I’ve noticed that whenever I meet new people, I’m usually the one who has to initiate the first conversation, and even when I see them again, I still feel like I’m the one who has to keep things going. What’s confusing is that during conversations, their body language seems warm and engaged — like they’re enjoying it. But they rarely, if ever, initiate interaction on their own.
It makes me wonder:
- Do others experience this too?
- Do you keep initiating despite this, thinking it helps with confidence or gives you a sense of control over your social life?
- Or do you step back and think, “If they really wanted to talk, they’d come to me”?
Comments
because men have to initiate always, it’s our rule.
I experience this too
I keep doing it because I know if I don’t make the first move then I’ll regret it
I think that most of the time to be completely honest
Because you do. Who has to put initiative effort into social engagements is an indicator of status, and you’re young and lack status. It will improve the more you invest in it.
Most people are on the timid side