Why do I like older men?

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I don’t have daddy issues and I haven’t had any terrible experiences with guys my age, but I’m still not as attracted to them as I am to older (10+ year age gap) men. If any psychologist can provide an explanation, I’d appreciate that—I’ve been judged (playfully and otherwise) by my peers far too often, so understanding why I prefer older men might help me explain to them.

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  1. honeygoldenbunny Avatar

    I have the same question… never understood this about myself.

  2. WhimsicalSadist Avatar

    How old was your father, when you were around 13?

  3. UpSchittsCreek_ Avatar

    Typically people seek safety and mutual respect in relationships. Women often mature faster than men which often leads to more emotional maturity at a younger age, that men at that same age don’t posses.

    I’m not sure if this is why you are into older men, but this is one, small possibility.

  4. Quiet-Duck3438 Avatar

    You probably find maturity attractive, it’s not that abnormal.

  5. Joandrade13 Avatar

    Because it’s just a preference you don’t need trauma to like older men lmao

  6. MintyRed19 Avatar

    its just a sexual preference, its kind of like how people don’t really choose to be gay they just are. Or how people have kinks or fetishes for no particular reason, they just have them.

  7. Bubbly_Ad6421 Avatar

    It’s simple. You want daddy dick.

  8. limpymcjointpain Avatar

    How old are you?
    I’m not a psychologist, but chances are you just don’t like man babies.

  9. moffman93 Avatar

    Being attracted to older men is biologically normal in the same way men are more attracted to younger women. 1 for security and a provider, the other for procreation (younger women have more fertile years). It doesn’t mean you necessarily want or need those things, but it’s ingrained in our DNA as mammals to be attracted to those traits.

  10. FraserValleyGuy77 Avatar

    A ten year age gap is normal in most of the world. It’s only an issue in the western world, and especially on Reddit

  11. NoGoat6536 Avatar

    Because you like men not boys. You’re tired of the showboating. Men don’t peacock like boys because men have confidence, maturity, experience.

    You have a secret or unknown fetish to be a sub to a confident man who knows how to be a dom rather than a boy who claims to be a dom but has no real idea that that means to a woman.

    Could be any one of those reasons.

  12. RandomAmbles Avatar

    I am not a psychologist, but I suspect the reason is evolutionary. Older men were very rare in the ancestral environment. Getting to an advanced age meant that you were well adapted to your environment and so had high evolutionary fitness. This indicates good genes, which could be passed on to one’s offspring — keeping a mother’s genes around in a body likely to survive and reproduce.

    This, however, is just a guess — it would be difficult to test this experimentally to get rigorous results.

  13. HookerHenry Avatar

    Because they’re rich.

  14. mango_map Avatar

    I’ve wondered this only younger. I’m only attracted to guys under 30

  15. blondedolli Avatar

    u just prefer older men there’s nothing to it

  16. stevebradss Avatar

    I don’t know why. But I like it. 59m

  17. PhilzeeTheElder Avatar

    Older men typically know more about Rocks and Naval battles, you really can’t help yourself.

  18. Dr_Dickfart Avatar

    Because older men tend to have more money/assets

  19. mustang6172 Avatar

    There’s no accounting for taste.

  20. Aggravating-Corgi700 Avatar

    Bill Belichick old or just older?

  21. generic-usernme Avatar

    Same honestly, my husband is quite a bit older than me and I was just straight up never interested in dudes my age. My dad is amazing, no bad experiences just not my thing. My only guess is because I have a bunch of older sisters so I was often around their friends. One of which became my husband lol

  22. nipslippinjizzsippin Avatar

    Cause were hot, distinguished and mature

  23. MysteriousWish5106 Avatar

    Bc they’re sexy as hell 😍