sex. Find someone who is also thinking about their future. You may be the one needs to chase down a guy.
The “good guys” also want sex its just not the only thing they want
Those happy couples in relationships are having sex with very few exceptions
Idk, sex is so over rated anyway, i don’t know why so.many boys are obsessed with it.
Don’t send nudes to anyone. That could turn into legal trouble for you. Also, once they’re sent, the receiver can share them wherever they want.
Girls can be like this too. Less vocal cause societal shame. Boys often got no shame about their raging hormones. Young girls do. In college girls lose the shame and act just as ridiculous as the boys. Felt so weird wanting a relationship in college. Girls were always like ur weird bro can’t we just fwb why all the emotions
Have you thought about what you offer that is non-sexual? Are you a good conversationalist, play a musical instrument , play a sport, enjoy outdoor activities, hiking, biking, sailing, horse riding?
Find ways of meeting boys where you have a mutual interest, you might be surprised.
Okay so here’s my thoughts on the matter
Being a good guy and wanting to have sex aren’t correlated. Its a part of every relationship
You are the one who gets to decide if YOU are ready for it or not, if you’re not, a good guy will respect your decision and wait till you are ready
Hope you find someone who is good to you!
Edit: Never ever send nudes to anyone, no matter how much you trust them and even if they are a genuinely good person, it can get out even if the other person doesn’t share them. Just don’t.
Teenagers are cunts full of hormones, sounds like you just ran into some of the larger cunts
Here’s the thing: about 99% of the guys you know right now likely watch porn A LOT. Porn is not indicative of real life. Real life sex shouldn’t look, sound, or seem like porn. Any guy that wants you to flash your tits at him? Has only ever watched porn, and expects girls to act like they do in porn. That’s not normal, that’s not mentally healthy for young men, nor is it normal or mentally healthy for young women to cater to those unrealistic desires and expectations.
Trust me: there are way, way more important things to worry about in your life right now than a guy. Worry about school, worry about learning everything you can for what life is going to throw at you. Learn how to be dependant and not NEED a man. Learn how to change your oil, your tire. Learn how to do your taxes, figure out what you want to do with your life as an adult.
Then worry about guys. And worry about guys that are interested in your interests, not your measurements. Who want to have conversations, not sexting with your nudes. Worry about guys you can have nice, long, comfortable silences with, not non-stop sex with. Worry about guys that can exist without their cellphones.
Guys that can exist without porn.
Teenage boys are emotionally immature. Check back in a decade or so. Just how the teenage boy brain drowning in hormones acts
Not a lot of teenagers have the emotional maturity to form deep, romantic connections. That’s something that comes with age. Even the “good ones” are still developing. Yes they have the capacity to become close and to treat you with respect and empathy. They might genuinely care for you and treat you well. But teens are incredibly prone to making mistakes. Most haven’t developed the communication skills to pick up on indirect or subtle signals. They might be incapable of understanding that what you want and what they want are different things. Their priorities are heavily influenced by peers and pop culture.
That’s why high school sweethearts that stay together long enough to raise a family are rare. You guys are at an age where you’re still experimenting. Sometimes that experimenting hurts.
If you’re a prude expect to be called a prude. Not a bad thing.
If you want a romantic relationship without the physical aspect expect difficulty finding someone who also wants that.
When I was a teenage boy I think I was 99.95% hormones. I am honestly so glad now that I’m older I can actually keep my head screwed on.
Think of them as horny puppies. Find a nice enough one and bop him on the nose with a newspaper if he gets all excited and pees on the carpet. Just set boundaries and do not be afraid to back them up. Be firm. If he turns out to be an idiot, drop him and on to the next one.
It’s all just life experience at this point. You’re not getting married and it should get easier with age. Have fun.
Hormones and living in an over sexualized society filled with thirst traps and porn. Stay single. Focus on yourself. Boys will be nothing but trouble and drama.
This account is suspicious. The post before this one they claim they are 19 and in college and talking to a 20 year old. This post they are claiming they are 17.. ?
You’re too young to need to worry about putting yourself out there. If dating comes, it comes. But you don’t need to make it happen right now.
As i was more than once told most men ar shit and not "real" whatever that means 🤷
They’re still like that in their 30s, too 💀
There are a few things that I have learned in my life…
a) The qualities I (and probably a lot of boys) are looking for in a girl for a night and a girl for life are vastly different. And to some degree conflicting.
b) Priorities change. As a 16 YO guy, I was constantly horny. Took me a while to think with the big head again.
c) a lot of happy relationships… aren’t. Especially in this age group. Boys do everything to get sex. Girls do everything to have a relationship.
