My husband has the most beautiful heart. He’s kind, honest, and morally grounded. He always says he’s not much to look at, but to me, he’s beautiful inside and out.
No matter how little he had, he’s always given to others. If someone was in need a friend, a stranger, a cause he’d give something.
Being with him changed me. I grew up in a violent household with an abusive father, and I didn’t really understand what love, respect, or emotional safety felt like until I met him. He taught me what a real human relationship should be. In many ways, he became the father figure and emotional anchor I never had. With him, I’ve learned how to grow, how to trust, how to feel safe.
We’ve been married for 5 years and have two little ones under 3. Both of us had tough childhoods. He grew up without much, raised by a single mother with an absent father. Despite it all, he studied hard, became a professional, and always stayed true to his values. He never let his struggles make him bitter.
But life keeps knocking him down.
Years ago, he worked for someone who promised to sell him the business when he retired. My husband poured his heart into that workplace, believing he’d eventually be the owner. His father also promised to help him financially with the purchase. In the end, his boss sold the business behind his back to someone else, and his dad didn’t give him a cent.
Later, when we got engaged, my abusive father pressured him into starting a business and promised to fund it. My husband didn’t want to, but went along just so we could get married. Of course, my father never gave him the money. We were left to fend for ourselves and tried to make it work. Eventually, we decided to sell and move on.
But then the lease became another nightmare. It has a demolition clause that scared away potential buyers. We asked the landlord to remove it, but now he is demanding $40,000, fully knowing we are in a desperate situation. He is a multi-millionaire with multiple commercial and residential properties. Meanwhile, we’re just getting by, living day to day.
Everyone is calling this landlord a disgusting person. But my husband being the man he is said, “Maybe he needs it more than we do. Let’s just give it to him and be done with it.” That’s who he is. We are taking out a loan and scraping everything together just to pay this man off so we could move forward. The greed and injustice are soul-crushing.
And then, before we could even catch our breath, his sister was diagnosed with a life-altering autoimmune disease. It’s something she’ll live with forever. It hit our family hard.
And now… now my husband might be seriously ill too. Possibly cancer. I can’t even begin to process it. He has already endured so much. He’s such a good man truly, deeply good. He never complains. He never stops loving, giving, trying.
But for the first time, I can see it’s getting to him. This man who always had hope, who kept pushing forward no matter what he’s starting to lose that spark. It’s breaking him down, slowly. And watching that happen is breaking me.
I don’t understand why life is doing this to him. It’s like he’s being punished for being too good in a world that rewards cruelty and selfishness. And I’m breaking. I’m trying to be strong for our kids, for him but I feel so hopeless. I don’t think I can live without my husband all my life its been struggle after struggle and now Iam at my limit…. I dont think I will be here soon. Iam planning to exit life… just want it all to end
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It is true. Unfortunate, unwanted, but true. It is sad.
Was the reason why I change my personality and wanted to do hurt and stopped helping people as much. I think there is not right or wrong, if we justified now, it may seem bad, who knows there is an afterlife. Really, who knows.
I’m also that “good guy” and I’m honestly tired of getting screwed over. I’m just done. I wish I had some way to help you, all I can say is life is more about your perception of what happens than what actually happens