I (23F) have been in a relationship with (24M) Brad, for about a year and half. Everything is great. Like gross why are you so in love and happy. EXCEPT for when I seemingly get annoyed at quite literally everything. Oh why did he word something that way. Or just so quick to react and get upset about literally nothing that should be. I feel so horrible. He tries so hard and genuinely loves me and tries to help me when I’m upset about something. I just literally don’t know what’s wrong with me. I get annoyed and then it’s so hard for me to just snap out of it and move on. I don’t understand why I get set off. Any advice or if anyone has gone through something similar is greatly appreciated
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Backup of the post’s body: I (23F) have been in a relationship with (24M) Brad, for about a year and half. Everything is great. Like gross why are you so in love and happy. EXCEPT for when I seemingly get annoyed at quite literally everything. Oh why did he word something that way. Or just so quick to react and get upset about literally nothing that should be. I feel so horrible. He tries so hard and genuinely loves me and tries to help me when I’m upset about something. I just literally don’t know what’s wrong with me. I get annoyed and then it’s so hard for me to just snap out of it and move on. I don’t understand why I get set off. Any advice or if anyone has gone through something similar is greatly appreciated
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How’s the rest of your life? Letting shit slide at work and stressed about it? Getting enough sleep. Eating well and exercising?
A lot of times when we’re not taking care of ourselves or our obligations and we feel tired, shitty or stressed we take it out on those we can because it’s “safe” to do so.
I always took my sons in the mornings so my wife could sleep in (because she took the late night). They would be having a blast with me, playing and having a great time but when they heard mom’s footsteps on the stairs they would dissolve into tears or need to be held because while I was fun, I was less touchy feely than my wife. She was their safe space to let out their grievances.
And when you establish that habit it becomes a crutch you lean on instead of improving yourself.
Just one possibility. If it doesn’t apply to you ignore it. But treat your dude better.
Honestly this happens to me when I spend too much time with someone. Do you guys live together/ spend all your time together? Maybe some separate activities would help or just going out together but doing thing you don’t usually to have some excitement and new experiences.
Also might be petit to run a vitamin blood panel or similar because some deficiencies can cause temper and mood issues I think (but that might not be full proof and just smth that was told to me also).
This sounds very much like how overstimulation works for me, or maybe something like pathological demand avoidance or oppositional defiance disorder (though this one seems much less likely to me). As someone who experiences both of these things (shoutout to my ADHD community brethren) it sounds like he might just be doing something tiny that is just the straw that breaks the camel’s back. Do these outbursts tend to happen when you’re interrupted while you’re doing something? Are they happening toward the end of the day, or when you’re tired? Or is he asking you for/to do something? Circumstances can clarify the answers for you a little, so if you can track when these outbursts tend to happen, you may be able to identify your triggers, and try to work with/around them.