Why do I hate dudes only when I’m not around them?

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Literally I’m F/37 totally OK with dudes and even want to make friends with all of them when I see them in public just being normal human beings. When I’m home, away from men, alone, just thinking about all the things boyfriends have done to me in the past, I’m mad as hell and I hate them, but only when I’m away from them and just in my thoughts. What does this mean? xx chromosome only attracted to xy chromosome. Dudes I look at are usually M/38 or older. I also break up with them after 3 or 4 months because of how awful they talk to me when they (I guess) get comfortable.

Comments

  1. grenharo Avatar

    it’s just bitterness from old experiences, some probably unhealed or unresolved lil traumas built up over time into a mountain

  2. Critical_Dream2906 Avatar

    It sounds like you have an eye for assholes so when you are alone with your thoughts you project those negative thoughts onto other men. I also think that with so much “man hating” out there on social media it’s easy to get sucked into the negativity, the “all men suck” mentality.

    I’m married so I don’t date but I’ve met some great guys in my line of work who are single, so they are out there. Gotta kiss a couple more frogs to find a prince as they say.

  3. Fantasy_r3ad3er_XX Avatar

    You sound mentally ill? Maybe some form of treatment could help. Imagine I guy saying this and not thinking they are a full blown incel.