So no, you aren’t a magnet for bad ones. You can either roll along with what everyone else is doing, if you want the experience. Or if you don’t, then just wait it out, at some point, boys will figure out their hormones as well.
fr maybe you just lonely and want romance, but really need friend or friends the deep ones. it’s totally to find guys of your age stupid they are, as a ex teenager the desire for cheap intimacy it’s just hard coded on us
News flash: this is what teenage boys want. Your friends who have boyfriends are giving them sex. If they stopped providing the sex, the boyfriends would brake up with them.
Boys have the reverse problem: from their point of view, all girls want is to talk about feelings and hold hands, but they are too guarded around sex.
If you want a boyfriend who is mature and after something more than sexual discovery, wait until you’re at least in your 20s. You’re expecting too much of these teenage boys.
To quote a guy friend of mine: "Teenage boys are literally the stupidest creatures on the planet. They should all be floated to an island at 13 and not brought back until they’re 30."
The easy access to porn has warped the minds of young men. My generation barely escaped it. They are finding porn younger and younger. They are increasingly looking up more and more extreme porn younger and younger. It has completely skewed their views on women and sex.
I like that u keep saying no , and ur still young give it time and you’ll find what you’re looking eventually. Don’t stress
No need to rush into anything, you’re so young. You don’t realize it right now, but you have a TON of time for all of this.
I remember stressing way too much about all of in in high school. But looking back, it was really a waste of time
As a man that’s way older I would say this is just the age where that type of thing will be the worst. if I was a woman, now I’m not a woman so take this with a grain of salt. but if I was a woman I would more try to focus on my career and things that will help myself and my inner self right now at this point in life. when I get that good and situated and feel like I have found myself then I will be more open to trying to find somebody to go out with. I just think that young age and focusing on boyfriend or girlfriend is just not something I would focus on, which is hard at that age
I will say, a lot of people are looking for sex out of a relationship. If you’re not ready for that, it’s fine and you shouldn’t have it, but it might be hard to find someone who’s content to just kiss and cuddle and be romantic without the sexual aspects. So it might just mean being single for a while if sex isn’t for you right now.
That said, it’s definitely not okay for people to pressure you when you say no. It’s fine if they choose to walk away and find someone who shares the same interests or is looking for the same thing, but calling you boring or insulting you because you have reasonable and normal boundaries isn’t okay.
It’s also not okay for them to objectify you or treat you like a sex object. Someone wanting a relationship that involves sex is fine and normal. Immediately demanding nudes and calling you boring when you say no, that’s just being shitty and objectifying you. No great answer for that since I can’t control how people behave. All you can do is avoid those people who act like that and hopefully you will find the person who’s right for you. I’m sorry you’ve been dealing with this though even if that doesn’t fix it, it does really suck to be objectified like that.
I would also add, a lot of the men on reddit act exactly like the guys you describe and many of them aren’t even men they are teenage boys too. So they will get defensive and try to justify that behavior, but it’s not okay. You might have more luck posting about this in a sub that’s for women, if you don’t have to deal with more people giving you the same shitty treatment.
All the advice here is complete garbage. You should post this in a female sub for actual advice cause there’s so many men here making excuses. These teen boys just see you as a sex object. I’m not a teen anymore, but I was 5 years ago and almost everyone was just saying anything they can to have sex. It is not acceptable, and you don’t have to accept it to find a good guy, like the idiots in the comments are saying. These people are lying to you that you need to give in to them treating you like a sex object to find a partner, but that’s not true. Be very upfront that you want to take things slowly and be ready to reject guys that don’t respect that. Most guys won’t give a shit about you, they’ll just say whatever they can to get what they want.
NO YOU ARE PERFECT (im 18 and the same mentality) stay like that
You are your body just as much as the idea you have of yourself; if at the core of relationships is the transaction of values, then what’s going on here actually is that they are not offering you the value you want and are being very up front about the value they want
You’re talking to the wrong boys
Don’t judge yourself against others. You have no idea what happens when you can’t see them. Most people act differently in public. Most of us don’t want you to think there’s something wrong.
NEVER let someone make you do something you’re not completely comfortable with.
