I have met many straight couples where the woman is more liberal and the man is more conservative, but I rarely meet couples where the roles are the other way around. Why is this? I’m genuinely curious.
I have met many straight couples where the woman is more liberal and the man is more conservative, but I rarely meet couples where the roles are the other way around. Why is this? I’m genuinely curious.
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Conservative Women hate liberal Men, Liberal Women may say they don’t like conservative Men but conservative Men tend to hold certain values that women like for example with believing in more traditional roles for Men
Men trend towards more conservative and liberal women will be more wary about a conservative partner’s views of her bodily autonomy among other key values than liberal men have to be.
Conservative is beneficial to men not women
Because the women tend to be higher educated, MTG notwithstanding.
As a liberal man, what can a conservative woman offer me besides pre-conceived ideologies on what makes me a man? Also I prefer educated women and its pretty hard to find a conservative woman in stem
Because the traits women in general are attracted to, are vaguely associated with conservative men. Leadership, strong, stoic, family oriented.
Being conservative benefits men. Being liberal benefits women. If men really want to benefit women, they need to do more than provide cash and sperm.
I can elaborate if necessary.
Women don’t want bitch men.
It does happen. My aunt is much moreso than my Uncle. But you are right it’s rarer.
James Carville and Mary Matalin
Because cons tend to tell women what they can and can’t do.
Women are initially attracted to certain qualities that may present themselves more dominantly in conservative men (in general). It’s only until they really start dating that the problems arise. But even then, women love to think that they can fix people which is cute but typically the conservative men actually push the women further to the right in these relationships.
A lot of women I know tend to like bodily autonomy and rights and all that. Crazy I know.
That sounds miserable. I don’t want to listen to conspiracy theories as is. Can’t imagine going home and listening to that slop from someone I love.
I’m half of one of those couples.
It might be too straightforward of an answer: there’s more conservative men than conservative women.
Party affiliation of US voters by gender, orientation, marital status | Pew Research Center
I’m a liberal man and I just wouldn’t be with a conservative woman. I’d want someone closer to my beliefs.
This is America.. everyone’s got an opinion. So I’m sure this scenario plays out more than you think..
conservative men tend to be more masculine, which in general is more attractive to women.
Conservative women are very unnatractive
Men are more likely to be conservative but will date liberal women.
There are also more progressive women then conservative women.
Progressive women (today) are becoming less likely to want to date conservative men but prior to recent times, that wasn’t as much of an issue. Progressive women would date and marry conservative men.
Conservative women do not want to date progressive men, let alone marry them. Thats been a much longer term trend.
Progressive men also tend to not want to date conservative women either.
That said i’ve known several couples where the woman was more conservative. In a couple of them, the woman originally was the more progressive one and then went hardcore to the right (as in straight up MAGA).
When you do see a liberal man/conservative woman, it’s more likely the woman changed her views at some point.
Outside of that, its really rare and doesn’t work out to often if it does happen.
For a woman, a conservative man is a headache. Who wants a man who is convinced that you are inferior, or who is against paid maternity leave or social safety nets for women in tragic situations? Being a bit more conservative than your man is fine, because a liberal man will be a bit tolerant if you are different. However, conservative men are NOT tolerant towards liberal women!
Because men are less often negatively affected by the right wing policies and see them as positives that help them. See non-discrimanatory policies by the left as taking something away from them. Plus guns are often the only reason they vote or care.
I think you just have a small sample size. Contrary to what people on reddit think many partners share differing political views. Most people in the country do not define themselves by their politics like reddit does. And there are so many more important things needed to make a relationship and/or marriage work, politics is just not high on the list. I am an independent, sort of center right I suppose, but don’t fit neatly in the left right spectrum and have dated women to the right of me. Heck one of my girlfriends had considered becoming a nun at one point, I was a leftist by comparison. She would tell me of her beliefs and I respected her beliefs the same way I respected the views of those on the left. And honestly in almost all cases we did not spend a lot of time talking about it and it didn’t really affect the relationship. So many other more important things had to fall into place just for a relationship to happen and that is hard enough. Adding politics would make it darn near impossible to get anything off the ground. Relationships require compromise even if you share political ideology and politics is just another thing on the list of compromises. You may not be around people much who are religious. To say religious women are all looking for religious men is not really true. They would not have been with me if they were, and effectively they were dating someone to the left of them who was not religious. Hispanic women can also be quite religious and conservative, so if you look there you may tend to see more right leaning women with left leaning men for examples. I have never met a couple that was together because of their politics. They were together for other more important reasons and their politics just happened to be what there were. Including me dating someone who had considered being a nun lol.
Conservative policies do not benefit women.
Mine is more conservative than me for sure. she grew up in Chile and moved to Canada as an adult. Experienced a dictatorship and even though the country has changed more democratically, still doesn’t have a constitution they can agree on (although they tried). I think she sees a lot of left foundations as weak and not relevant to a growing economy. She is still amazed the benefits people get, but is learning that in Canada you actually have less rights as a worker than where she from, however, the drop is a lot farther for unemployed there than it is in Canada.
