tl;dr: can guys and girls be friends??!??!?
This is kind of a more general question but I am a big believer that guys can obviously be friends with girls with no sexual connotation (and obviously I have friends like this). However, I notice that whenever I have an attractive friend near my age bracket, I always begin to slowly start to see myself with them romantically…..
Obviously this is normal as a straight guy, but I don’t want to ruin any friendships and then not have any female friendships which I really value?! I’m kind of at an impasse as to how I feel about this issue as a whole vs personally on an individual level.
Some of my friends say that I shouldn’t forgo a potential wife over a friendship but….. idk
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I think it’s possible to maintain a friendship if you find somebody attractive. I don’t think it’s possible to have a good and painless friendship if you catched feelings though
Make uglier friends???
But on a real note finding someone attractive isn’t a bad thing. I had a crush on my best friend at first, never acted on it and now I’m over it. Still love her as a friend but nothing more.
That’s just what being single does to you, my dude.
Do your friends have traits, compatibility and similar values to you? If you would make a good relationship I could definitely see how youd get a crush on them
If they have behaviours, lifestyles, values etc that are dealbreakers to you it would probably be easier to view them as friends only. For example if ylu disagree on wanting kids, living in rural vs a city, difference in partying etc.