I don’t have daddy issues and I haven’t had any terrible experiences with guys my age, but I’m still not as attracted to them as I am to older (10+ year age gap) men. If any psychologist can provide an explanation, I’d appreciate that—I’ve been judged (playfully and otherwise) by my peers far too often, so understanding why I prefer older men might help me explain to them.
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I have the same question… never understood this about myself.
How old was your father, when you were around 13?
Typically people seek safety and mutual respect in relationships. Women often mature faster than men which often leads to more emotional maturity at a younger age, that men at that same age don’t posses.
I’m not sure if this is why you are into older men, but this is one, small possibility.
You probably find maturity attractive, it’s not that abnormal.
Because it’s just a preference you don’t need trauma to like older men lmao
its just a sexual preference, its kind of like how people don’t really choose to be gay they just are. Or how people have kinks or fetishes for no particular reason, they just have them.
It’s simple. You want daddy dick.
How old are you?
I’m not a psychologist, but chances are you just don’t like man babies.
Being attracted to older men is biologically normal in the same way men are more attracted to younger women. 1 for security and a provider, the other for procreation (younger women have more fertile years). It doesn’t mean you necessarily want or need those things, but it’s ingrained in our DNA as mammals to be attracted to those traits.
A ten year age gap is normal in most of the world. It’s only an issue in the western world, and especially on Reddit
Because you like men not boys. You’re tired of the showboating. Men don’t peacock like boys because men have confidence, maturity, experience.
You have a secret or unknown fetish to be a sub to a confident man who knows how to be a dom rather than a boy who claims to be a dom but has no real idea that that means to a woman.
Could be any one of those reasons.
I am not a psychologist, but I suspect the reason is evolutionary. Older men were very rare in the ancestral environment. Getting to an advanced age meant that you were well adapted to your environment and so had high evolutionary fitness. This indicates good genes, which could be passed on to one’s offspring — keeping a mother’s genes around in a body likely to survive and reproduce.
This, however, is just a guess — it would be difficult to test this experimentally to get rigorous results.
Because they’re rich.
I’ve wondered this only younger. I’m only attracted to guys under 30
u just prefer older men there’s nothing to it
I don’t know why. But I like it. 59m
Older men typically know more about Rocks and Naval battles, you really can’t help yourself.
Because older men tend to have more money/assets
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There’s no accounting for taste.
Bill Belichick old or just older?
Same honestly, my husband is quite a bit older than me and I was just straight up never interested in dudes my age. My dad is amazing, no bad experiences just not my thing. My only guess is because I have a bunch of older sisters so I was often around their friends. One of which became my husband lol
Cause were hot, distinguished and mature
Bc they’re sexy as hell 😍