I’m defiantly more liberal than my ver conservative wife.
Conservative women in my experience are really toxic. They enforce more toxic masculinity rhetoric than men imo. Why would I be with a woman who will complain that I’m a lesser man because I didn’t get out of the car to pump her gas or take out her trash on the first date (this actually happened).
Because conservative women find liberal men repulsive
Lot of it is driven by tv, movies, music, news, etc. Without realizing it, you’re indoctrinated gradually.
Generally, women want to take on things that were historically masculine, but men don’t want to take on things that were historically feminine.
This phenomenon is only prevalent in first world countries. In the struggling world, things are done for survival instead of what someone “wants” to do.
Because you are not seeing enough people on which the women comes from a wealthy family
That said, yeah, it is more likely with men
If you think conservatives household means women stay at home cook for their husbands, All those conservative women who got careers outside their husbands’ career are married to liberal men (at some degree), yeah that includes Paula White, the white hose faith officer, her husband let her chose what she wanted to do in her career, is that liberalism?
My wife leans more socially conservative than I do. My ex partner was likewise.
I would consider myself a classical liberal (as opposed to the US bastardisation of the term) and left of center in terms of economics.
We tend to vote for similar parties though. And we are consumer in our voting, depending upon the election and the manifestos; we are not dyed in the wool anything, although there are parties we are highly unlikely to vote for.
I like your theories. I’d like to propose another idea. That conservative women are the way they are because…they choose to be, with full knowledge.
It’s not like conservative means bad or anything. Just different.
Conservative women tend to be attracted to conservative men.
My (M27) girlfriend (F27) is significantly more conservative than I am. I think part of it is just due to our personalities. We are both lightly on the autism spectrum, but my girlfriend is more on the logical, dutiful, orderly side of things while I tend to be more emotionally sensitive, curious, and chaotic. Many of my personality traits are considered “feminine,” while many of hers are considered “masculine” because they have generally been observed more among women and men, respectively. It is not hard to see how our personality traits bleed into politics.
At the risk of oversimplifying, conservatism tends to line up more with ideas of what a man “should” be, and liberalism tends to go against it. A lot of women say they want “manly” men. That often means conservative.
I’m not saying conservative men are necessarily more manly, I’m saying that’s what a lot of people THINK is manly.
Conservative women don’t typically find liberal men attractive.
James Carville and his wife is the most obvious one that I know of.
People are answering this from an American view. Im Dutch and even in the more conservative politics gay marriage and abortion arent even a talking points anymore. Being conservative is more than just being republican or democrat. Some values are probably more visible to outsiders even though someone might be more conservative on other aspects in life
I always assumed it was because conservatives are more pragmatic or heartless and liberalism is quite idealistic
There’s more conservative men and more progressive women, so liberal men and conservative women have WAY more options. They don’t have to settle for someone they don’t align with.
Did you mean California?
Conservatism contains patriarchal sexism. Women are less likely to be conservative because the conservative ideology is built at least partially around restricting their rights.
conservative positions tend to be unfavorable to women in general.
As a single liberal (not progressive) man in his late 40’s, conservative women love hooking up with me. I am a hell of a good time in my conservative county for the conservative ladies because I’m good in bed, passionate, considerate, and respectful.
But they will never openly date me or have a relationship with me because their families and fellow conservative friends would not approve—the women can only bring home another conservative man, or a centrist man who’s very successful.
I find this bemusing, because there are loads of single lonely conservative men where I live. The single conservative men and women all patronize the same bars and clubs and run in the same circles. But those women won’t date those men—if they do, there’s almost always a very awful breakup afterward. And so many single conservative women here are divorced from conservative men.
The conservative women will end up openly dating and marrying centrist men, or they’ll stay single. The conservative men will usually end up lying about their political positions to snare liberal and centrist women… and then get them pregnant or try and move on asap, and then an inevitable catastrophic break-up follows. These men inevitably find themselves in the red-pill/MRA/MGTOW pipeline; and let me be clear on this: no one despises this pipeline more than conservative cishet women. They may say polite things in public because they don’t want to undermine men—but in private, they are unrivaled in their contempt of any man who jumps onto the Tate train.
The exceptions I’ve seen to this are where the man openly embraces gender/sexual equality and treats his partner as an equal. They can be traditional “different yoke”/gender conforming, but they treat the women in their lives with authentic respect, dignity, and equality.
Otherwise, it’s because the majority of the single conservative men tend to treat the women in their lives as inferior, and want to take control and make decisions for them. And the one thing that will make just about every conservative woman reach for hedge clippers and a divorce lawyer is a man actively trying to suborn their ability to make their own decisions.
The conservative men that can come to this realization and do the work to change their mindset and treat the women in their lives as actual equals end with fantastically successful marriages that has lots of love and joy.