If they have to “talk you into it” DON’T!
Don’t let anyone use the “if you really cared about me you’d do it” or “oral sex isn’t really sex” argument.
You’re 17 years old and have plenty of time for serious relationships.
Don’t settle just because you feel lonely or out of place because you’re the only single person in your friend group.
There’s absolutely nothing wrong with being single and having standards.
This advice is coming from a 55 year old husband and dad. We’ve been married 30 years and I have two incredible kids 27 year old boy (firefighter) and a 25 year old daughter (social worker).
People deserve to be happy in relationships.
We all have faults and little quirks that might bother others. Nobody’s perfect. But you have to find someone that will respect you, your heart and your body.
Don’t worry, he’s out there.
Hope this helps young lady.
One of the reasons I fell in love with my partner when we were both still teenagers was that he treated me like a person. He showed interest in me without turning it into something sexual. Not once did he pressure me, he even asked me if I felt ready and comfortable.
All the other boys who showed interest seemed so desperate to have sex and tried to manipulate their way into my bedroom. Love bombing, guilt tripping, etc. It was absolutely disgusting and I won’t take "well, they’re teenagers boys duh" as an excuse.
There’s no rush to lose your virginity to someone you’re not feeling comfortable with. It’s worth it to wait for someone who’s a decent human being and respects your boundaries.
Imagine you are starving, I don’t mean haven’t eaten breakfast or lunch starving, but haven’t eaten in at least a whole day maybe several hungry. Like it’s more than a desire, it’s a survival instinct. It occupies your every waking thought.
Now imagine half the population is walking around, wearing food on their bodies. Maybe that meat dress lady gaga wore, or those fruit hats people used to wear, or they are literally covered in cake.
That’s what my experience was as a teen boy. 80% of the time sex was my reason for living, and for getting out of bed in the morning.
Now admittedly my sex drive was way stronger than most guys even of that age, but even though I know women can get really horny too, I really don’t think most women can understand how powerful that drive is at that point of our lives.
Like there is a reason why guys think sending dick pics will actually work. At that period of my life, if a girl, even one that I thought of as unattractive (admittedly, only up to a point) sent me a picture of her genitals, I would be so aroused by her, I would likely confuse lust with love and want to initiate a relationship with her.
You’re doing good work by telling these boys "no." I’m not gonna preach about chastity and modesty as virtues, but from an emotional standpoint, it’s good that you establish boundaries and stay fixed to your morals. You may get called boring, prude, party pooper or whatever, but think of it as a filter. You’re following out dudes who prove they will not respect your boundaries in the future. At 17, they might want nudes. At 18, they might want sex, then anal, then threesomes, then outright cheating, on and on.
A healthy relationship is built on mutual respect, trust, understanding and love. You can’t have any of those things if you’re feeling pressured and uncomfortable.
Tldr: these dudes ain’t shit. You’ll find someone better.
Edit: this account seems to be fake. This user can’t decide if they’re 17, 19, or closer to 30. Karma Farmer. Leaving this up for anyone who could really use the advice tho.
Boys only think with the thing between their legs (and most men too). Also the grass is green effect. They might be having sex and why they are so happy but who knows stop comparing yourself its a thief of joy.
You’re meeting them on dating apps, right?
I didn’t have sex until I was 18. But that was mainly because I had an ED at 15/16 and still recovering mentally at 17. Wouldn’t have want anybody to see me naked because I still didn’t think so was skinny enough. So I wouldn’t def not been jumping inte bed then. If things were different maybe. We will never know.
not every relationship has a good guy with it.
so what you are saying is not really true a lot of girls love those bad boyz
All humans are trying to feel this lost void in themselves and a lot of it is sex, or drugs, etc. as you get older and realize we are all preprogrammed in this "matrix" you can say… Keep this mindset..respect yourself enough to love yourself beyond that fear. Believe me all me and woman are the same… Cheaters, liars, psycho, whatever deep fears they hide… It’s there. Some confront it and work on it or dive deeper into this illusion and lie to themselves.
Just because they want sex does not mean it is "all they want" or that it was their "true intention".
I’m a married man. I constantly want to have sex with my wife. That does not mean sex is the only thing I want.
You’re attributing them bad intentions because you yourself are hesitant and even afraid of sex.
The honest truth is teenagers and men, we want sex. It’s not a bad thing but if your not ready, then avoid relationships for now. Because the honest truth is, regardless what they tell you, they do want to have sex with you.
