For some context I (22F) have been in some terrible relationships. I developed a really anxious attachment style which only made them worse, and leaving them were some of the hardest things I’ve ever done. Those were a few years ago, and I’ve spent that time learning how to enjoy being single and how to enjoy casual relationships.
That takes me to now, where I just started a new relationship. I have been into my friend (22M) for several years and I finally decided to tell him how I felt. He reciprocated those feelings and we decided to give it a go. Pretty much the next day I started feeling uninterested.
When I say I have liked him for years, I mean my friends refer to him as the guy I’m in love with. But now it’s like I feel no spark. It also confuses things that we are in a friend group together.
I don’t know what’s wrong with me and I don’t know how to handle this. I’m wondering if anyone has felt anything similar and has any advice… I don’t want to end it but I’m not sure what to do. (Also I am in therapy and I am looking forward to discussing with my therapist)
TLDR: As soon as feelings are reciprocated with my friend I was crushing on, I became uninterested.
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Look up avoidant attachment