Not sure why, but that is generally the case. I am in marriage (20+ years) where my wife is pretty conservative and I am very liberal. It wasn’t always that way, but she very much needed to feel aligned with her MAGA sisters. It is a real strain on a marriage regardless of which person is conservative
A lot of men, particularly conservative men, think they can change/mold their partners beliefs – if not just coerce them later. In fact a lot of times they prefer this. For example, thinking that someone who genuinely wants to be a SAHM is just a gold digger. So they’d rather go with someone who will 50/50 and then try to change their minds after having kids.
Most women don’t have that same mindset, except maybe for specific things.
Every couple I know with a conservative woman and more liberal man got together in high school but then the man became more conservative after time to match the woman.
Because a conservative woman dating a liberal man would mean regularly challenging her worldview while a liberal woman dating a conservative man often ends up being his political awakening… or his last girlfriend
Because being conservative serves men more than women.
Because the sex would be terrible for both parties involved.
My dad, very liberal, was married to a Rush Limbaugh-listening conservative
It’s fairly common. My wife was raised in a fairly strict, Bible thumping household. I was raised in a much more liberal household AND I was the last child with much older siblings. My parents had a much more hands off approach to parenting and exposed me to more worldly experiences (good stuff like international travel, wine appreciation, classic literature) at a fairly young age.
She saw how hypocritical her “Christian” family values were and realized fairly early that it is mostly a facade. I came along and moderated her conservatism a bit.
Women are guilt tripped or peer pressured to compromise so that men at least get laid. Men’s desires are prioritized more than women’s sadly which is also what leads to the phenomenon of conservatism being more common in men. Men are socialized to prioritize their interests/desires over women’s comfort or freedom, especially if doing so provides them with access to women. Women are expected to be of access regardless of their needs or desires and socialized to be accessible at the cost of their comfort.
Hate to put it that way but this is what it is. This is also why part of the “male loneliness epidemic” proposes women lowering their “standards” (morality, happiness, or freedom) to provide men with sexual and romantic opportunities regardless of whether their quality of life is improved by entertaining said men. We’re taught that our comfort doesn’t really matter as men are willing to take action to force access to us like reducing our humanity/freedom rather than they do the work to make themselves desirable. Conservatism ensures nothing changes in terms of the effort they put to access women. Keeping things the same means that in women not having as much freedom men have higher chances of accessing as many of us.
Conservative women don’t want soyboy liberals with no backbone. That’s the real answer nobody wants to hear.
Thats not my experience.
This is exactly the scenario with me and my husband. 😂 He’s much more left-leaning than I am, politically. I don’t know why it’s not more common.
I was in such a relationship, it ended when she went full Qanon and said she’d never touch me again if I got the COVID vaccine.
you will never get a realistic neutral answer to this question on reddit, which has a severe liberal/progressive slant.
Conservative women want real men… it’s not complicated lol.
I can honestly say that my wife is more conservative than me.
But that’s because she’s just a general leftist, while I am a marxist.
Ummm because the GOP doesn’t understand that being pro-choice infringes on the rights of women (actual citizens not hypothetical future ones) and it’s not a larger discrepancy because the libs haven’t figured out how to frame it to men as the government telling you you can’t have a vasectomy…
Women are naturally liberal and because of that they tend to lean whichever direction their man is once in a relationship
This is actually my relationship. We’ve been together for almost 14 years and have 2 kids.
Her family (like most families in rural uneducated America) are conservative. So she grew up conservative.
My family is mixed and mostly not very political. We all vote but nobody in my family would ever have a politicians merch on our selves or property. I’ve been left leaning my whole life.
When we met she was my boss at a pizza restaurant where I rolled the dough. Later after we both had left that restaurant we started dating.
We do argue, it can be frustrating but neither of us let’s politics dominate our life.
It also helps that even though she is right wing, she is not MAGA.
Because conservative ideologies tend to be rooted in old traditional values and that includes the role of women. Anti-abortion is a good example.
So there is a lot of misconceptions of actual conservatives. Most dont believe women are instantly inferior or even believe in most of what “mainsteam” people say they believe in. But I can tell you many more men are conservatives in more recent times considering liberal spaces have aoend the last decade completely demonizing men as a whole
The oppressed or disenfranchised populations are often more liberal bc they have to take up arms and voices to fight for fair and equitable opportunities. In other words, bc most societies are patriarchal and continue to give more power to men, they don’t have to liberate a thing.
Probably doesn’t help that there seems to be some interplay between what each sex/gender finds attractive in the opposite one (in general) and the commonalities between people with a given political leaning.
tl;dr most girls like confident/dominant guys and liberal guys are/come off softer.
My mom has always been more conservative than my dad. 🤷♀️
I’m not even that heavily conservative, but I don’t think I’d be happy in a relationship with a liberal man. The last thing I need when venting after a long day of work is someone nitpicking my word choices. Basically I need someone even less PC than myself to feel truly comfortable with him.
Conservative women despise most of liberal man.
Because in my opinion women show more shitty personalities at an IQ below 90. While the more aggressive hormonal nature of men make them generally suck at below 110.
Liberal men are gay