For women sex means something else, but for us men, it is how we feel connected and loved by our partners, that said, at their age, they purely just want sex, nothing more. It’s exciting, it’s new.
Until you accept that and are ready for that yourself, just avoid relationships till your in your early 20’s. 17 sounds so old and mature, honestly your still a kid. Relax, enjoy being a young adult.
Because that is how a species survive. Boys learn to filter it, but it takes time.
I am 39. I often get impulses when I first meet someone, where my body tells my brain that I want to fuck her… it goes away fast these days.
When it sticks around, it is something more that I might act on.
Hey friend.
First I want to validate your feelings. Being a teenager is rough in general, and feeling like everyone only wants to fuck can be demoralizing.
I want to say that a good person will come along and like you for you, not just your body. But I will be honest, physical attraction is a big part of relationships.
There’s a lot of pressure on teenagers to have sex. Media and society makes it seem like everyone is fucking all the time and you’re missing out if you’re not getting laid constantly. Sex can be an amazing experience. It can be emotionally and physically satisfying, it can also be boring and sometimes just not that great.
Sex is also big deal. It’s dangerous. Pregnancy, STDs, you know what all can happen. There’s nothing wrong with choosing not to have sex. There’s nothing wrong with choosing to have sex when you feel ready and safe.
Your boyfriends (and girlfriends) will want sex. Its natural. The good ones will understand you want to wait and respect that. If they don’t, then they aren’t worth dating. And that goes for all stages of life.
Don’t do anything you aren’t comfortable with. Don’t feel pressured to do anything. Most of these dudes will just move on anyway.
Don’t trust any guy who asks for sex or nudes when the relationship hasn’t lasted for longer than at least several months. Actually don’t trust any guy period who asks for nudes. That’s just creepy. Guys at that age and a few years younger or older are very horny and tend to see women as only objects. I’m a Christian and hold firmly to the idea of no sex before marriage so to me, it’s kind of a no brainer not to resort to doing stupid stuff like that, but in most relationships it’s generally unwise to do anything sexual until you’ve gotten to know the person very well.
As a former teenage boy, I can tell you: they’re idiots.
I was like this as well, and it wasn’t until I met my wife that I wanted to do better and be better for her, and we’re going on 9 years this year.
Words of advice to you: a lot of men are like this. There are also going to be sly ones that slip in and try to do more. Go at your own pace. Don’t give in to pressure from these boys, this will help weed them out. It’s not worth ruining your first time, but there’s no need to rush to get it out of the way.
Words can definitely have an impact, as when I talked to women, I knew exactly what they wanted to hear. They will use this against you, remember that actions speak louder than words.
You’re still very young. I remember at that age when I felt the same way. You’re still blossoming, and figuring yourself out. Give it time, and it comes. Those who dive into relationships just to have one rarely enjoy it. Remember to go slow and enjoy the little things, and HAVE FUN. You’ll be alright kid, especially when you’re out of presumably high school. It does get better, and the world will open up before you.
They are literally bursting at the seams with semen. Their dick gets hard if there’s a gentle breeze and even if there’s no breeze at all. Just looking at your body shape, or your smell, will be driving them CRAZY. They actually can’t really help how their body reacts, but they can control their behaviour (barely). Give it time.
Their social hierarchy at least partly values one’s ability to get chicks. Basically by hooking up/getting nudes they score points with the boys and elevate their social standing within the group.
Even if they WANT to date you, they might choose not to because of how it affects their groups view of them.
Source: was a teenage boy
I’ll be honest with you
>I’m jealous of people my age in happy relationships because where are they finding the good guys out there?
Chances are they may not have. It’s kinda hard to gauge that at times, and they may keep up appearances despite major issues.
>Like am I just a magnet for the bad ones??
I mean, if you’re single, and they’re interested, they’re gonna try. You’re a magnet for any of them; not just the bad ones. It says nothing about you as a person.
>They call me "boring" then I say no to them, it seems all they want is my body and not me
Yeah, people can be assholes. In particular emotionally immature and socially inept teenage boys.
>I want someone who wants me
As someone single as well, unfortunately I’ve little to offer on the matter outside of a "keep ur chin up" and good luck. Intimate relationships take time to find & forge.
