I have heard about this penpale thing before. I know it isn’t a catfish issue because he graduated from the same school as me and it is really obviously real. But he got my number on hinge and texted me for over two weeks. He was engaging, sweet, playful, responsive not short. He hintd at dates and taking me to places we talked about and I would respond by saying “that would be fun id love that”.
I get messaging someone you are not that into for a day or two. but what is the reason for the penpale thing. i don’t get how they stay engaged for so long without pursuing or feeling awk texting someone they do not know
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Think it just may be perspective. Some people take things slower, he could just be bad at making the first move or rubbish at committing to things. You’ll only know if you get to know him, if it doesn’t work out that’s okay, that’s what dating is about sometimes.
If you’re interested, as much as you may want him to do it, say ‘are you free next Thursday at 7? There is a pub near me if you fancied a getting a drink together?’.
Granted there will be some people that are time wasters but I would imagine most people on there are generally truthful in what they are looking for.