I would otherwise answer you, but I don’t feel urge to having sex or something like that so I don’t know what others feeling. I am sometimes wondering "am I doing something wrong as I don’t have girlfriend yet or traded first kiss to someone. I think I shall cross paths with amazing woman to live together.
I wish you best of luck to lure best of the man from sea.
Stop ogling the football team then.
As a former teenage boy, it’s because they’re horny.
Unfortunate to say but itll be hard to find a romeo during this time in life. I wont tell you what to do, but you should really focus on school and personal development rather than relationships, especially knowing how guys can be at this age. The right one will come one day, but dont fold in and do stuff just to look cool, you lose yourself and thats all you really got at the end of the day
From what you’ve said they’re not the bad ones, just immature. Guys want sex, the simple truth of it is there is a machine called evolution that people like to conveniently forget about. Humans are animals and we are genetically programmed to reproduce and populate the earth just like any other animal. Boys of your age are just immature and lack the restraint that comes with age. Im sure some of them actually like you, but those things you’re seeing is just their immaturity. Best thing for you to do would be to explain to them how what they’re doing makes you feel and give them a chance to do better. As a person who has been a guy of that age at one time, we can be kinda dumb at times and a direct approach can usually lead to better results.
I’m confused, is this a troll or bait or karma farming? A previous post of yours says you’re 19, now you’re suddenly 17?
Highschool relationships almost never work out. Just don’t fret and know you’re young. Focus on yourself and level up so youre ready when the right guy comes along. Do it for you because you can always count on yourself.
Im just to scared of commitment lol. So I just stay single and role with the time
These are boys, just wait until you’re old enough to date men.
from the perspective of a teenage boy—yeah, we have stronger libidos. it’s even annoying for some of us. but that doesn’t mean that they should be disrespectful of you in that way. part of relationships is learning how to put your partner’s needs first (like not objectifying their body and bothering them for sex when they don’t want to). I think there’s just been a general trend of immaturity since ‘manosphere’ videos and ‘alpha male’ podcasts became popular among teenage boys. I’m sorry that’s happening to you, and yes, you obviously are in the right about this. It probably makes it seem like there’s no good men out there, but I hope you’re able to find someone, even in this sort of time.
It’s bad parenting. Their mother and father didn’t teach them to respect women. Its very much the "boys will be boys" cop out where women are just supposed to accept their male counterparts’ subhuman behavior. At 17, you’re better off focusing on your education and getting a part time job. Hang out with your friends. Go be yourself. You don’t need anything from a boy right now. They will waste whatever time you give them.
That is boys at any age it’s Way worse from 12-26 usually the more they age the less they care about that their hormones are crazy from those ages. Once those regulate though it’s alot better, but never goes away until they are alot older. They don’t realize the damage they can do sometimes when they are younger. They wisen up when they have wives and daughters many have alot of guilt they deal with from the damage they caused when they were younger. It’s all part of growing up for all boys if they have good parents they can help them navigate some and deal with the feelings they have regarding alot of this.
Unfortunately teenage boys are hormonal shits. Idk if something’s off with me or what, but sometimes I feel really uncomfortable with my friends acting like weirdos and there’s like… 2 guys I know who don’t do this. ‘Sex joke’ haha very funny, incredible, for the thousandth time stfu. It’s annoying. It genuinely creeps me out sometimes like wtf is happening.
Sounds like your either choosing bad guys or your reputation is secretly bad. I’m going with secretly bad rep since even the sweet boys are trying to pull. Perhaps someone is running a smear campaign on you without your knowledge. The not proper boyfriend perhaps. Is someone saying that your sexually active. Check your rep real quick.
oh, i remember, we were all the same. you told us what they want. now tell us: what do YOU want?
don’t date teenagers or even young men. wait till you’re 18 and get a older man trust me girl. gen z guys r horrible they won’t ever change.
I’ve never kissed a girl.
I’m 54 years old, divorced, and I have the exact same experience. Exact. Stay strong and true to yourself. You’ll find the right one when it’s the right time. And he’ll value you because you didn’t compromise yourself.
Teenage boys are horny. Borderline uncontrollably so. There’s a reason it’s a stereotype, testosterone is a hell of a drug. Even the sweet boys who genuinely like you will want sex from you. The people your age in happy relationships are either participating in sexual acts or the male partner wants to.
Wait till you get older and find a meaningful connection with someone. At your age it’s chaotic with the hormones.
DONT force things that are NOT right that young!! I was 28 (now 29) when I met my actual soulmate!!!
Iv gone on a TON of first, second and third dates but it usually wasn’t long before they showed their true colors enough for me to say take a long hike off a short pier 😆🤣
This man that I now have is so different and treats me like a queen but we are still on even ground and so many other thoughtful things!! The BEST part is that he just showed up on my door one day and neither one of us were looking at the time!! he was my cable guy when I moved to a new very small town haha
My point don’t rush into all that stuff just because they want it and you will know it’s worth giving it a shot when it’s the right time!! ✌️
It came in the handbook they gave us in 6thgrade named how to confuse women and be an absolute menace 101 a hand guide
Don’t be fooled by the “happy relationships” you perceive your peers to have. Sometime in their 20’s they’ll be like “oh my god, that was toxic and awful”
What about you wait 3-4 more years? Until everybody hormones stabilise? Not too many teenage lovers end up marrying just wait your turn patiently.
Sweetie let me tell you something. Boys are dumb and ruled by testosterone at your age. Girls are much more intelligent and socially capable at the same ages. I had 8 kids (5 bio, 3 foster) my girls were smart, considerate and capable of navigating other people’s feelings. My boys were dumb, self centere and egotistical. However the boys would go to the mat for their sisters everytime. Boys have big emotions they aren’t mature enough for so they do dumb shit. Don’t write them off, just keep your wits and remember you’re still young and the whole world is unfolding for you. Roll with it. You sound like you’re not only maturing but you’re intelligent. Set boundaries and don’t be wishy washy. Your feelings are important and must be respected. I make no bones about it if one of my boys misbehaved with a young lady he was safer in the French foreign legion than coming home to me. Go out in a group have fun and see what life has to offer by the time he is mature and capable of dealing with his feelings you will be miles ahead.
The reason is because most teenage boys you see out and about are the confident type, which also translates to the type of guys who found out they could get away with disregarding other people’s emotions.
There are a lot of genuinely good guys out there, but intelligence and emotional awareness often comes with a completely lack of self-confidence and social apprehension (psychologically speaking). You’ll have a hard time finding one of those in bars, clubs, and other “party” places like that (assuming that’s where you looked).
Good guys get horny too, they just dont be a weirdo about it.
Its highschool, its not a big deal if u dont date. Even if u did, statistically extremely unlikely yall will stay together. I only know one couple still together and its been 5 years and they started senior year.
In perspective, boys of similar age; at least I was at that time would look at couple in a happy relationship thinking there must be so much sex involved; which was the case considering how much snap of my friends getting it on I’ve received but everyone is different you don’t have to feel peer pressured into a relationship it will come at the right time. I’ve met a surgeon (late 20s) from my med school that never had had anyone in her life before me but everything else in her life was so much in order and organized I was darn jealous.
Brain not full yet
There are lots of scumbags in this world. Way too many. Don’t do things you don’t want to do. Wait until you find someone who you want to do them with. Don’t do something you would regret.
Because it is natural. The scent from women excites men/boys just like in animals. To not be excited would not be normal.
>I want someone who wants me for me, not my body
You should want someone that wants both.
Dating’s hard.
The hardest part is that the thing that is attracting people is your appearance; how can it be anything else, unless they’re long time friends?
You use that and cycle through the chaff. It sucks, but you got a lot of years ahead of you to find someone.
It’s entirely reasonable to never have kissed a boy at 17. There’s no rush.
I get it though; seeing people happily paired up while you’re alone is quite unpleasant.
https://www.reddit.com/r/AmIOverreacting/s/NrZmg5UtMc
>I’m jealous of people my age in happy relationships because where are they finding the good guys out there? Like am I just a magnet for the bad ones??
Teen boys aren’t bad for wanting sex; they’re on the highest levels of test they’ll get their whole lives. Its like trying to tell someone on high quality sedatives that them dozing off is a moral failing.
The thing that teen boys will stop to evaluate you as a person, and not a walking fleshlight, is a question on their attraction to you. Commitment is a big, scary word to men of all ages, so this would be the weed killer: do you think I’d be a decent mother?
Make it clear you’re not expecting to bear their child at all(you nor them may want them of course). You’re asking for an honest assessment, which is related to sex, of something more than just the act. How they think about your behaviors. If they lie, they’ll just agree, if they’re honest, they’ll mention something about your personality(beyond your parts). Meaning they’d commit to you.